Welcome to Tuesday Tips, the weekly digest of life design tricks and techniques. All of my suggestions come down to practicing the same idea: don’t worry, be happy! As Alan Watts says, “Basically, there is simply nothing to worry about, because you yourself are the eternal energy of the universe.”
1. Make art just to make art.
What if you could make any art you wanted, but couldn’t share it online? Is it still worth making if you can’t get likes and favs on it? Try creating something for the pure pleasure of it. Imagine the act of you making art as a one person show with a one person audience–you.
2. Make your art better.
When I was a kid, I would frequently win the coloring contests at my local grocery store. My secret was simple: just use something a little more creative than crayons. Cotton balls for clouds and bunny tails always seemed to do the trick. When making your own art, ask yourself, “How could I win the coloring contest?” Inspiration will come.
3. Try this mantra: “I love myself, right now.”
I made a nice meditation about this one. If you can repeat it over and over eventually you’ll train your mind into manifesting circumstances in which you actually do love yourself right now. It’s really neat!
4. Remember your power. Every thought is a prayer!
If you haven’t checked out E-Squared: Nine Do-It-Yourself Energy Experiments That Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality yet, please do! It explains so many concepts of conscious creation with humor and ease. Here’s a little testament to the power of your mind: “The only reason Jesus could walk on water was because 100 percent of his thoughts (prayers) believed he could. He had overcome the world’s thought system that says Only an idiot would be stupid enough to step out of the boat. There was not one doubt–not a single thought (prayer) in his consciousness that didn’t fully believe it.”
5. Read David Cain’s blog, Raptitude.
I was going to pile a bunch more tips in this edition based on David’s articles, but you should really just go read them yourself. First: Why most problems never have to be solved. To summarize: write down each problem as it occurs to you on a post-it. Then go through your post-its at the end of the week and prove to yourself how many things do work themselves out. Then read The First World’s biggest addiction. David explains how every time we reach for coffee or alcohol or food or our phones, “we are training ourselves to be needy and dependent on circumstances.” Finally, check out 15 unexpected side-benefits to living in the present moment to convince your mind to try it out, right now.
6. Examine your anxiety.
I came across this tumblr post about the long term effects of anxiety: shortness of breath, rashes, headaches, and fatigue to name a few. I’ve had all of those symptoms and it suddenly occurred to me that my inexplicable asthma and allergies are likely just caused by anxiety. Again and again I remind myself to relax and stop worrying. Now that I have made the connection between my thoughts and physical symptoms, I can be more conscious of my triggers, and more devoted to chilling the eff out.
7. Find your muse: channel desire into creativity.
You know when you want someone so bad it drives you crazy and you can’t think of anything else? You can tap into that energy and use it to drive your creative work. From Think and Grow Rich:
The energy must be transmuted from desire for physical contact, into some other form of desire and action, before it will lift one to the status of a genius…The salesman who knows how to take his mind off the subject of sex, and direct it in sales effort with as much enthusiasm and determination as he would apply to its original purpose, has acquired the art of sex transmutation.
8. If you flow, you’re a flower.
I found this gem by Forest Sage in the Universal Geometry Spirit Science video. “If you labor, you are a ‘laborer’. If you work on a farm, you are a ‘farmer’. And if you flow, you are a ‘Flower’.” Finally, an answer to, “What do you do?”
9. Be a joy for yourself to watch.
This reality you’re seeing is for your eyes only. You are the performer, and you are the audience. Don’t let what other people think influence what you do. Just do what delights you, right now. Sing while you do the chores. Type with a flourish. Sit up straight and smile for your camera. The only purpose this moment has is for you to enjoy it. And when you take pleasure in being yourself, others will too.
YOU ARE GOD IN HUMAN FORM! You can be or do or have anything you fancy! Trust this moment, embrace the contrast! What is your contrast???
I want to be my reason for feeling good instead of looking to things outside of me (coffee drugs food entertainment work friends etc) to make me feel better.
Breathe in and say I LOVE MYSELF
Breathe out and say Jessica I love and accept you exactly the way you are
You are just judging yourself. You can let go of your thoughts and judgements by returning to the now. Go back to “Jessica I love and accept you exactly the way you are.”
That will rev you up to be a match to conscious breathing again, where you have access to feelings of confidence and power because you are feeling good about yourself, where you feel good just being alive.
Once you accept and love yourself the behaviors you judge will fall away anyway, because you love and accept yourself so there is no need to rebel or act out.
