When I wrote about my coming out story, I was writing from fear. I was focusing on something I felt guilty about. I was trying to escape shame. And it worked! It made me feel supported and loved and relieved to write that.
Now I see how I needed that at the time, but it is no longer prudent to write about factual mortal physical reality.
If I cannot at this moment write my vision, I can at least write about what I love in my life. I can create out of love instead of using writing to fearfully pop the zits of my consciousness, digging and digging trying to eradicate the dark spots for a moment of relief. When the mark takes days to heal, I inevitably remember, “I should never touch them! They always disappear when I’m not focused on them.”
It’s exactly the same for the rest of our lives. The problems disappear when we’re not focused on them. They literally fade away. When you stop thinking about your problems, you’ll find you no longer have them.
Here are three routes to stop thinking about your problems.
#1 Focus on bringing more of what you like in.
Don’t make goals to stop doing things like:
- eating meat
- doing drugs
Instead set intentions to fill your life more with things you enjoy. Allow these things to come to you naturally, instead of taking action to make them happen. For example:
- I intend to meditate a little bit every day.
- I intend to write.
- I intend to make art.
- I intend to practice hooping.
I have meditated every day since my “rehab” began. I’ve made more art and created more. I did a shitload of worksheets that helped keep me focused in times of extreme contrast.
But I’ve also drank, smoked, eaten meat, etc. Everything I wanted to stop was like “HELL NO! WE AIN’T GOIN’ NOWHERE!” The restrictions made me feel guilty while the additions made me feel joy and success.
#2: Use a mantra and seriously, for real, stick to thinking it all day.
GET CONTROL OF YOUR MIND. Tame the beast! It’s outta control in there!
Send a vibration of love. Meditate. Think in mantras. Count. Do whatever you have to do to maintain a meditative state of focus, all day. Say “I love myself” most of the time and “I love you” when interacting with other beings.
#3: Make Love Art
The third way to stop thinking about your problems is to actively create about what you already have that you like. What I’d like to be doing on my site, instead of lamenting financial acne, is creating content about all the things I love and would love more of:
- flow toys
- homecooked vegan food
- good music
That list was a little hard to generate. I haven’t done this in a long time. I became so quickly habituated to the good things in my life that I forgot to feel grateful until they started slipping away.
I intend to spend time focusing on what I love that I already have!
So simple. It’s always so simple.
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Welcome to Tuesday Tips, a weekly gathering of positive thoughts for your collection. This week I have some notable quotables helping me keep my head above water. I may have jumped in the deep end, but I’m getting a great swimming lesson!
1. “I dont do a post now unless I’m worried about what people will think about me.”
Advice from James Altucher to Kamal Ravikant in Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It. Lately every time I post another article before telling Kelly, she gasps. She’s all, “Omg, what did you do now?!” That’s how I know I’m getting better at writing.
2. “I know attention creates, so my #1 intention is to pay attention to what I want more of.” ~ Kelly Cree
Your most valuable resource isn’t money, it’s your attention. When you PAY attention, you’re giving value to. You’re literally investing in it, making it part of your portfolio. If you want stock in it, keep thinking about it. Otherwise think about something else. From now on, I will only give my attention to funny jokes, cute animals, pretty girls, and cold hard cash.
3. Instead of thinking, say a mantra to yourself over and over and over.
Using a mantra creates a channel in your mind for the rest of your thoughts to follow. Try one of these:
- It’s working!
- I live the magick life.
- I have plenty.
- I know I’m free.
- I love and accept myself exactly the way I am.
- I love my now exactly the way it is.
- I love myself.
4. “Even as the stone of the fruit must break, that its heart may stand in the sun, so must you know pain.” ~ Kahlil Gibran
Your incredible pain is creating incredible joy. It’s all part of the process. Now click the link to read the rest of that poem because it will make your day!
5. “Everything happens for me, not to me.” ~ Byron Katie
Enjoy the contrast—that’s how you get out of it. Only contrast helps you know what you want! It’s pulling your desires through you. Bless the contrast you experience, because it’s creating the solution you desire. Every single time I remember, “Oh yeah, I’m supposed to like the hard times,” I find a way to make peace and the situation resolves itself.
