Two years ago I finished grad school with no job or plan, other than to follow my bliss and make money from my website. I drained my savings, emptied my IRA and investment accounts, lived off of credit and deferred payments on my student loans. I took a risk. It was scarier than jumping off a cliff.
I had discovered the law of attraction just before I graduated and knew "figuring out" how to use it was the path for me. I wanted to make it big. I wanted money to come to me. I wanted the law of attraction to be my quick fix.
For months, I struggled just figuring out what I wanted. I had vision boards full of beautiful houses and travel and toys. I played Abraham's "checkbook game". Not much changed in my actual pocketbook.
On Easter of 2011, I had a realization that money was just a puzzle I was learning how to play, and I had my first taste of the belief that "I can do this!" It might take me the rest of my life to figure out how to vibrate abundance, but I was going to do it.
More months passed. Money was getting tight. How were we going to pay the rent? I had my first strong knowing of what I wanted: enough money to pay the rent every month! Not a big house or an Alaskan cruise. Just rent money. That desire was strong.
One day Kelly and I were driving home from my parents' house in the country, listening to Nicki Minaj's "Moment for Life". I was suddenly slammed with a feeling of gratitude so strong, I cried tears of joy for the entire hour car ride. I felt the feeling of the universe taking care of me, and felt like everything in my reality was encouraging me to keep going. "Congratulations!" the trees said. "You're alive and we love you!" whispered the rolling hills. The cars whizzing by were yelling "hooray, you're here and everything is working out!"
I came home and wrote this article. I had finally experienced the feeling I'd been looking for since leaving school—that life really was conspiring to support me.
Within a couple weeks, Kelly and I were offered an internship at UnderConsideration, and they were going to pay us more than enough to pay our rent. It seemed so simple. How to play the money puzzle was becoming clear: Figure out what you really, truly, strongly desire, find the feeling of what it would feel like, then let go and trust it was coming.
The internship proved to be the best thing that ever happened to us. The experiences we've had with UCllc have been more valuable than any amount of money. But still, eventually we needed to figure out how to make enough money to pay for our bills and living expenses, not just the rent.
Since the beginning of the year, Kelly and I have focused on growing our online businesses. Surely that would be the ticket to making more money, right? We redesigned websites, we made new products, we created stores. We have biweekly status meetings. We have appreciation rituals. We've fallen in love with being entrepreneurs.
But the money wasn't enough. We were making enough passive income to pay some of the bills, but not everything. We didn't have any client work. Trying to make new products and work on our sites felt so hard. It felt like pushing against the flow.
Last year I read this article by Steve Pavlina called How to Defeat Kolrami. It was about how as soon as he stopped trying to make money, the money came. It makes sense, because if you're trying to make money, you're vibrating a feeling of "I don't have money and I need to make it." Yesterday morning, I woke up and decided I had had enough of trying to make money. "Trying" just wasn't working out for me, and it hadn't been for two years. It was time to give it up.
At the same time I gave up on trying, I began using a new mantra: "I've decided to feel good about money. It will work itself out." Throughout the day, when I got emails from my loan companies or credit cards, instead of feeling stressed, I just thought "I've decided to feel good about money. It'll work itself out."
Yesterday I used that mantra when I payed my car insurance with my credit card. I used it when I payed my rent with a nerve-wrackingly low checking account balance. I used it when I got an email about my student loans. I used it when I got a notification that my credit card bill was due. Four times. I felt that feeling of "I've decided to feel good about money" four times.
By 4pm, I had an email in my inbox notifying me that I just got a client job worth $10,500.
I fell on the floor with relief. And laughed, and laughed, and laughed. Because it was so much easier than I ever made it out to be. I just decided to feel good about money, and trusted it was working itself out. I was allowing the money to come to me. I didn't have to do anything. I just had to stop worrying about it.
This morning I woke up to a $65 affiliate commission from Bluehost. A $52 commission from 1ShoppingCart. A $15 video sale. And it's payday at UCllc.
I've cracked the code. The code isn't knowing how to attract money, because I've known how since I learned about the law of attraction. The code is learning to stop being afraid and just trust that life is taking care of me. The code is learning to feel good even when I'm swimming in bills.
The code is deciding to feel good anyway. And anyone can do it. Just decide to feel good about money. It's working itself out.
I love remembering that the meaning of life as I currently know it is simple: ask and it is given. We're here to enjoy being alive, not struggle with endless, painful, secret desires and overwhelming, nagging, illogical worries. Life experience causes us to have desires, and when those desires are launched, source energy creates them. Anything you can imagine is not only possible, but already exists. Have the desire, and the desire becomes real.
Accessing the manifestation of those desires is a learning process. Finding the formula for living the lives we want to live is the eternal task of the living. Through the filter of "ask and it is given," the formula is simple. Think about what you want, and then believe it will be given to you.
