24 thoughts on “Lesson 4: Designing Daily Life

  1. I feel good when I:

    -See that somebody mentions me in a post! 8D Heehee.
    -Watch a TED talk. http://www.ted.com/
    -See beautiful images on Tumblr.
    -Blow bubbles.
    -Take photos of beautiful things I see around me.
    -Discover something that can make my life easier! (Like a grocery delivery service or a chore-doing robot.)
    -Read about the latest advances in technology. http://www.kurzweilai.net/blog (Never ceases to amaze me! And gets me so excited for all of the wonderful things that are coming!)

    Thanks for Lesson 4!

  2. Super stoked about this. Made sure I felt better before I read and it seriously helped my mood!

    I really like to read something inspiring when I’m feeling shitty. Also yelling out my rampages! <3 doing that!

  3. Oh shit I forgot to ask a question!

    Jessica where did you learn the meanings for Tarot cards? I have a set and want to learn more about it!

  4. Allison, your list is so delightful! I can totally get into all of those! Ha but I think I watched all the TED talks I was interested in… but I’m sure they’ve posted more since then. Taking photos of beauty around you is perfect! I also like videoing… and I definitely just subscribed to Kurzweil’s blog. Kurzweil drove a lot of my work in grad school, thanks for the inspiration reminder!

    Ayanna, your list is delightful! You’re so making me want to learn how to hoop! Hooping to dubstep sounds so dreamy. Thank you so much for sharing the link!

    Emma, that is super cool that you made sure you felt good before reading… yay it worked! And about tarot… my favorite book to learn from was this: http://www.amazon.com/Tarot-Your-Self-Mary-Greer/dp/0878770771

    I also really like using the card meanings here: http://learntarot.com/cards.htm

    Those are great places to start. The most important thing is learning what the cards mean to YOU, there is no right or wrong way to do it. But learning the traditional meanings first gives you a great place to start thinking about how they resonate with you.

  5. The first thing that makes me happy: serendipity. I got the email for this back when it posted, but I was substitute teaching and you’re blocked by the content filter! (Something about profanity. But then, that same filter blocks a handful of astrology blogs for “alternative lifestyle,” so who the heck knows what that’s about?) Anyhow, I just read this post when I received the email for the newest lesson – and I’d just posted my own list of ways to cheer yourself up on my blog! Serendipity!

    One thing that somehow missed my list: Going to bed with a sleep mask on. I don’t usually wear them, because it makes it hard for me to wake up in the morning, but it’s a lovely sort of sensory deprivation that makes my sleep that much deeper.

    Also, anything in the kitchen unless it’s cleaning. Cooking and baking make me feel wonderful.

  6. Nicalyse,
    blocked by the content filter, oh no! I guess there might be a few too many f-bombs on this site… oops ;]

    I love serendipity too! Isn’t it awesome how information always comes at exactly the right times? Thanks for sharing your list!

  7. I love the list! I printed it out to hang in my bathroom (where it will undoubtedly get the most views). I am also working on my morning schedule. Overall I am very happy with where I am right now and I ultimately have you two lovely ladies to thank. I have been in the vortex all day and it feels so freakin’ amazing. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. I am grateful. I am grateful. I am grateful.

  8. Thanks Elisha! A morning routine can be so helpful. I don’t really follow a specific order or timing anymore, and a lot of the writing suggestions are now all wrapped up into my gathering momentum posts. BUT what I do make sure is that I exercise and meditate every day along with posting, those three things are all I need to keep sane!

  9. Oh yeah, I forgot to add something to your list. One thing I do when I want to feel good is sing. I don’t care too much for my voice so I usually sing along with my favorite CD or playlist. I’m too shy to sing loudly in front of people so my car is my stage. I love taking a drive through the backroads, cranking up my stereo (it gets loud) and sing until my heart’s content. Just thought I’d share. :) Have a lovely day.

  10. That’s a great one Elisha – I think it must have to do with vibration. By singing along with music that feels good, you’re raising your vibration because you’re literally matching the vibration of something that feels good. How cool! It’s like an impersonation, putting yourself in the feeling place of the feeling you want…

  11. Caring for animals makes me feel good. Knowing that I’ve made a real positive change in their lives is the most rewarding thing you can do. Also, I have had the experience of being filled with source energy or my higher self, whatever you want to call it, believe me you don’t have to work at feeling good when you are in that state. It is a place of no fear, no lack, no disease, just feeling. Your feelings are actually palpable, more real than anything else and of course they do feel good.

    After having that short lived experience, it is most difficult to really feel good as compared to that anything else pales by comparison.

  12. Things that make me feel good:
    -Brushing my kittens
    -Being the big spoon
    -Going home (to my burning family)
    -Taking pictures of me swinging my wildly colored hair around like a wild woman
    -Doing a shot of Bragg’s Apple Cider Vinegar
    -Checking items off my “to do” list

    Jessica, I love the “pick your level” morning routines. That’s just what I need. I’ve been practicing positivity by distracting myself whenever I get whiny or down. My sweetie and I will each list 5 things we’re grateful for and 3 positive actions we’ll take today whenever one of our moods starts to wan. Then throughout the day if we see a bad mood on the rise, we look to see if we’ve been working on our positive actions or if there is something we could do right then toward them. Now I’m going to add this morning routine to my daily plan. Thanks!

