I love remembering that the meaning of life as I currently know it is simple: ask and it is given. We're here to enjoy being alive, not struggle with endless, painful, secret desires and overwhelming, nagging, illogical worries. Life experience causes us to have desires, and when those desires are launched, source energy creates them. Anything you can imagine is not only possible, but already exists. Have the desire, and the desire becomes real.
Accessing the manifestation of those desires is a learning process. Finding the formula for living the lives we want to live is the eternal task of the living. Through the filter of "ask and it is given," the formula is simple. Think about what you want, and then believe it will be given to you.
What does it mean to believe it will be given to you? It means to have 100% certainty that your desired manifestation is on the way, so you act like you already have it. For example, you may have 100% certainty that you'll get a paycheck every two weeks, so you behave accordingly. You might not have the money to spend right this instant, but you can still spend the money you already have, because you trust there is more coming.
How do we act "as if" when we don't yet have 100% certainty? We figure out how it feels, otherwise known as "practicing the feeling." If you don't know the feeling of riding a bike, you keep practicing riding until you get it. Learning to ride a bike is the same exact thing as learning to practice the feeling of having what you want.
An exercise I love to do every few weeks is to redefine my desires. I ask myself, "what do I truly want?" And then I ponder the desires behind the physical manifestations I want. I want money, but why? I want success, but why? I want those things because they will produce a specific feeling.
Exercise: What Do I Truly Want?
To practice the feeling of having what you want, try this simple exercise. Write about what you want in each major life category, and then ponder the feeling you want behind the physical manifestation. Afterwards, collect the "feelings" and turn them into affirmations. Focus all of your energy on feeling those feelings, day and night. Forget about the physical manifestations, and don't take action to try to make them happen. Just feel the way you think you'll feel when you get them, and you'll have what you want without the manifestation. This is how you "act as if" or train yourself into believing what you ask for is already yours.
My example is below.
What Do I Truly Want?
To be thin and svelte and look smokin in a bikini while playing at the Springs. I want to feel free and light and playful.
To never worry about money. To have enough to buy anything I want. To trust I will always have what I need. To feel secure and like I'm taken care of. Like I'm loved. I want to be a millionaire because I want to feel loved.
To be part of a family in a deep, sensual and thrilling way. I want to feel invested in and committed to my reality. I want to feel like I'm part of something bigger. I want to feel like every day is filled with excitement and thrills. Going boldly where no one has gone before. Exploring. Taking risks. Taking the risk of being vulnerable and reaching out with love. Taking the risk of giving love. Feeling the flow with multiple people at once. Like playing on a team.
To be the best lifestreamer in the world and to lead by example. I want to feel with 100% certainty that the work I do is the work I came to this reality to do. I want to feel 100% confidence in myself.
To love and support my partner in every way possible. To give my all to those closest to me. To find new ways to show my love. To open up more and more. To see the perfection in my partner. To see the best in my partner. To create new worlds with my partner. To be one with my partner and yet retain my uniqueness and independence. To let my partner give to me. To let myself receive. To help my partner receive the gifts I give her. I want to feel supportive and supported. I want to feel generous and receptive.
Affirm that you feel the way you want to feel already.
- I feel free and light and playful.
- I feel loved.
- I feel the flow with everyone around me.
- I feel like I'm on the same team as everyone else, part of something bigger than myself.
- I feel excited and thrilled.
- I feel bold, confident and spontaneous.
- I feel 100% certainty about every decision.
- I feel love and generosity towards those around me.
- I feel open, receptive, and uplifting.
One simple premise I live by is that thoughts create. If you believe that thoughts create, all you have to do to get what you want is think accordingly. But have you ever wondered how exactly to do that? What are the thoughts I should think to make my dream come true?
People into the law of attraction will tell you that it's as easy as telling a new story about your life. But how the eff do you tell a new story? It can be overwhelming to organize your thoughts into new patterns.
