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Welcome to Tuesday Tips, a weekly handbook on ways to feel good as a conscious creator. This week’s focus is on letting go of the things that are holding you back, while taking the time to deliberately raise your vibration. We are like radio tuners projecting a signal, and we have the power to switch to any station we like. Crank your mood up to 11 and you’ll hear your favorite song begin to play!
1. Say FUCK IT.
If you are experiencing the same contrast over and over, or just can’t seem to shake a particular concern or negative thought, just let it go. It is so empowering to allow yourself to stop holding onto that one thing that makes you feel bad. When you let it go, it will clear itself right up. Fuck it! We’re here to have fun!
2. Give up.
The only action you can take to get what you want is giving in. Let go of the desire. Feel good even though you don’t have it. Quit trying to crawl back up the water slide and enjoy the ride! As soon as you start having fun, you’ll see what you wanted was right in front of you all along.
3. Let go.
Every time you notice something you don’t want, let it go. Count, breathe, or write–anything you can do to stop thinking and drop the thought. Say to yourself, “I can do it. I can do it. I can feel good no matter what.” You can drop a thought just as easily as you picked it up.
4. Breathe better in your sleep.
Kelly and I have started listening to the universal breathing room while we sleep and it has totally transformed us! I have amazing conceptual dreams illustrating the flow of life. Kelly says her sleep is actually calm now. Try it!
5. Use that magick wand!
Did you make a magick wand yet? If you did, here are further instructions: make a wish, then believe it will come true when you forget about it. You have to be having so much fun you forget about what you wished for.
6. Look past what is.
This is the key to manifesting what you want. Let yourself stop thinking about what is for 10 seconds. Then start telling your new story. The Life Story worksheet can help you focus on your new story quickly and easily.
7. Don’t care about what anyone thinks.
This goes for you too! You are not a victim of your thoughts. Any time you feel a resistant thought, or catch yourself caring about what someone else thinks of you, reply with a hearty “I DON’T CARE!”
8. If you know what you don’t want, think about what you do want.
If you are experiencing contrast that makes you know exactly what you don’t want, all you have to do is take one second to imagine what you’d prefer instead. Feel fat? Say to yourself, “I love it when I feel good in my body.” Feel uninspired? Say “I love it when I want to work on my projects.” Then find another way to feel good (basically, distract yourself), and before you know it, you’ll have what you want.
9. Read the Flower of Life books.
Watch the video below, and if you’re intrigued, read the books mentioned in the video notes. It’s weird, it’s super out there, but it resonated with me to the core.
10. Suck it up and do the work to feel good.
Your mood is your work. Your mood is the only thing that matters. Sometimes I go for days without focusing too much, thinking I’ve mastered the art of feeling good. But it’s not something you achieve; it’s a practice. You have to stay after it, every day. Write, meditate, count, breathe, nap, exercise, play, lifestream, or do worksheets. Just stay after those high vibrations and make them your home. Such cool things are happening there!
11. Appreciate your reality to appreciate yourself.
Sometimes it’s hard to focus on things we like about ourselves. But if you consciously find things to appreciate about your reality, you’ll end up finding more to like about yourself. Since your reality is a reflection of you, anything you choose to expand externally will be expanded within as well. Turn it into a game: find one thing to appreciate about everything you see. “I like your shirt. Nice stroller. Great hair. Pretty smile.”
12. Remember love really does conquer all!
Choose to love and not care about anything else, and everything will work out perfectly.
13. Be an inspiration.
Lorra Fae wrote an absolutely stellar post about choosing to better oneself for the good of others. If you feel like you have no purpose, this will give you one. “Your purpose, now, is to transform for the good of everyone, not just you.”
14. Stay in the Now.
Here’s how: don’t think, don’t speak, and don’t act, unless you’re divinely inspired. It takes some practice, but you’ll know it when you’re there.
15. Show up for practice.
Kelly and I like to think of conscious creation as a pro sport, like we’re playing in the NBA. Basketball players practice for 2.5 hours a day, and they have a ton of games. Directing your thoughts and intentionally raising your mood (i.e., vibration) is the practice, preparing you for all the exciting games you want to play–relationships, travel, work, etc. Put in the practice time to play your best.
16. Raise your vibration easily, effortlessly, literally.
You can use your breath to take a hot air balloon ride up the emotional scale. Just breathe and say to yourself, “Breathe in and raise your vibration. Breathe out and release your resistance.” Repeat until you can actually feel your mood rising. Things will begin to look very different from your new perspective.
Enjoy the rest of your week! I love you, you’re doing great! Keep up the good work!
Welcome to Tuesday Tips, the best ways to feel good on the Internet. This week’s edition totally stressed me out because I thought I was going to write about things I learned from my job. But then I thought about it too much and started freaking out about how to be funny, what to include, how personal can I get, etc. So I had a mild panic attack, started resisting writing these hoes, and then woke up late this morning because I was dreading writing this post so much.