Jessica, I love and accept you exactly the way you are.
It’s a pattern.
Duality / Separateness –> Judging self and world (creates contrast to inspire
Becoming one with self / the observer –> Practicing self-love (gives access to
Becoming one with reality –> Practicing conscious breathing (results in
Oneness / Divinity –> Absence of ego
Absence of ego generally leads to quantum leaps in perspective of self. Once the ego returns (we can’t shut our minds off permanently, nor would we want to) and sees positive manifestations, it becomes attached to the manifestations and wants to take credit. This identification with manifestations again creates duality perspective, of “I am this who wants to hold onto that”.
Holding on creates contrast, which creates pain. The pain can become so great that the individual is forced to crumble or rally, by practicing self-destruction or self-love.
After enough self-destruction the human experience seems set up to eventually realize self-love.
Once you love yourself, you can begin to love your reality, because you will begin to see that you are your reality.
Becoming one with reality tends to be a very in the Now situation, so there isn’t much thought. An individual may choose to augment or assist this perspective with conscious breathing, a powerful method for being present. Placing the attention on the breath keeps the individual paying attention to the current moment.
A human may get so into the rhythm of breath that the ego completely falls away, resulting in a state of consciousness called divinity. It’s where we sometimes go in meditation, or when we’re holding onto a lover, or during extreme stress or exercise.
That state of pure joy and bliss releases so much resistance that positive manifestations rain down. We see that the manifestations are not what bring joy, it’s the joy that brings manifestations. We feel no different when we get the big check, the phonecall, the new car, because we already felt the feeling of having those things before they could arrive.
Inevitably the ego gets involved, we start thinking about the manifestations, worrying, etc. And thus the cycle begins again. Surf the waves instead of getting sucked back under by going back to loving the self, to being at peace with what is, to embracing the contrast.
Art by Kelly Cree
Welcome to Tuesday Tips, the weekly guide to life design. Take a deep breath, smile and let your worries go, because life is taking care of you. Here are a few ways to become one with the life that loves you so much.
Life is working out. Trust that you’re in the right place at the right time. You are!
2. Do what you’re scared to do.
Is there something you want to do but won’t, because you think it’s impossible? Go for it anyway! That desire is helping you demolish your limiting beliefs about yourself. You can do anything you want to do if you just take the first step. For example: for the last couple years I’ve contemplated becoming a fitness instructor, but I’ve always talked myself out of it because I’m not strong enough or disciplined enough or dedicated enough. All those are lame limiting beliefs! So I signed up for an instructor audition on May 3! I am terrified but so proud of myself for at least trying.
3. Read E-Squared: Nine Do-It-Yourself Energy Experiments That Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality.
I’ve only read a couple chapters so far, but I can already tell this is my favorite book ever. It is SO practical and matter-of-fact about “god” and our powers as creators. My favorite part is how the author explains “god”: it’s a force like gravity or electricity, and it’s not biased or judgmental. You don’t pray for three days to become worthy enough to plug your toaster into the wall, so why take that approach when connecting to your divine power? It’s just like electricity; plug in and it’s yours!
4. Remember that every thought creates.
Every time you criticize someone or draw attention to things you don’t like, you’re creating more things to criticize and dislike. Every. Single. Thought. Creates. Use your power to create what you want.
5. Feel broke? Go shopping!
Another favorite part of E-Squared: Nine Do-It-Yourself Energy Experiments That Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality is this morsel of advice: “My friend Carla is resolute in her belief that when you feel broke, you simply must go out shopping. Immediately. ‘Ya gotta kick that belief in the nuts,’ is how I believe she words it.”
6. Embrace contrast.
I have to remind myself of this again and again, but it always works. If you are experiencing contrast (i.e., things you don’t want), tell yourself to embrace it. The second you start to appreciate or even enjoy your misfortune, it will clear up. The contrast is a GOOD thing, because it’s what is causing you to know what you DO want, so you can get it!
7. Try this mantra again: “(Your name), I love and accept you exactly the way you are.”
After a week of hard partying for SXSW, I started feeling a little guilty and mad at myself for drinking so much. Instead of wallowing in self-pity and beating myself up about it, I immediately went to this mantra. It is so soothing. After repeating it a few dozen times, I start believing it. I start appreciating my choices and experiences. I start loving myself like I love my friends–I don’t care how ratchet they are, I love them the way they are because they’re good, fun, beautiful people. And you are too.