Here’s a great technique: “Try the following exercise first with your eyes open & then repeat it with your eyes closed. Take a deep breath, hold it and notice the sensations as your heart beats three times, relax & breath out — repeat 3X. Breathe in and out slowly to a count of 4, as you do so notice how your body feels — relaxed & warm.”
7. “There is only one question in Life that is truly important: How does what I am doing right now serve the agenda of my Soul?” ~ Neal Donald Walsch
The soul likes laughing and loving and playing, so let’s go!
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Welcome to Tuesday Tips, the ultimate positive thinking resource. This week I’m keeping it simple. The synopsis? Say yes, take risks, you’re already awesome, the money’s on the way, stop thinking, give joy, say I love you, and meditate to find all the answers. Easy!
1. Say yes.
Saying yes has never not worked out in my favor.
2. Take risks.
“If you win, you will be happy; if you lose, you will learn to be wise.” ~ Ryan Plesko
3. Say you’re awesome and you’ll do something awesome.
My 9-year-old friend Janie was going around declaring “I’m awesome!” “Heck yeah you are!” I agreed with her. A few minutes later she organized an enormous DVD collection and cleared out a cubby for me to use as a desk when I’m at her house. It was truly awesome. Not only that, but a couple days earlier her mom had expressed her desire of having her DVD collection organized. Everyone got something they wanted, and Janie continues to be awesome.
4. Think of money as a girl.
If you’re good at relationships, you can apply what you know to money. Don’t chase it! Let it come to you!
5. Change your perspective on wealth.
“Wealth consists not in having great possessions, but in having few wants.” ~ Epictetus
6. If you can’t think something nice, don’t think anything at all.
Count in your head, meditate, or go to sleep.
7. Make your mission to GIVE joy.
Brian Johnson advises, “Imagine a life in which we seek to GIVE joy. A life in which we enter relationships to GIVE joy. A life in which we work to GIVE joy.”
8. Just say I love you.
Even if it’s just in your head. Say it to everything! It’ll kill you to do it to the stuff you don’t like, but if you can love what you don’t like, nothing can ever hurt you! And say I love you to all the unsung heroes in your reality: your dashboard widgets, your floorboards, your printer, your bed. The texture of your walls, the used napkin from lunch, your cat purring. All of it wants love, and you have an infinite supply.
9. Meditate, then ask your creative self for a solution.
Jon Ray reminded me of this one. David Lynch does this too. Quiet your mind and ask for the solution to come to you. As soon as you relax, it’ll be right in front of you.
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Welcome to Tuesday Tips, a weekly guide to living the magick life. Take a deep breath and let go of your worries, because every little thing is going to be all right. Trust that the universe is on your side and it is!
1. Notice miracles.
Jamie Windsong Kasper posts on Facebook, “My world is filled with miracles. I think all of our lives are it is just a matter of us taking notice. And miracles, they like to be appreciated like every being on the planet.” The whole idea of appreciating miracles as beings makes my heart swell!
2. Rewrite your about page.
I recommend doing this as often as you can. Laura Roeder suggested in her weekly newsletter The Dash, “Write a letter to your ideal customer. Tell them what you want them to know about you, and your business. Tell them how excited you are about helping them, and what inspired you to start the business.” Gala Darling also has some excellent ideas for keeping your brand fresh in Get It, Girl: 10 Ways To Make The Most Of Any Workshop Or Event!
3. The words “I am” matter A LOT!
Oprah gets it! Check out this video on her favorite philosophy, “You become what you believe.” Try it yourself—fill in the blank with whatever you want to be true: “I am __________.” Make that your mantra of the day and watch it materialize. In the video Oprah quotes Pastor Joel Osteen: “Whatever follows ‘I am’ is going to come looking for you.” DEEP. (And much thanks to Aislinn in the School of Life Design group for pointing out this gem!)
4. Laugh for no reason!
This feels incredible! You’ll also feel extremely silly at first, but IT WORKS! Try it, I promise you’ll love it.