But life is supposed to be fun, and I’m just here to play. So anytime I get stressed out, I just remind myself that I shouldn’t do something unless it’s fun, and if it’s not fun I have to make it fun.
So when I’m freaked out, under pressure, want something really badly, AND want it to be fun, I remind myself to stop thinking, because thoughts are the only thing that can block the flow of well-being that makes life so fun and magickal. Then I do everything I can to stop thinking. Here’s what works.
1. Stay busy.
Start immediately. Chip away at your projects. Just keep going. Whether you’re inspired or not, just keep moving. If you have a deadline, just start stream-of-consciousness creating. Just DO IT. You only have to take one step in the right direction for the flow to pick you up.
2. Make a magick wand.
Use it. It might take a while to get used to, but you’ll figure it out.
3. Stop talking.
Omg, stop talking. If you’re talking, you’re definitely thinking, and you can’t hear what life is whispering to you. Just shush up. Shh. Zip it.
4. Write.
If you aren’t talking, but you’re still thinking, those thoughts are like unflushed turds in a toilet. Flush them out. Get rid of them, stat! I like to use prompts to keep me focused on the good thoughts. These always work for me:
- “I’m so grateful…”
- “I appreciate…”
- “I am…”
- “Dear Jessica…”
- “I intend…”
5. Keep your cool.
Tell yourself that if you fail, if that person leaves you, if you lose a limb, if your pet dies, if your house burns down, if you write a shitty Tuesday Tips, if your head falls off, no matter what happens, YOU’LL BE OK. Life is just a game. Whatever you’re stressed about, just let it go. If it happens, you’ll survive. Let go. It’s not scary. There’s nothing to be afraid of. Anything that happens is trying to help you. It’s a solution. Promise.
6. Just breathe.
Focus on your breath. Focus on your breath. Focus on your breath. There are no thoughts in the present, because thoughts are physical things, and the present is just a line between past and future. You can’t have a physical object in a line. There is no space. Focus on your breath, keep your focus on the line between past and future, and wake up in this crazy dream called life. Look around, and you’ll find your answer. You can listen to this song while you do it:
You may have noticed things are changing. You are aware of your thoughts. You are aware of your hand in this. You are aware that your thoughts create.
It was scary at first, getting over the guilt and fear of looking conceited or powerful or delusional. But thanks to the experiences shared on the Internet, it has become common knowledge that feeling good feels good and leads to good things. As a society, we’ve collectively begun to understand that the meaning of life has a lot more to do with having fun than making money or repenting for sins.
Congratulations my friend! We have made it to the next level of life experience. We are aware. We have woken up from the trance of being mind-identified. We have stepped into our role as conscious creators, with a permanent hotline to infinite intelligence.
Some call this transition period entering the “fifth density“, which is a vibrational frequency of consciousness. In this density, we operate from the standpoint of unconditional love and unity with all-that-is. We can zoom out and see a bigger picture of life. The fifth density is where we become aware of our own vibration and our creative power. In fifth density, you exist in flow, or in sync with the universal rhythm or pulse of life. Learning to live in flow marks the transition from fourth to fifth density.
Divine inspiration. Knowing. Confidence. Tripping. Thought-free focus. Letting life live you. Walking the tightrope, trusting the big picture of life to care for you. By choosing to tune ourselves and our moods into the vibration of unconditional love, we access an awareness of flow. Access to the fifth density depends on your mood. Are you in the mood for love?
There is nothing weird or scary about this transition. It’s what we have been collectively striving for. We are entering a period of joy, of fun, of play, and of unconditional love. You don’t have to do anything to be part of the process. You only have to choose it. However, below are a few general principles that may ease that head-exploding feeling of “holy shit, life is deep.”
5 Useful Rules to Live by in the Fifth Density
1. Listen for the flow.
To live in flow, your mind must be quiet enough to hear it. As you make your decisions throughout the day, ask yourself if the choice is a “fuck yeah”. If you have to think about it, it’s not. You can always feel the right decision, which the flow provides, because it will feel good and you will have zero doubt.
2. Up your tolerance for feeling good.
There’s nothing to be embarrassed about feeling good. Everyone gets it. Stay conscious and aware of your mood and thoughts, listen to your body and the indicators in your reality. Find your balance. Keep your cool. Life is like a 360º tightrope. If you were on a tightrope, would you give your attention to what you’re giving it to currently? Choose what you focus on. Choose to ignore everything you don’t want. Let the negative go. Your awareness creates it. What you resist, persists.
