Welcome to Tuesday Tips, my weekly haul of lessons learned from life’s ups and downs. My current life strategy is to live in dreamland (also known as subjective reality). Wouldn’t it be nice to end each day feeling like you just had a good dream? Here are some ways to keep your head in the clouds.
1. Grab the new edition of Doing Thinking Feeling Being!
Doing Thinking Feeling Being is a curated book of Tuesday Tips, organized and polished for quick reference. Kelly and I just released the second edition, which has a beautiful new cover and design. You can order a physical copy from Lulu for $15 or download a PDF for $12. (Or! Become a School of Life Design subscriber for $9/month and get access to ALL the SoLD worksheets and eBooks.)
2. Do some digital drugs.
Do you like drugs? Yeah, well me too. But I know I only like drugs because I like feeling good. Lately I’ve been looking at my worksheets as digital drugs–and these drugs don’t have a comedown or negative side effects. Each worksheet boosts your mood and releases good-feeling brain chemicals just like your favorite illicit substance. Spark it up!
3. Curate social media like music.
I was appreciating Kelly’s taste in people she follows on Twitter. Finding a good account that is both a real person AND funny is a challenge, but no more challenging than scouring Soundcloud for a new jam. You wouldn’t listen to just any garbage, so treat your social media feeds like a playlist. Be a good DJ to your mind and cut the crappy updates out.
4. What would you want them to think you’re thinking?
Say you have a crush on someone. You might spend a lot of time thinking about them. But would you want them to know that? To become a match to your crush, think the thoughts you would want them to see you thinking. When I asked Kelly what she would want her crush to see her thinking, she said, “I don’t give a fuck.” ‘Nough said.
5. Think highly of yourself.
If you have a confused vibration about abundance, ask yourself if it’s because you think you don’t deserve certain things. When thinking about money, relationships, or health, try using “I deserve…” as a mantra. “I deserve perfect health. I deserve $3000. I deserve to be loved.” You do!
6. Play life like tennis.
Imagine your life is a tennis game. Each moment is an opportunity for you to hit the ball, or wait for it to be hit back to you. When you’ve made your volley, walk away and let the ball come back. You can’t keep hitting a ball if it hasn’t been hit back. The tennis metaphor works particularly well in relationships. Have a great conversation with someone? Now walk away and let them hit the ball back. Just sent a funny text? Put your phone down, turn the ringer off and get distracted with something else. Instead of over-thinking communication, let your every contribution be a “play,” created in the spur of the moment. Miss a shot? There’s always another ball coming your way. Love all!
7. Thank your body.
Sometimes when we’re stretching after a group fitness class, the instructors remind us to thank our bodies. As someone who has lived almost entirely in my mind my whole life, the idea of thanking my body (let alone, liking it!) was foreign at first. But your body responds to the way you think and act towards it. Give your body love and it will thrive.
8. Give yourself some DIY dream therapy.
Paying attention to your dreams can give you insight on your emotional state. What are the common themes in your dreams? Are you often being chased, or driving a car without brakes? These dreams can indicate patterns in your waking life. Shine the light of your awareness on your little hangups and they’ll dissolve over time.
9. Dream about love.
Approaching my waking life as if I’m in a lucid dream is a useful mental framework because it helps me take life less seriously, stretch my beliefs, feel more confident and be more engaged with the present moment. Saying “I’m dreaming I love you” to whatever my attention rests on helps me project a vibration of love quickly. Imagine looking at a shower head and thinking, “I’m dreaming I love you.” Instantly, my mind anthropomorphizes the shower head and it becomes my friend. In dreams, you can love weird things. You can have weird sex dreams that change your relationships forever. Anything can happen. Combine that mindset with a little intentional love and reality gets that much sweeter.
We’re all dreaming we love you over at the School of Life Design Facebook group, where you can meet other dreamers and collect warm fuzzies. We’d love to have you!
Grateful to be awake and alive! Grateful for a new day! Grateful to be here. Grateful to feel the flow. Grateful to feel rested and energized.
Grateful Kelly made the bed! Grateful for hot coffee and kale smoothies. Grateful for my cute outfit. Grateful to be here.
Grateful for my health. Grateful for my kitties. Grateful to be warm.
Grateful for my education. Grateful for my life experience. Grateful to feel good about life.
Grateful to be here now. Grateful to be in the right place at the right time. Grateful to feel focused and excited.
Grateful to know nothing matters. Grateful nothing is serious. Grateful for Linty on my lap.
Grateful to be doing the work. Grateful to feel prepared. Grateful to feel good!
Grateful for my parents. Grateful for Kelly. Grateful to have so many wonderful people in my life.
Grateful it’s sunny today! Grateful to be up early! Grateful for good music. Grateful for positive feedback.
Grateful for money for groceries. Grateful I know it’s all working out for everyone. Grateful to feel in control of my vibration.