  13. Jesslyn, brushing kittens is the best!!! I love your list!!

    Excellent idea on listing things you’re grateful for & what positive actions you’ll take. Whenever Kelly or I notice our mood dropping (or we’re super tired), we’ll ask “what are you grateful for?” or “what do you want?” It works every time.

    Thanks for the comment darlin!!!! <3

  14. Hey Jessica!

    It looks like you don’t really use blogspot so I came back here to answer your question. Square breathing is when you inhale for four counts, hold for four, breathe out for four counts and then hold there, empty, for four counts.
    But just today I read that you should hold your breath four times as long as you inhaled for and breathe out twice as long as you inhaled for. [Unlimited Power by Anthony Robbins, heard about it on Steve Pavlina’s site and he’s totally talking about LoA without calling it that in this book!]

    Thanks for your comment ^_^

  15. One thing that works particularly well for when I’m feeling tired and grumpy is to curl up on the couch with my boyfriend and some snacks and read through the various Damn You Autocorrect lists. Or Engrish dot com. So good!

    In response to what you were saying, Jessica, about why someone who practices LOA might want to pay attention to world events I’m curious– what do you believe is the purpose of contrast?

    Here’s where I’m at on the topic. Let’s back up to the nature of my mind: I perceive an event, my beliefs about the event kick in, and I have an emotional response to those beliefs. If I don’t like the event, I have a negative response. Now, as someone who is practicing consciously creating my reality, the challenge is to examine my entire reaction chain (the emotions, the beliefs, the events) and figure out why everything happened. Where is the point of dissonance? Is my emotion disproportionate? I need to meditate. Is my belief incorrect? I need to study. Is the event destructive or causing someone pain? I need to either remove myself from the situation or correct it. Then I can take that new understanding into the future and do something about it to break my thought habits. Contrast, used consciously, is very empowering.

    Now I think learning about global events can be helpful in that doing so can present new experiences of contrast and thus help you raise your consciousness. For example, I ate meat my entire life until I was 22. I never once considered becoming a vegetarian, even though many of my good friends were. And then when I was 22, I fell in love with my boyfriend, a vegan. He gradually exposed me to the reality of meat consumption– the factory farms, the environmental destruction, cancer, the emotional toll on humans and animals alike, everything. And every time I learned about one of these horrifying new realities, I was outraged, and then disgusted, and then sooooo sad, but at the end of the day– my dietary choices were increasingly peaceful, healthy, and creative. And my pleasure in spending time with animals increased. And more animals are alive because I didn’t eat them, and there’s that much more of my $$$ in the pockets of some organic vegetable farmers. That process took some painful reality checks! I could’ve “stayed happy” eating bacon egg and cheese bagels, not knowing the reality behind what I was eating, but I’m so glad to have gone through those negative emotions, because they fueled my growth. My capacity for pleasure and joy and peace have increased because I know I’m doing the best I can do as a human being in California in 2013 to treat the planet and all its creatures with love.

    So the point I’m trying to make is– yeah, I want to feel blissful, but I think consistently aiming towards greater consciousness necessarily involves some pain, and I shouldn’t necessarily resist that. Not that I’m seeking out pain for the sake of pain– I seek out truth first, and that often leads to happiness, but I’m okay with pain temporarily if it’s helping me make better decisions.

    All that said, I do make an effort to protect and be aware of my emotional state. I’m highly sensitive, an introvert, and relatively new to consciously creating, and I’m not trying to be Superwoman. Sometimes (a lot of the time) I really need to withdraw into my bubble and turn off all the media and technology and do some self-involved things to recharge, because too much emotional turbulence can be counter-productive.

    Does any of this make sense?

  16. I thought of another example. Why it might be good to keep up with “The News” *specifically* is that you might learn something new and experience contrast that might take you down a wormhole of life that you didn’t even know was possible! Like when I found out that sex trafficking was a problem, I was really upset (cue bitter laughter for understatement of the century). But then my friends and I teamed up to host a mindblowing fundraiser drag-queen mud wrestling party in a fucking mansion that raised a bunch of money for sex trafficking survivors! Soooo that’s why I watch the news (sometimes, when I’m feeling tough enough). Do you see what I’m saying?

    Love your work, Jessica! Thank you!

  17. Hi Kiriko,
    We came to this reality to experience contrast so we can discern preferences and then experience the manifestation of our desires. No matter how big or small the contrast is, it’s valuable.

    In regards to the news, once I had enough, I was done with it. There was not a single drop of bad news I wanted to hear more of. Abraham-Hicks always says to straight ignore it – but I think they say it so that we can finally feel some relief. The attention to what we don’t want is still valuable – it creates the opposite side of the wave, the solution. But you don’t have to keep experiencing the same painful contrast for the greater good of the world.

    The more one can turn their attention away from what’s “going wrong” the more will go right in one’s life. Everyone is here for their own adventure, and just because one person turns away doesn’t mean anything for the rest of the population.

    All contrast creates solutions, so I think the key is to live the contrast, make peace with it, and allow the solution to come. It’s like surfing, riding the waves. Being able to feel good in spite of contrast is my ultimate goal – feeling good no matter what, rolling with the punches, etc.

    But anything in the world that one pushes against (protests, fights, etc) will only grow bigger. What we resist persists. What we focus on expands.

    What do you think?
    Thanks for the great conversation!!! <3

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