Notice particularly when you start reaching your upper limits of feeling good. In The Big Leap, Gay Hendricks explains there are four ways in which we prevent ourselves from reaching our ideal conscious state: feeling fundamentally flawed (how could someone as imperfect as me achieve unconditional love?), feeling disloyal to our roots (how could I choose success without abandoning those who made me who I am?), feeling like a burden (if I reach my highest potential, I’ll be an even bigger burden than I am now), or fear of outshining (how can I allow my perfection when it might make those around me feel bad?). If you start feeling bad, ask yourself if something really good just happened. If so, you’re upper-limiting yourself.
You don’t have to perfect your mood in one day. You don’t have to clean up all your thoughts at once. It’s an iterative process that happens with each new thought. Just practice observing your thoughts and watch as the light of your consciousness evaporates the illusion of darkness. In fifth density, your mood is your only work. Do the work. Feel the feeling you want to feel right now, and you have instant access to the vibration where your manifestation resides. It feels almost like shapeshifting, or teleporting.
3. Up your tolerance to other people feeling good.
If you want to live at a higher vibration, you have to be ok with the people around you being on your level. Choose to appreciate the success of the people around you, instead of fearing their success will give you less access to them. You can only perceive their success because you are projecting success.
4. Focus on the feeling of what you really want.
Being able to desire and then manifest anything you want is part of the fun of this density. If you know exactly what you want, you don’t have to think about your desire anymore, because the moment you had the desire, it was created. You don’t water your seed by thinking about it every day, you do it by paying attention to your mood. It will come when you feel as good as you would if you had received the manifestation. Basically, it will come when you don’t care about it anymore, because you found another way to feel good.
The only thing you can actively do to manifest your desire is to focus your energy on feeling good, regardless of whether you receive what you want or not. Tell yourself you have it, and live as if you do. You must become it before you see it. You must believe that it already is, and when you look for it, you’ll see everything already is reflecting that truth.
5. Practice feeling good even though you don’t have everything you want.
Feel good anyway. Act as if. Distract yourself from thoughts that keep you away from what you want. By saying “I want” you are vibrating “I don’t have.” Instead, say “I am.” There are infinite ways to feel good right now, without ever receiving that which you perceive to be lacking. You can exercise, meditate, do mood-boosting worksheets, read Tuesday Tips, or play with flow toys. But the easiest, fastest, and most reliable method for feeling good right now is your breath.
Our breath connects us to each other, to the world, and to the flow of life. Focusing on one’s breath is an instant connection to source energy and can be used at any time to stop thought and feel good. To practice conscious breathing, you can join others in the DoAsOne.org universal breathing room online (thanks Katharine!), or download the Prana Yama breathing app. For fantastic instructions on breath and meditation, read The Practice (thanks Sunny!).
Breath is the holy grail of feeling good. It’s the tool that will always work. It’s the secret ingredient we all have instant, easy access to.
Join in World Liberation Day!
At 10:30pm central time tonight, at the time of the biggest full moon of 2012, we’re all going to meditate for an hour, visualizing the world we want to live in. (See here for your timezone and more detailed instructions).
If you’re in the flow, you have the power that creates worlds in your hands. Life design is consciously directing that flow to create whatever you want. What happens is your decision. Do you want world peace? Do you want alien contact? Do you want all debts canceled? Do you want eternal life? Do you want to fly? What happens next for the world is up to you, and everyone gets to choose the version they want to live.
And y’all? Just remember this is all just for fun. None of this serious, and none of it matters. Enjoy the ride! I love you, and you’re doing great.
Emotions are indicators of alignment with source energy. The better you feel, the more aligned you are. The more aligned you are, the more effortless and joyful your life becomes. Feeling good is the only thing that matters, because when you feel good, you are working with the flow of life instead of against it. When you are living in the flow, there is only synchronicity, fun and love.
Consciously choosing to feel the way you want to feel is your work as a vibrational being. Your mood is your work. It comes before your job, or your family, or your health. If you align your mood first, your job, family and health will reflect your chosen vibration. You have the power to choose how you feel, which means that you have the power to choose alignment at all times. Discovering how to feel good no matter what is your challenge in this life.
As we flow through the ups and downs of life, sometimes we forget that we hold the power to feel good within. One of the most common questions anyone on the path of conscious creation may ask is, “But how do I feel good?”
Finding the answer to that question is your job here on Earth. But while we all must seek our own ways of feeling good, there are shortcuts to get there faster. Stopping thought is one way to instantly feel good, and practicing the feeling of having what you want works too.
Introducing: Software for Your Mind
In our endless quest to feel better, Kelly and I like to come up with tools that help us feel good when we forget how to do it ourselves. Our latest creation is a mental program that helps you replace negative thoughts with the version of reality you want to live.
This worksheet is designed in flow-chart format to emulate a software program. It’s not fun in a board game sense. It’s fun in an “I’m tripping my balls off, why didn’t anyone tell me I could do this!” sense. It’s realtime shapeshifting, realtime switching to the reality you prefer. It’s extremely powerful. It feels like being in an infinite loop of leveling up, consciously and intentionally.
