Welcome to Tuesday Tips, the weekly guide to practicing positive thinking. This week we have eight exercises to help you focus on expanding the parts of your reality that you like. From finding ways to appreciate your failures to learning how to be less clingy, these tips will help you change your perspective for the better. Take it from Dr. Wayne Dyer: "When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change."
1. Name one thing you've failed at. What wisdom did you take from it?
William Saroyan says, "Good people are good because they've come to wisdom through failure."
2. Create your Joy Budget.
Halcyon says, "This is something I truly believe in. My happiness and abundance went up when I established a 'Joy Budget' for myself and started to spend money happily with intention."
3. There's something good in this now. What is it?
Danielle Laporte says, "Acknowledged desires whisper to your potential, 'Come out, come out, wherever you are.'"
4. Define "My".
My toy. My car. My house. My spouse. My country. My life. My, my, my.
S.N. Goenka, the teacher who led the silent 10-day Vipassana meditation class I took, had a hilarious story about “my.” Imagine someone else’s watch got stolen. Someone else’s car broke down en route to an important meeting. Someone else’s order was messed up at the restaurant. Someone else’s spouse cheated on them. Unfortunate, but not that big of a deal for you, right?
Now imagine this: “My watch was stolen.” “My car broke down.” “My order was messed up at the restaurant.” “My spouse cheated on me.”
Takes on a whole new meaning when we add the “My,” doesn’t it?!? :)
It’s time to quit taking ourselves quite so seriously. Let’s witness our reactions to things, develop the ability to see ourselves as an actor in this game of life and loosen our grip on all things “my.” :) ~Brian Johnson
5. Name 5 thoughts you'd like to believe.
Whatever you think, you're right. So think what you want to be true. All it takes to install a new belief is practicing a new thought.
6. Name the one thing you are most confident about in yourself.
Remember this emotional bookmark whenever you need a little boost.
7. Finish this sentence: "I love it when..."
This helps you practice the feeling of love and appreciation, which invites more experiences to love and appreciate.
8. Name 3 things you love most about your life today.
Now imagine them disappearing from your life forever. Practice being detached from the things that make you feel good, and they won't make you feel bad when they're gone. The more you can let go, the less pain you'll feel. Every time you allow yourself to let go, you invite something better into your experience. When one good thing leaves your reality, it's life dealing you an even better hand. Picture floating down a river and seeing a beautiful tree. If you try to grab onto the tree, you'll fall out of your boat. The trick is to be in the moment, enjoying each new tree that comes your way. They'll keep getting better and better.
Share your positivity practice in the School of Life Design group
Every week, I post a link to the tips in the SoLD group. Leave a comment on this thread with your answer to one of the above tips. What method helps you focus? Which exercises boost your mood? Thanks for playing! I love you so much.