What if we really could be happy with what we have? What if we didn't need to change our bodies, relationships, or bank accounts to feel good about our lives? What if we could just make peace with what is, and see that we already have everything we want? Here are a few ideas for entering that state of mind.
Hungover? Count to 1000. So angry you could hit someone? Count to 100. Want to have a good day? Count to 10,000. One of the reasons silent counting works so well is because it gives me some distance from worries, fears, and overthinking long enough to see I didn't need any of those thoughts in the first place.
2. Act like you're always in a music video.
I am perpetually collecting methods for being present, or "in the Now". Nothing makes me more aware and appreciative of my current reality than listening to some good jams and pretending I'm the star of the video!
3. Try this mantra: "All my wishes are coming true."
Any time either Kelly or I get something we wanted, we exclaim, "All my wishes are coming true!" Notice it, get more of it!
4. Try this mantra: "I've decided to feel good about that. It's working itself out."
Last Friday I got up late. Instead of beating myself up about it, I said to myself, "I've decided to feel good about getting up late. It's working itself out." Then Kelly and I had to rush to get ready for an 8 mile bike ride up north. Kelly asked me if I wanted to meditate before we left, and even though I felt rushed, I decided to sit. I said to myself, "I've decided to feel good about my timing. It's working itself out." By the time we finished meditating, our friend had texted asking if we wanted a ride. On a humid, 90 degree day?! Yes! All our wishes are coming true!
5. Feel your inner body.
Another technique for entering the present moment, "feeling your inner body" is a suggestion I snagged from Eckhart Tolle. The idea is that feeling your inner body helps you sense the infinite energy source from which you come, and it takes your attention away from overthinking.
As I ease through my third decade of being human, I come to realize again and again that the solution is always to meditate. There is no action I can take to make more money or lose weight. But I can sit down to meditate, remember my oneness with life, and know that everything is already perfect and in its place and I don't need to change a thing.
My current mantra/technique for not driving myself crazy is this: to each worry or concern that arises in my mind, I say, "I've decided to feel good about that. It's working itself out." Then once I've run out of worries to pivot from, I come back to the present. I say, "Breathe in and be here now. Breathe out and be here now." I do my best to be present, alert and connected to the Now, where everything is fun and there is nothing to worry about.