We’re offering this mind software as a digital PDF download for $5, which you can purchase by clicking the link below. After paying with Paypal, you will receive an email with a link to download the file. Print out as many copies as you like, and run the program in your mind until you feel better. It works every time.
Click here to buy the “I Want to Feel Better” mind software worksheet now
Handwritten with love, this 3.4-Mb PDF will spiral you upwards into higher vibrations than ever before. No matter how you feel right now, you can always feel better. Just imagine what incredible experiences are waiting for you at those higher vibrations!
Tuesday Tips is a May Day basket full of helpful hints I gather throughout each week. When I notice something working in my own life, I add it to my list of gems to share with you. There are infinite ways to feel good; below you will find 17 that work for me.
1. You know when to act. Listen.
The other day Kelly gave me the best advice I’ve ever heard. “You know when action is being pulled through you because you ain’t thinking about whether you should be doin’ it or not.”
2. Read other lifestreamers.
Katja has a major epiphany: she realizes she actually does know how to make herself happy. Lynn encourages herself to give what she perceives to be missing. For more, check out this list of lifestreams in the School of Life Design Facebook group.
3. Count, especially if you think you don’t need to.
Feeling really good and want to stay there? Milk your good feelings by stopping thought to stay in the Now.
4. Lifestream!
The more people lifestreaming about how good their lives are, the more people get to see it and believe it, the more they see evidence in their own lives. Make the choice to share first, and be amazed by what people begin to share with you.
5. Notice it, get more of it.
Look for the tiniest speck of evidence, a grain of sand, that represents evidence that you have what you want. You have to be in the flow of looking to get the bigger, better manifestations. You have to expect them. You can twist the tiniest things to look like evidence. It’s all a matter of shifting your perspective intentionally.
6. Meditate before you medicate.
Do you believe you need someone outside of you to fix you, or do you believe you can heal yourself?
7. Cast spells on your life.
Spellcasting is a fun way to think about what you want and trust it’s coming. You are a magickal being who can be or do or have anything you want. Spellcasting is one way to practice believing that. Bonus points for using a magick wand, lighting candles, or brewing elixirs.
8. Read Osho.
Osho provides a fantastic perspective on time, space, past and future. If you want to be in the Now, let your thoughts go.
The present is just a dividing line, that’s all. It has no space. It divides the past and the future; just a dividing line. You can be in the present but you cannot think; for thinking, space is needed. Thoughts need space, they are just like things — remember it. Thoughts are subtle things, they are material; thoughts are not spiritual, because the dimension of the spiritual starts only when there are no thoughts. Thoughts are material things, very subtle, and every material thing needs space. You cannot be thinking in the present; the moment you start thinking it is already the past.
9. Ask yourself what you want as often as you can.
Sometimes I get what I want then have no idea what to do because the old things that used to make me feel good just don’t work anymore. Every day I want new things. Every day I want to feel something slightly different to become a match to what I’ve expanded to. Every day I want a new mantra, a new method, a new thought, a new perspective that helps me feel good. That’s the work: to wake up every single day and find the perspective that feels good.
10. Ask yourself how you want to feel.
Ask yourself in the morning. I usually want to feel light, confident and playful. Ask yourself again after work. I want to feel energized and inspired. Ask yourself again before bed. I want to feel exhilarated. The only way to get from here to what you want is to feel the way you want to feel, now. Read Danielle Laporte for more detailed instructions.
11. Play Astrojax!
Astrojax is like an invisible friend that encourages you to lighten up and have a good time. Allow yourself to play along and the flow will surprise, delight, and inspire you.
12. Feel the flow with drawing.
Let the pen tell you a story about how everything is connected.
13. Love every Now equally like your children or pets.
Just because one kid is a star athlete doesn’t mean you love the reclusive loner any less. Like children, each Now has something uniquely divine to offer. Look for it.
14. Look for evidence that you’re receiving what you wanted.
If you’re unhappy in the Now, you’re avoiding receiving something that you wanted. Let yourself be in the moment and know that this moment was created to give you something you wanted. Just be in the Now for five minutes, try to do whatever is there for you for five minutes, just say yes for a few minutes. You only have to take one step in the right direction and the flow will carry you away.
15. Surrender.
Life lives you whether you let it or not. You either struggle, or enjoy. Let go! You can’t be any more enlightened than you are right now. Accept that. Enjoy where you are. You truly are in the right place at the right time. It can be no other way.
16. Live a high-contrast life, get bright solutions.
My creative output is only good when I go through contrast. I only have new things to share when I experience what I don’t want, because that’s the only way to find new things to want, new ways to expand, and new things to learn. Be willing to explore more of what you don’t want to see more of what you do want.