Grateful to trust the flow. Grateful to have tips to write. Grateful to be taking care of my mood. Grateful I know my mood is my only work.
Grateful for new beginnings. Grateful to feel at ease. Grateful to be at peace with what is. Grateful to have plenty of time.
Grateful to be the creator of time. Grateful to know who I am. Grateful to be where I am. Grateful for warm lap kitty!
Wouldn’t it be nice to have the best day of my life? Wouldn’t it be nice to have a fantastic interview? Wouldn’t it be nice to go with the flow? Wouldn’t it be nice to trust the process?
Wouldn’t it be nice to remember I’m dreaming, and to just breathe? Wouldn’t it be nice to lighten up? Wouldn’t it be nice to let go?
Wouldn’t it be nice to make my best work? Wouldn’t it be nice to feel super confident? Wouldn’t it be nice to let it come to me?
Wouldn’t it be nice to trust the flow? Wouldn’t it be nice to get all the things we need for the show today?
Wouldn’t it be nice to see Stan? Wouldn’t it be nice to play? Wouldn’t it be nice to read? Wouldn’t it be nice to go thrift shopping? Wouldn’t it be nice to let it unfold?
Wouldn’t it be nice to feel the best I’ve ever felt? Wouldn’t it be nice to feel welcomed? Wouldn’t it be nice to feel appreciated?
Wouldn’t it be nice to not give a fuck? Wouldn’t it be nice to have fun? Wouldn’t it be nice to be my own reason for feeling good? Wouldn’t it be nice to be fun?
Wouldn’t it be nice to get new shoes? Wouldn’t it be nice to make peace? Wouldn’t it be nice to let go?
I love it when I feel good. I love it when I do the work. I love it when I manage my thoughts and my mood. I love it when I think about what I want. I love it when Linty sleeps on my lap!
I love it when I have new opportunities. I love it when I feel excited. I love it when I get a new hobby. I love it when I’m interested in something new.
I love it when I notice synchronicity. I love it when I feel uplifted. I love it when I feel inspired.
I love it when I do the work to feel good. I love it when I choose to be my reason for feeling good. I love it when I have external motivation. I love it when pressure creates results.
I love it when I feel healthy and fit! I love it when I feel in control of my life. I love it when I let go of needing control. I love it when I choose to control by letting go.
I Love it when I focus on feeling good. I love it when I train my attention. I love it when I feel intelligent and articulate. I Love it when I speak eloquently. I love it when I make good work.
I love it when I explore new territory. I love it when I feel adventurous. I love it when I DON’T GIVE A FUCK!
I love it when I let go. I love it when I trust the flow. I love it when I get excited. I love it when I switch to the version of reality that I prefer. I love it when I feel powerful and focused.
I love it when I am at peace with myself. I love it when I am at peace with what is.
What do you want?
To feel totally obsessed with my own work. To feel exhilarated and interested. To be lucid in the dream.
Life is on your side. You can smile and breathe now. Just breathe in and raise your vibration!
Breathe out and release your resistance!
Life is giving you everything you want, right now. Life is taking care of you, right now. Life is living you right now!
Let the flow through. Let the flow do the talking. Trust in yourself. Believe in yourself. Life is on your side. Life wants you to thrive. Life is thriving through you right now.
Let the flow take care of everything. Let it unfold. Empty your mind and trust. Trust that you will have the right thing to say. Trust that you will have the right questions. Trust that this is all a gift, just for you.
Believe in yourself and your work. You are a miracle! You are doing everything right! Relax and be at peace. Remember you’re dreaming. Remembering that it’s all good and everything is love. Remember that you control by letting go.
This is your time. This is your gift. This life is your stage. Just relax and enjoy it! Life is taking care of you. Life is giving you everything you want.
A few weeks ago, Kelly told me she wanted to write a story about growing teeth back. “Neat. But… whatever,” I thought. I didn’t believe in no stinkin’ teeth growing back. But wouldn’t it be nice?
A few days later she stumbled across an article linking tooth regeneration to nutrition. It might not have been the most reputable source, but holy crap! Tooth regeneration!
Then a couple days ago I discovered the idea of “oil pulling,” where you swish coconut oil around in your mouth for 20 minutes a day. The antibacterial oil pulls toxins from your teeth and may even heal cavities. I shared the article on Facebook and lo and behold, I already had friends trying the practice!
Today a friend encouraged me to try the oil pulling myself. I did so begrudgingly, but it really wasn’t that gross. I don’t have any cavities, but I sure want to keep it that way.
To recap: in less than a month, Kelly and I went from wanting to believe in tooth regeneration, to seeing evidence of it everywhere, to finding ways to test the theory ourselves.
What do you want to believe? Make your list and let the universe provide the evidence! Start looking for the TINIEST speck of proof that your belief is true, and you’ll start a snowball of indicators that will eventually result in your belief becoming truth.