Last week I auditioned to be a kickboxing instructor. Preparing for this event was beyond stressful. I have complete confidence in my mind and creativity, and have no problem performing at traditional job interviews. But at this audition, I was putting my physical body up for judgement. Was I slim enough? Did I kick my leg at the right angle? Should I be smiling, or snarling? Despite my worries, I ended up having a great time, and it was way easier than I thought it would be. While I haven't yet heard if I made it or not, I am so proud of myself for trying. Here are a few things that helped me believe in myself, relax and do my best.
1. Put on your sunglasses.
My friends and I were relaxing on a patch of grass on campus. A man came up to us and asked if he could freestyle for us. He requested a word from each of us (twilight, button, and exorcist), then started rapping with them. When his flow stuttered, he paused to put on his sunglasses. "When my eyes are closed, I can see a picture painted by your words. Then the words just flow." Sunglasses are my new favorite creative tool!
2. Try this mantra: "I live this moment fully as it is without needing it to be different."
I found this idea in How to Wake Up: A Buddhist-Inspired Guide to Navigating Joy and Sorrow. Last week, in the days leading up to my audition, an old knee injury started acting up. I spent a lot of time making peace with what was, and this mantra really helped me put things in perspective.
3. Have a knee injury? Check your ego.
According to Louise Hay, knee injuries are related to pride and ego. I had been stressed about how people were going to perceive me at my audition, and knew the injury was directly related to my thoughts about myself. Louise suggests the mantra, "I am flexible and flowing," which helped me release attachment to a specific outcome. Low and behold, the instant my audition was over, my knee felt 100% better.
4. Try this mantra: "I love miracles!"
This past weekend was my friend Emily's birthday, and I really wanted to spend some time with her. But our schedules just weren't going to allow it. I had friends in town, and she was busy with her own celebrations. I let my desire go and trusted I would get to see her eventually. Sunday afternoon, as Kelly and I walked our bikes down Barton Springs Road, we saw Emily and two other friends walking towards us. I SCREAMED with delight. The universe brought us together with zero effort on our part. It was a miracle! Wanting to plant a seed from the experience to grow more like it, I thought, "I love miracles!" The more I placed my focus on the thought, the more miracles I started seeing everywhere.
5. Just have fun!
The day before my audition, I got a Facebook message from one of my instructors at the gym. She wished me luck, and reminded me, "Just have fun!" I remembered that fun was the whole reason I wanted to try out in the first place. Remembering to be light and playful helped me enjoy the experience no matter what the outcome.
6. Try this mantra: "I've decided to feel good about that. It'll work itself out."
So my knee was hurting, I was nervous about transportation to the audition, and my anxiety levels were through the roof. Just in the nick of time, I got a pingback from Jesslyn Littlepage, reminding me of this mantra. Every time I thought of my audition, I said to myself, "I've decided to feel good about my audition. It'll work itself out." Kelly told me to make it into a game. "The less you think about it, the better," she said. And what do you know, it worked itself out.
Neale Donald Walsch suggests, "Choose a State of Being (Happy, Compassionate, Wise, Caring, Creative, Considerate, Forgiving, etc) in advance of each approaching moment." When you set intentions before entering a segment of your life, you're on the lookout for evidence that your intentions are manifesting. What you focus on, expands.
These intentions help me to practice the feelings of inadequacy, shame, jealousy, judgement and dissatisfaction:
I intend to stop eating pizza and ice cream.
I intend to go on a 21 day juice fast.
I intend to stop picking at my body.
I intend to get on a normal sleep schedule.
I intend to stop using drugs.
I intend to stop drinking.
I intend to make more money.
These intentions help me to practice the feelings of ease, acceptance, peace and excitement:
I intend to let it unfold.
I intend to feel good no matter what.
I intend to love myself the way I am.
I intend to let myself have fun.
I intend to allow more love into my life.
I intend to be mad!
Intention is powerful because it helps you practice feeling a certain way. How you feel attracts your thoughts, which in turn create your reality.
Being aware of the feelings your intentions generate is the key to using intention to serve yourself and the greater good.
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Welcome to Tuesday Tips, a weekly gathering of positive thoughts for your collection. This week I have some notable quotables helping me keep my head above water. I may have jumped in the deep end, but I'm getting a great swimming lesson!
1. "I dont do a post now unless I'm worried about what people will think about me."
Advice from James Altucher to Kamal Ravikant in Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It. Lately every time I post another article before telling Kelly, she gasps. She's all, "Omg, what did you do now?!" That's how I know I'm getting better at writing.
2. "I know attention creates, so my #1 intention is to pay attention to what I want more of." ~ Kelly Cree
Your most valuable resource isn't money, it's your attention. When you PAY attention, you're giving value to. You're literally investing in it, making it part of your portfolio. If you want stock in it, keep thinking about it. Otherwise think about something else. From now on, I will only give my attention to funny jokes, cute animals, pretty girls, and cold hard cash.
3. Instead of thinking, say a mantra to yourself over and over and over.
Using a mantra creates a channel in your mind for the rest of your thoughts to follow. Try one of these:
- It's working!
- I live the magick life.
- I have plenty.
- I know I'm free.
- I love and accept myself exactly the way I am.
- I love my now exactly the way it is.
- I love myself.
4. "Even as the stone of the fruit must break, that its heart may stand in the sun, so must you know pain." ~ Kahlil Gibran
Your incredible pain is creating incredible joy. It's all part of the process. Now click the link to read the rest of that poem because it will make your day!
5. "Everything happens for me, not to me." ~ Byron Katie
Enjoy the contrast—that's how you get out of it. Only contrast helps you know what you want! It's pulling your desires through you. Bless the contrast you experience, because it's creating the solution you desire. Every single time I remember, "Oh yeah, I'm supposed to like the hard times," I find a way to make peace and the situation resolves itself.
Here's a great technique: "Try the following exercise first with your eyes open & then repeat it with your eyes closed. Take a deep breath, hold it and notice the sensations as your heart beats three times, relax & breath out — repeat 3X. Breathe in and out slowly to a count of 4, as you do so notice how your body feels — relaxed & warm."
7. "There is only one question in Life that is truly important: How does what I am doing right now serve the agenda of my Soul?" ~ Neal Donald Walsch
The soul likes laughing and loving and playing, so let's go!
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