17. Choose change, or change will choose you.
You know what you need to do. You always have life on your side. You’re not alone in this. Listen to your heart, feel for the instructions your gut is giving you. Take the leap you know you need to make. Just face the way you want to go, dip your toe in the water, and let that which made you carry you downstream.
Welcome to Tuesday Tips, a weekly breath of fresh air for your mind. This week we keep it simple and remember that none of this is serious. Just let go of those things that bother you and keep your focus on your dreams. You’re already living the life you want; all that’s left to do is play!
1. Keep busy.
It’s a lot easier to avoid negative thoughts when you’re too busy to think. When you have downtime, read a book (here are my suggestions), create, exercise or socialize. Plus, the more time I spend working on my projects, the more money flows in.
2. Die with $2.
Enjoy what you have now.
3. Embrace change.
Change is always good. When you know the universe is always trying to bring you what you want, you learn not to resist when things aren’t exactly as you expect them to be. If something breaks, or goes wrong, it is always a solution. It’s like shuffling the deck—you can never get a new hand if you don’t let go of the cards you’re holding.
4. Get a Rabbit Hole reading.
Rabbit Hole is a life design tarot deck Kelly and I are making. When you go to the site, a card is randomly selected and displayed for you. Since you can only see what you are a vibrational match to, whatever card you draw will give you a little piece of advice that is relevant to you right now. Click on the card to find more answers.
5. Write yourself a welcome-back letter to read when you wake up.
Remind yourself that this life is just a dream, it’s not serious, and it’s all for fun. Kelly has a wonderful version:
welcome back
you are experiencing a simulation
you are the creator of the simulationyou are, in essence, the dreamer
you chose to be here
you chose this creative experience
because it’s the most
creative experience imaginableyou chose to be here and create
you are safe here
any desire you are able to conjure
is created in the moment you have that
desireyour creative power is in your thoughts
what you think about
in that little mind of yours
is what you createit’s totally up to you
6. Ask yourself: Is your dream yours or inherited?
Is it your wish or your father’s? Would you still wish it in 14 years? Mia Astral changed my life forever when she posed that question. I realized that my dream to be skinny and rich is just a dream of conditioned society, and not something I actually care about. Of course the two areas in life I struggle with the most are not my true desires, because if they were, they would be easy and fun to work towards, not torturous. If you want something and you hate working towards it, ask if it’s really you who wants it, or is it your parents’ wish?
7. Make peace with the pain of contrast.
My new friend Donna gave me a brilliant view on the creation process: “I love catching up and lagging behind mustering up more goodies to catch up with.” She went on to remind me of an awesome Abraham concept: I’m either contributing to my vortex, or I’m in it. This means that when you feel bad, your desire for something different is creating a new reality for you to enjoy. You simply can’t create anything new if you don’t experience the contrast that makes you ask for something different. Abraham reminds us that if we didn’t have contrast, we would die:
As you diminish contrast, you diminish your ability to decide, and as you diminish your ability to decide, you diminish your ability to focus, and as you diminish your ability to focus, you do away with your reason for existing.
8. Be here.
As I learn to stop obsessing over weight and money and things that don’t matter, I find myself with a lot of empty space in my head. It seems like it’s getting easier for everyone to just enjoy being alive. To stay anchored in the Now, I’ve been using a simple mantra that keeps it all in perspective: “I’m here.” What a miracle. I’m so grateful you’re here too.
Tuesday Tips is a weekly collection of ways to feel good. There are infinite ways to feel good, you just have to find the ones that work for you. You can do it by taking action, directing your thoughts, practicing specific emotions, or just allowing yourself to be. This week’s edition includes lots of inspirational quotes and ways to play your life to the next horizon of success. Time to level up!
1. Count, or lifestream.
I lifestream to consciously create my reality. I choose the thoughts I want to be true, write them down and savor them, and then I stop thinking and start counting. I no longer find myself thinking contradictory thoughts to my new story, and now I’m always living my new story. It rules.
2. Manually restart your creative flow.
Just like meditating every day or taking the garbage out every day, if you make yourself do 15 minutes of a creative activity every day, you’ll get in the flow of creating. I used to wait around to be inspired to create (e.g., worksheets, art, articles) and always felt a little sick at how little I felt like creating. Now Kelly and I make it a point to work on our projects a little bit every day and we’ve been creating our best work every night for over a week. Wee!
3. Keep your patterns sustainable.
Once you get in that creative flow, you’ll be tempted to stay up late milking your fresh inspiration. But if you stick to your bedtime and save some for tomorrow, you won’t burn out and you’ll always have a reason to feel excited when you get up.
4. Have a writing costume.
Rings, tiaras, special jewelry—find something that holds power and keep it on your desk, wearing it only when you write. If it makes you feel good to wear it, it will bring you good fortune.
5. Let music raise your vibration.
I dreamt that I was wearing an iPod, dancing and flying on a big hill. I waltzed into my home and thought “listening to music on headphones should be a Tuesday Tip!” Seems obvious, but maybe, like me, you could use the reminder!
