Welcome to Tuesday Tips, the weekly guide to practicing positivity. This week’s suggestions are simple, to the point, and when I finished writing them, I said to myself, “Jesus Christ, I’m a boss of bosses.” So I think they worked.
1. Make it look easy.
I’ve found my official life purpose: to make life look easy. Whenever I’m in a stressful situation, I just ask myself, “What would I do if I was making life look easy?”
2. Lead by example.
Sometimes I start doubting myself because I think, “No one else is doing this! How can it possibly work?!” Then I remind myself that’s what I want. Lead with your mood, your play, your creativity, your openness, your adaptability, and your knowing. Be the first one to do it! Be the one who can! Of course other people will doubt, because they haven’t seen it before. But YOU can!
3. Follow your excitement.
Decide what sounds most fun and do it without expectation of outcome. It will lead you to everything you want!
4. Be the boss of your mind.
You know whatever you believe is true, so just decide to think what you want to believe. It might take a while until you believe it, but you’ll never believe it unless you practice. Anytime you have a doubtful thought, just counter with the opposite. The belief “I’m always late” can be changed with “I’m always on time.” Diligently practice and eventually you’ll believe it.
5. Just stop thinking about that one thing that always brings you down.
Do you have to think specific positive thoughts about your body in order for your body to be the way you want it to be? No. But you have to not think the specific negative thoughts. If you could never again think about your body and, instead, just think pleasant thoughts — your body would reclaim its place of Well-being.
6. Stop caring about what your partner thinks.
It took Kelly and me years to even figure out we could eat different things for dinner. When one partner decides to do something with certainty, because it’s what she wants to do and wild horses couldn’t stop her, the other partner will usually follow suit. If you are certain in your actions and decisions, your partner cannot argue with your certainty. It’s only when you start caring about what you partner thinks (what should we do tonight?) that uncertainty comes into your vibration and it gets difficult to make decisions together. Do you!
7. Give yourself a thought-deadline.
Whenever I stress out about money, I make sure all my bills are paid for a few weeks and then I allow myself to stop thinking about money for a specific amount of time. Sometimes I can only do a few days, but right now I’m not thinking about money until June 29. Every time I do this, money flows to me easily. Whenever the thought of money comes to me, I counter with either “I’ve decided to feel good about money. It’s working itself out.” or “I don’t have to think about money until June 29.” It works every time. It’s way more effective than a project deadline.
8. Feel like you’re better than her.
Whenever Kelly or I crush on someone, we tell each other “remember you’re better than her.” We don’t mean that we’re better people than the crushes, but that the feeling of self-love will always be better than wanting someone else to love you. Love yourself as much as you love your crushes and you won’t have that lovesick feeling of desperate wanting. And know you’re better than her!
9. Trust your instincts.
Life isn’t all or nothing. You don’t have to decide to go straightedge because you had a good time while sober. You don’t have to be an alcoholic because you had a fun night out drinking. Your mind thinks, “Oh that felt good! Do that forever!” and connects the good feeling to the behavior. But what it really means is, “Trusting my instincts felt good! Do that forever!” It’s choosing what feels best in each moment that causes good experiences. Trust your instincts and you’ll always make the right decision.
10. Be more in the Now with lifestreaming.
Documenting your experience doesn’t take you out of the Now. It puts you IN to the Now by helping you look for what’s fun/beautiful/awesome right now.
11. Stop thinking.
Just stop thinking and breathe. If you can’t focus on your breath, count! To me, focusing on my breath feels like riding a conveyor belt. Counting feels like a well-oiled bike chain. Just feel your reality. Trust the magick life. Decide.
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