Mental coach Jim Fannin teaches people to achieve their dreams by telling them one thing: "Play a movie in your head of you achieving your big goal." But how do you come up with that movie?
Today I'm launching a solution that will help you craft the new story you want to live. It's called Life Story, and it's a one page 8.5 × 11" PDF download that you cut and fold into a cute 16 page book.
The way Life Story works is quick and easy. First, you identify what you want. This could be anything from "I want to make a new friend today" to "I want to be self-employed in 2012." Big or small, the goal doesn't matter.
Begin by stating what you want in past tense, which starts installing the thought pattern you desire. "This is the story of how I became self-employed in 2012."
Then you find one example of something that would make you believe you're on your way to your dream. "The first sign the trick was working was when several people commissioned my work."
Next, find an example manifestation that would pretty much seal the deal on your goal. "What truly tipped the scales and made me believe in my own power was the month I made more money from my own work than at my day job."
Since the scales have been tipped, all you have to do is relax and let the manifestation come to you. You know you've reached your goal, and "the icing on the cake was singing joyfully on the way out of the office on my last day of work."
Don't forget the the most fun part—make a cover for your book too!
Why it works
The reason Life Story works so well is because it gives you a simple 3-part story to recall instead of whatever random negative thoughts you may have been having in the past. Having a basic framework for the story you want to live puts you in the feeling place of having what you want, and allows the universe to fill in the details.
What you are doing at the core with Life Story is sending the signal of already having what you want. Telling your story the way you want to hear it is a way to be it and then see it. When your dominant thought pattern is "I already live the life of my dreams," your reality has no choice but to reflect that.
How do I get one?
Continue to the Life Story website to learn more, or click the button below to purchase.
I was turned onto the Law of Attraction (by my friend Jessie!) around the same time I began experimenting with a vegan raw food diet. And after eating totally raw for over a month, I found Abraham-Hicks, the philosophers who popularized the Law of Attraction. Over the next few months I met several others who went raw and got into Abraham around the same time too. What's the connection?
Diet isn't the key to happiness
When I was in grad school, I spent a LOT of time thinking about my diet, learning to cook, and eliminating foods. I was convinced that if I could just find a system of eating that was sustainable, healthy, and kept me skinny I could be happy forever. But after going as far as I could down the "healthy diet" spectrum, I still wasn't satisfied. Sure, I felt super healthy and looked great, but it still didn't solve that underlying "why is diet so complicated?!" feeling.
Enter Abraham, who cleared up the mystery. What you think about, you bring about, and if you think diet is complicated, it will be. If you think a raw food diet will make you feel good, it will. If you think donuts will make you fat, they will. I thought that what I ate greatly influenced my reality, so it did.
Thought is the core, not food
Addressing the basic activities in your life (diet, sleep, exercise) means you care about how you feel. But while tweaking and refining those activities will make you feel good, it won't "fix" your life, because you are still looking outside of yourself for peace. You choose your diet based on your beliefs, but your beliefs are only thoughts you think a lot. If you can take control over the seed of your experience, your thoughts, then you can eat whatever you want.
Is this a trick?!
Sounds pretty great right? Change your thoughts and be able to eat whatever you want, whenever you want. Well, after a whole year of trying to change my thoughts about food, I can't say it's any easier for me to believe I can eat a whole pizza and not feel sick. But I have reached an equilibrium in my diet, and a way to think about food that brings me peace.
Food doesn't make you fat. It's resistant thoughts about the food. When I eat, all I have to do is question whether I'm truly hungry, or whether I'm being lazy and looking to something outside of myself to make me feel good. If I'm truly hungry, my thoughts are of gratitude and relief. If I just want something to make me feel good, my thoughts go crazy, trying to figure out how much I should eat, can I get away with eating that, oh let's just eat everything in the fridge if it'll feel good.
If you look towards something outside of yourself to feel good, when it is gone it will make you feel bad. The only peace can come from within, and that peace is just a straight up choice. Choose to feel good first, and the rest will work itself out.