6. Listen to the Dawn and Drew Show.
Oh man, I listened to several episodes of my favorite audio podcast last Friday at work, and I swear it made me funnier just laughing along with them. Dawn and Drew have been doing their hilarious podcast about every-day adventures since 2004 and it’s piss-your-pants funny. Start with the eps that are just Dawn and Drew (like #984, #983 & #100), they’re the best!
7. Sensationalize your lifestream.
If your thoughts create, and all you have to do to live the life you want is to think you already do, then why not GO BIG?! Tell it like you want it! Admit you’re already a pop star! Admit you’re already a millionaire! Admit you’re the best hula hooper in the nation! Only you can make these things real!
8. Write a rap song about your wealth.
Just start talking about your abundance and you’ll see evidence instantly. Talk about how much money you have, talk about all the delicious things you buy with it, make it all up, just start talking about it. As Abraham says, “You will notice that those who speak most of prosperity, have it.”
9. Trust.
Really the only feeling you ever need, trust is the feeling of knowing life will take care of you. You can use your universal trust fund to pay for things, just trust life will foot the bill. You can walk tightropes and fallen trees, just trust life will keep you balanced. It’s easy to trust if you don’t take anything too seriously! You just have to not care if life doesn’t do exactly what you want. Trust that whatever happens is exactly the solution you need.
10. Keep your mood high with lifestreaming.
My lifestream output directly correlates with my mood. When I stream, I feel good. When I don’t, I’m blocking the flow! Find your outlet, whether it’s lifestreaming or journaling or whatever, and let that flow through you, all day every day. If you’re not directing your constant creative flow, what is?
11. Appreciate!
If all you did was just look for things to appreciate you would live a joyous, spectacular life. If there was nothing else that you ever came to understand other than just look for things to appreciate, it’s the only tool you would ever need to predominantly hook you up with who you really are. That’s all you’d need.
~ Abraham
12. Never feel bad for spending the money you have.
If a man has an apartment stacked to the ceiling with newspapers we call him crazy. If a woman has a trailer house full of cats we call her nuts. But when people pathologically hoard so much cash that they impoverish the entire nation, we put them on the cover of Fortune magazine and pretend that they are role models. ~ B. Lester
13. Identify as your experience.
Can you see how everything you experience is a reflection of your vibration? It’s easy to feel like you are one with everything when you see that your mood and thoughts are puppeteering everything you see. Zoom out and watch your life like a movie, and you can see the elaborate, beautiful connections. Look for them and poof! There they are.
14. Literally look for the flow.
Look for evidence your reality is visually playful. You can access the same visual games and delights that you can with psychedelics on your very own, just by asking for them and looking for them. When I was a kid I was obsessed with anything shiny, sparkly, or prismatic. I carried the love through adulthood but forgot why. The glimmers, the sparkles, the shines—that’s life playing with your eyes. It catches your eye when you think a positive thought. The universe loves to play with you visually. What do you think it did before you thought in words? Life is playing the most beautiful game right in front of your eyes, if you have the eyes to see it.
15. Change, by not trying to change.
Gretchen Rubin came up with this particular gem, and she is spot on. As long as you’re trying to change yourself, you’re resisting what is. Accept who you are. Accept what you like. Accept your body and your place in life. You’re here for a reason. Every moment ever created lead up to who you are right now! It can be no other way! Let yourself be at peace with who you are, and the path to the person you want to be will light up before you. Abraham has a great perspective on this too:
The reason you want every single thing that you want, is because you think you will feel really good when you get there. But, if you don’t feel really good on your way to there, you can’t get there. You have to be satisfied with what-is while you’re reaching for more.
16. Keep up the good work.
Your mood is your only work. Keep at it! You’re doing so great, and life is so, so grateful to you for taking the chance at being alive and expanding the universe. Be light, be brave, be playful, smile and keep going! You’ve come so far! We all love you so much!
Lately in my lifestream I’ve been switching the focus from talking about what I want, to talking about what I already have. Since time is an illusion and every possibility already exists, I can choose to perceive I already have what I want at any given moment. If you believe your thoughts create, then whatever you are thinking is true until you think a contradicting thought.
The theory is simple enough, but how do we go about perceiving we already have what we want, especially when there is clear proof in physical reality that it’s not true? All it takes is consistent practice and a little faith in your own creative power.
Telling your new story, step by step
1. Decide what you want.
Instead of thinking about what you don’t want, or what you don’t like, just take 5 minutes to ask yourself what you want. It could be a lifelong goal, or it could be what you want to have for dinner. If you don’t know what you want, you’ll never get it.
2. Deliberately practice the thoughts you would think if it was true.
Imagine you have what you want. What would you think? How would your thoughts be different from what they are currently? Take the time to train yourself into those thought patterns. I like to write about how grateful I am that I have what I want already. For an extremely detailed view of my thought direction practice, read my lifestream. This post is a good example.