What does it mean to believe it will be given to you? It means to have 100% certainty that your desired manifestation is on the way, so you act like you already have it. For example, you may have 100% certainty that you'll get a paycheck every two weeks, so you behave accordingly. You might not have the money to spend right this instant, but you can still spend the money you already have, because you trust there is more coming.
How do we act "as if" when we don't yet have 100% certainty? We figure out how it feels, otherwise known as "practicing the feeling." If you don't know the feeling of riding a bike, you keep practicing riding until you get it. Learning to ride a bike is the same exact thing as learning to practice the feeling of having what you want.
An exercise I love to do every few weeks is to redefine my desires. I ask myself, "what do I truly want?" And then I ponder the desires behind the physical manifestations I want. I want money, but why? I want success, but why? I want those things because they will produce a specific feeling.
Exercise: What Do I Truly Want?
To practice the feeling of having what you want, try this simple exercise. Write about what you want in each major life category, and then ponder the feeling you want behind the physical manifestation. Afterwards, collect the "feelings" and turn them into affirmations. Focus all of your energy on feeling those feelings, day and night. Forget about the physical manifestations, and don't take action to try to make them happen. Just feel the way you think you'll feel when you get them, and you'll have what you want without the manifestation. This is how you "act as if" or train yourself into believing what you ask for is already yours.
My example is below.
What Do I Truly Want?
To be thin and svelte and look smokin in a bikini while playing at the Springs. I want to feel free and light and playful.
To never worry about money. To have enough to buy anything I want. To trust I will always have what I need. To feel secure and like I'm taken care of. Like I'm loved. I want to be a millionaire because I want to feel loved.
To be part of a family in a deep, sensual and thrilling way. I want to feel invested in and committed to my reality. I want to feel like I'm part of something bigger. I want to feel like every day is filled with excitement and thrills. Going boldly where no one has gone before. Exploring. Taking risks. Taking the risk of being vulnerable and reaching out with love. Taking the risk of giving love. Feeling the flow with multiple people at once. Like playing on a team.
To be the best lifestreamer in the world and to lead by example. I want to feel with 100% certainty that the work I do is the work I came to this reality to do. I want to feel 100% confidence in myself.
To love and support my partner in every way possible. To give my all to those closest to me. To find new ways to show my love. To open up more and more. To see the perfection in my partner. To see the best in my partner. To create new worlds with my partner. To be one with my partner and yet retain my uniqueness and independence. To let my partner give to me. To let myself receive. To help my partner receive the gifts I give her. I want to feel supportive and supported. I want to feel generous and receptive.
Affirm that you feel the way you want to feel already.
- I feel free and light and playful.
- I feel loved.
- I feel the flow with everyone around me.
- I feel like I'm on the same team as everyone else, part of something bigger than myself.
- I feel excited and thrilled.
- I feel bold, confident and spontaneous.
- I feel 100% certainty about every decision.
- I feel love and generosity towards those around me.
- I feel open, receptive, and uplifting.
One simple premise I live by is that thoughts create. If you believe that thoughts create, all you have to do to get what you want is think accordingly. But have you ever wondered how exactly to do that? What are the thoughts I should think to make my dream come true?
People into the law of attraction will tell you that it's as easy as telling a new story about your life. But how the eff do you tell a new story? It can be overwhelming to organize your thoughts into new patterns.
Mental coach Jim Fannin teaches people to achieve their dreams by telling them one thing: "Play a movie in your head of you achieving your big goal." But how do you come up with that movie?
Today I'm launching a solution that will help you craft the new story you want to live. It's called Life Story, and it's a one page 8.5 × 11" PDF download that you cut and fold into a cute 16 page book.
The way Life Story works is quick and easy. First, you identify what you want. This could be anything from "I want to make a new friend today" to "I want to be self-employed in 2012." Big or small, the goal doesn't matter.
Begin by stating what you want in past tense, which starts installing the thought pattern you desire. "This is the story of how I became self-employed in 2012."
Then you find one example of something that would make you believe you're on your way to your dream. "The first sign the trick was working was when several people commissioned my work."
Next, find an example manifestation that would pretty much seal the deal on your goal. "What truly tipped the scales and made me believe in my own power was the month I made more money from my own work than at my day job."
Since the scales have been tipped, all you have to do is relax and let the manifestation come to you. You know you've reached your goal, and "the icing on the cake was singing joyfully on the way out of the office on my last day of work."
Don't forget the the most fun part—make a cover for your book too!
Why it works
The reason Life Story works so well is because it gives you a simple 3-part story to recall instead of whatever random negative thoughts you may have been having in the past. Having a basic framework for the story you want to live puts you in the feeling place of having what you want, and allows the universe to fill in the details.
What you are doing at the core with Life Story is sending the signal of already having what you want. Telling your story the way you want to hear it is a way to be it and then see it. When your dominant thought pattern is "I already live the life of my dreams," your reality has no choice but to reflect that.
How do I get one?
Continue to the Life Story website to learn more, or click the button below to purchase.