How to get over a crush

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We all meet people who change our lives in glorious ways. And then we become obsessive, dying to spend more time with them, aching to touch them, horribly disappointed when things don't go according to plan. The crush is a prime illustration of the law of attraction in action!

You think about this girl or guy SO MUCH. You vibrate a feeling of "lack", because you need more of this person in your life. Your crush deepens and you spend more time thinking about the person, getting nervous, and setting up weird rendezvous to spy on them. The result of all this fumbling? You push the person further away from you.

If you can get over her, you can get under her

The trick to moving on with your life, and likely attracting your crush in the process, is to GET OVER HER. Forget about her! Find ANYTHING else to think about!

The easiest way I've found to do this is to realize that everyone is hot if you look for it. All you have to do is find the hotness in everyone, and you'll have a new crush walking through your door every hour! And we all know the only way to get over a crush is to find a new one ;P

Your current emotional state is what you'll attract more of. If you feel super attached to one person (and they don't even know it!), think about what it is they do for you. We are attracted to people who have mastered a certain vibration that we haven't. Is it the vibration of abundance, or health, or vitality, or youth? Figure out what it is you like so much about the person and aim to practice that feeling yourself. When you reach that vibration on your own, you and your crush will attract each other like magnets. Enjoy!

12 thoughts on “How to get over a crush

  1. I love the brevity of your posts! Its so concise and tells me everything I need to know.

    I really needed this post ;)

    I love the part where you say to practice the feeling of the vibration that the crush has that you are attracted to. it makes so much sense. become it yourself, because that is why you have the crush in the first place.

    BUT WHAT DO I DO WHEN I DON’T WANT I NEW CRUSH?!?!?!

  2. Hmm what to do when you don’t want a new crush… well, I think you should probably give your wife a back rub ;D

  3. File under coincidence, but it was somewhat odd that I was listening to Killing Joke’s “Me or You” at the time you tweeted the link to this post.

    Ignoring that Killing Joke is one of my favorite bands, the song’s lyrics could easily be interrupted as being about “crushes”.

    The skeptic in me brushes this off as pure chance, but I’ll allow the possibility of “cosmic forces at work” just this once.

    ;)

    ‘Me or You’ on youtube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G22gQbIc2po

    Lyrics:

    Is it me or is it you
    And can I find the answer
    There’s a new beginning, wooo
    I wanna see you there
    Is it me or is it you
    Where my heart is calling

    {Chorus}:
    Shall we wake up and live
    Kiss the next one you see
    I told you once so I’ll tell you twice
    Yes, you can come with me
    Then we’ll share a dream
    All day, all night

    Is it me or is it you
    And did you see the morning
    There’s a new beginning, wooo
    Where the fields are young
    Is it me or is it you
    Where my heart is always

    {Chorus}

    Is it me or is it you

    Now we see the sunshine
    In a new beginning, wooo
    Where our days will change
    Is it me or is it you
    Now we’ve seen the morning

    Shall we wake up and live
    Kiss the next one you see
    Another world song, yo ho
    Sitting in our hand
    I told you once so I’ll tell you twice
    Yes, you can come with me
    Then we’ll share a dream
    All day, all night

    Is it me or you
    And can I find out, whoa-oh
    Is it me or you
    And can I find out, whoa-oh
    Is it me or you
    And can I find out, whoa-oh

  4. You two are adorable.

    I definitely attract certain types of people in my life (I have had really exhilarating friendships, and a share of good past relationships) I feel this same sorta of process not only works for crushes, but for potential best friends as well.
    Perhaps a blog on manifesting great friends would be cool?

    great work Jessica!

    Amanda

  5. this is awesome & so true! i love the part about realizing everyone has attractive things about them. i like to think about this at work a lot (i work in retail and see lots of different types of people every day…everyone i see has something good about them and it’s awesome to just kind of watch the flow of people go by you in a place and absorb all that human emotion and variations {no idea if i have explained this how it sounds in my head at all or in an interesting way, oh well}).

    my entire life i’ve always thought i was “special” because i could always seem to “draw” people back into my life. in the past year or so i realize it has all been my vibration and what i’ve been sending out into the world that keeps specific people coming back at certain times. so cool. really, we are so much more powerful than we know.

    i love how this ties into kelly’s post about your body pump teacher ; )

    a blog on manifesting great friends would be awesome. i’m pretty amazing at attracting crushes and the like (sexual energy charged friendships, i suppose, you could say) but i would love to learn how to attract some great platonic friends. i feel like i always want a friendship with people who don’t seem to have time or interest for me. i need to get over that feeling, because i know i’m interesting and the best friend ever!

  6. A while ago I retweeted this from Danielle LaPorte “RT @DanielleLaPorte you are what you‘re attracted to.” And in a way her and you mean the same thing: what/who you are attracted to is you, even it´s just a potential you. Makeslots of sense to me!
    Great post Jessica!

  7. Todd, haha thank you for conceding a win to the universe just this once! So who’s your crush hmmmm?? Nm, I already know :p

    Amanda, excellent call on a post about manifesting (best) friends. I think one is brewing!

    Emily, omg I was blushing when I saw your comment, Body Pump instructor whoooooooo?! I definitely know what you mean about observing a mass of people go by and watch all the emotion… as for attracting platonic friends, it can be hard eh? Not the attracting the friend part, but the platonic part…

    Here’s what I know about attracting friends thus far:
    – act like you already have too many
    – don’t focus on any one person or you’ll push them away
    – spend lots of time appreciating the good qualities in people you are already friends with
    – remember that ANYONE can be the friend you’re looking for, so don’t be confined to a gender/age etc.

    Katja, I LOVE DANIELLE. And yes, I love what you’re saying about “even if it’s just a potential you” because our highest selves already have what we want…

    Thanks for the comments ladies and gent! <3

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