3. If you’re not thinking in alignment with your new story, stop thinking with silent counting.
I try to count to 10,000 every day. If I’m idle or involved in an activity that allows my thoughts to wander, I simply count to prevent thoughts that contradict my new story from popping up. It’s the only truly effective way I’ve found to stop thinking when I’m not actively directing my thoughts.
4. Be in the present moment, vigilantly looking for evidence.
Whatever you notice, you get more of. So be ready to see evidence that your new story is true. The only way your new story will snowball into actual reality is if you are in the present, paying attention to each sign that you’re getting what you want.
5. Repeat every single day, multiple times a day.
Thought direction only works with practice. We’ve trained ourselves into realities we don’t want simply by thinking about them. All it takes to live the reality you desire is consistently thinking you already do. Your reality is created by your expectations. Your expectations are formed by your beliefs. And your beliefs are just thoughts you think a lot. Whatever you believe is true, so you can just train yourself to believe what you want to be true. Trust in your own power! You can be or do or have anything you want.
Stay inspired with the new Earcandy audio lesson
Last night Kelly and I published a new audio discussion about consciously choosing new thoughts and seeing them manifest. Our adorable second edition of Earcandy life design lessons, Thinky Thoughty Creations: How to Sugar-Sand Your Thoughts, is teeming with practical examples and our own experiences in thought direction. You can download the $2, 31 minute mp3 to hear our own methods and solutions for telling the stories we wanted to be true, and that we’re now living.
Click here to continue to the Earcandy website.
Tuesday Tips is a weekly handbook on going with the flow. The more we practice listening to what life tells us, the more fun it gets to be alive. We all have access to the flow 24/7, and these tips are just ways to remember we already hold the keys to any door we want to open. Be easy on yourself and life will be easy on you.
1. Have a bedtime.
I’ve always known it was important to go to sleep and wake up at the same time every day, but I resisted it like a petulant child every single night of my adult life. My sleep habits have always felt like total chaos. It is with great relief that I admit, yet again, that my dad was right. A consistent sleep schedule adds a calming rhythm to daily life.
2. Make life design patterns.
On the same note as a consistent sleep schedule, try keeping life-maintenance activities in a pattern. When you decide that you’re going to do something regularly, you don’t have to think about it, and therefore you resist less. Do the grocery shopping the same day every week. Make your lunch at the same time. Go to the car wash every Sunday. Automating basic life tasks makes them feel like flow instead of work.
3. Tell the version you want.
This applies to everything. It doesn’t matter whether you believe your story or not, only that you practice telling it. Your mind is so easy to trick! The more you say things are the way you want them to be, the more evidence you’ll find that it’s true. Listen to your thoughts and words for times when you are clearly saying “Why is it the way I don’t want it to be?” and just decide to think differently.
4. Take care of your physical needs.
Life design is only fun when you’re healthy and rested. Sleep 8 hours a night. Eat what you know is right. Exercise 5 days a week. Have plenty of orgasms. Drink lots of water. Until we stop believing these things are important, we just have to accept them and move on. (Thanks for this one, Jen!)
5. Follow Chalene!
Chalene Johnson is the creator of Turbo Kickboxing (my FAVORITE workout), and she lives the healthy lifestyle she promotes. (Not to mention, she’s a self-made millionaire and hot as hell.) Her Twitter and Instagram are mega-inspiring and it’s fun to watch someone practicing what they preach.
6. Just stop doing that one thing that keeps you out of the vortex.
For me it’s eating too much before bed. Just stop. Give it up. You can just drop it from your life, right now. One of my favorite Carlos Castaneda quotes always helps me believe in my power to do this: “People hardly ever realize that we can cut anything from our lives, any time, just like that. For example, smoking and drinking are nothing. Nothing at all if we want to drop them. Only one thing is indispensable for anything we do; the spirit. One can’t do without the spirit.” Read Adrienne’s take on action and the law of attraction for more inspiration.
7. Decide you’re winning.
Betty gave me my favorite mantra of the week: “I’m winning!” It helps me focus on success instead of failure.
8. Think of one thing to compliment about every person you see.
When you criticize others, you criticize yourself. Make the choice to compliment others, and you’ll find those same qualities within.
9. Measure only your joy.
We are here for fun, not to grow or make progress. Those things come naturally with joy. Every time I find myself writing about how grateful I am for the progress I made in my work, I remember to think that I am much more grateful for the joy I felt while working.
10. Remember, nothing is serious.
Whenever shit seems serious and you feel stressed, remember this is all just for fun.
11. Practice the feeling of trust.
Sometimes when riding my bike in traffic, I have to go between the curb and cars in a teeny little area with no room for error. If I waver, I’ll crash. I’ve found that every time I do it, I feel this feeling in my head that I now recognize as flow, or trust. It’s the same feeling as riding a bike with no hands, or walking a tightrope, or jumping off a cliff. You just have to trust that you can do it, or you’ll hurt yourself. It’s the feeling of perfect balance. If you can find physical ways to practice this feeling (like on a bicycle), it gets way easier to feel it throughout your daily life.
12. Be your remembering self with your pets.
Pets are so easygoing and obedient that it can be easy to ignore them. This week I’m practicing listening to my kitties. Whenever they come up to me wanting to play, I listen. I stop doing what I’m doing, and I appreciate the time I have with them. Not only do I feel more deeply connected to them, but the interruptions always lead me to solutions I’ve been looking for.
13. Your power is in letting go.
Whenever I start worrying about a situation, and wondering what action I should take to fix it, I must remember that the easiest way to deal with things that bother me is to let them go. Ignoring them, and finding a way to feel good anyway is the fastest way to resolve contrast.
In the School of Life Design group, Lynn asked “What are your mantras/tricks for staying in the moment and not freaking out (about uncertainty, especially)?” Halcyon responded with, “Byron Katie has a great phrase about not getting too caught up in an imagined story: Remind yourself of what is real by saying, “Woman sitting in chair.” Everything else is story (aka just thoughts).”
I was able to find reference to this idea in Katie’s book online, but my imagination took the idea and ran away with it, so I left it alone for a day or so.
Last night Kelly and I were lounging in bed, when she brought up something in the future that may or may not happen, but that we both want to happen. She said something to the effect of “We get to meet those people this week!” We’ve been practicing not speaking about things outside of the Now, so I replied with “Ok… here is my reply… I don’t care. I’m in the Now.” She didn’t get offended, because she knows it’s for the best to stay in the Now too.
We chilled for a minute, not saying anything, which turned into some quality cuddling. Being in the Now FTW! The next thing Kelly said to me was, “Girl lying in bed with her hand between another girl’s legs. Hey, that’s pretty awesome!” By choosing to stay in the Now and focus only on what was going on in the present moment, Kelly found herself receiving something that she had previously wanted and was trying to obtain by thinking about the future: human connection.
Being in the Now as an artform
I spent much of today directing my thoughts by describing to myself only what I was doing in the Now. “Girl driving a new car listening to Nicki Minaj on full blast. Girl peeing while looking at the sun filter through the trees. Girl taking photographs for UCllc.” On that last one, I actually heard my mind respond with, “Hey, I want to do that!”
WTF? By describing my Now reality to myself, I succeeded in making my mind want to be in the Now. After working at UCllc for over 6 months, I’ve become something of a staff photographer. I’m pretty used to it, definitely good at it, and you could say I nearly take it for granted now. But if you would have told me about someone else being their staff photographer a year ago, I definitely would have felt jealous of that person, and coveted the position.
Not only did this little trick make my mind want to join the Now, but the description “Girl peeing while looking at the sun filter through the trees” made me feel like I was living in a painting. Suddenly, I understood how painters could paint such mundane scenes. In the Now, nothing is mundane. Everything is magickal.
Being in the Now is power
When we meditated today, I began by thinking “Girl meditating.” I immediately started enjoying myself, thinking about how great it was that I meditate every day. As the meditation continued, I remembered the reason why I started meditating in the first place.
When I was 15 or so, I attended Catholic high school. You could say my parents “made me” go there. I sure as hell wasn’t about to buy into all the garbage that came with Catholicism, so I very actively sought out other belief systems that might make more sense. Fortunately, all the heavy metal, goth music and horror movies I was into lead me to the occult.
I dabbled in Satanism, Wicca, and plain ol’ magick. In one of my readings, I came across a spell that, when combined with meditation, would get me anything I wanted. As you might imagine, my 15-year-old self had a lot of burning desires and the idea that I could just sit still and get what I wanted was rather compelling.
So I started meditating every night, focusing on making my desires reality. I didn’t spend a lot of time thinking about my practice, I just sort of trusted it. And it always, always worked.
As I meditated today, I remembered again my teenage self gathering so much power from meditation. Deciding to bring that bitch back, I looked for a specific desire to focus on to make it come true. But now that I know what I know, my only real desires are to feel good and live in flow.
I realized that this “describing what I’m doing in the Now” practice is a way to live in flow, and that the more I do it, the more power I draw to myself. Every single time I stop to observe “girl typing article on keyboard” I get a surge of well being and knowing, and I feel like I’m charging up.
I look at this method of being in the Now like casting a spell on my life. The more time I spend in the present moment, appreciating the beauty and perfection of what I’m doing right now, the more power I draw to myself. The more magickal the events in my life become. The more I feel like smiling. The more things go my way. The more confident I feel. I am a girl typing an article on a computer. I wanted this.