5. Release your stress.
In The Power of Now, Eckart Tolle teaches us, “Stress is caused by being ‘here’ but wanting to be ‘there,’ or being in the present but wanting to be in the future.” Do whatever you can to be happy exactly where you are and you’ll feel less and less stressed. Try the mantra, “I’m so happy with what I have” or “It’s already the way I want it to be” or “I’m at peace with what is.”
6. Become what you want, right now.
Fill in the blank with whatever you want: I am ______________.
And then LAUGH!!!!
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Welcome to Tuesday Tips, the weekly guide to practicing positive thinking. As I continue upon my journey of life, I find myself going through the same process for every desire I birth. I want something so desperately, and keep it away from myself for what feels like eons. Then, as I find a new desire to focus upon and stop caring about the old one so much, the old desire manifests and I feel silly for ever doubting that it would one day be mine. The moral of the story: no matter what it is, trust it’s coming your way! Trust life. It made you, it sustains you, and it’s helping you thrive, right now.
1. Laugh with your friends.
Spending time with the people you love is one of the best ways to get in a good mood. When you leave their company, high on giggles, you’ll head back to your work with unprecedented fervor. What would have taken you all day now takes you 30 minutes, because you’re in such a good mood that you zip from solution to solution.
2. If you’re an entrepreneur, read this.
I met Laura Roeder when we both lived in Chicago. She has always been an inspiration to me, because she’s so smart about business and knew from early on that trading her time for money just wasn’t going to cut it. This interview with Laura on Entrepreneur On Fire really sheds a lot of light on her business model, and gave me so much inspiration! If you’re interested in a subscription-based business model or in selling information products, this interview is a great read.
3. Try this mantra: “I’m the creator. It’s already the way I want it to be.”
If you can get yourself to believe this, you’ll basically have the key to it all.
During this one track 6 (Going Wrong by Armin Van Buuren to be exact) in RPM (a cycle class), our instructor Kristy always says “When everything’s going wrong, that’s when you know it’s going right. Trust.” The universe is always on your side!
5. Positive thinkers teach you to not get upset about negative experiences, but don’t get too attached to the positive ones either.
Understand that a lot of your contrast (negative emotion) is guilt because you feel responsible for keeping things as good as they are. You get attached to how good they are and want to “keep thinking positively” about these subjects so you don’t lose them. But you have to trust that they will stay there if they’re meant to be. You can appreciate them as much as possible and that will actually do something GOOD for your reality, whereas worrying about losing the positive aspects of your life will literally wear them away.
6. “Magic isn’t conjured by the mind, it’s conjured by emotion.”
Who knew you could learn so much from TV? This was spoken in the show “Once Upon A Time” and it pretty much nails the process of “creating your own reality.” You can’t think your way into making things work out for you. You can only feel the way you want to feel now, and let life work out the details.
7. Practice the feeling of what it will feel like to have what you want.
When you have a point of contrast that you can’t seem to get over, try picturing what you’ll say when it finally is over. You’ll be sitting around with your partner or friend, and you’ll say, “Remember when I used to care about that one thing? How silly! Now I have that solution in spades!” Here’s another way to look at it:
Picture what you want in your mind and add emotion. Your brain tunes into the energy which resonates with the frequency of what you are picturing. That wave of energy instantly begins coming towards you. Let that picture dominate your thoughts and that wave of energy will eventually reach you. Your brain will then convert it into the sights and sounds of your reality. ~ Paradigm Shift
8. “Embrace what you have. It could all change in an instant.”
This one comes from TV too—Spartacus to be exact. When you find yourself trying to fight your way out of your current moment (to get to work, to get home, to meet someone, etc.), take a look around you at the abundance surrounding you right now, that you want so much to leave. Imagine it’s your last time with these people, in this place. Embrace where you are! It’s exactly what you wanted at some point before, and it’s all you need! You’ll always get where you’re going, but can you enjoy where you are?
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Welcome to Tuesday Tips, the juiciest collection of positive thoughts in the galaxy. This week the tips are focused on paying attention to the abundance you already have, and feeling the way you want to feel right now. To sum it all up: notice all the good stuff going on now, and feel as if you have all the good stuff you want. All you have is now, and right now is pretty effing good. Look around at all you have and celebrate! It’s all here for you!
1. Set intentions all day every day.
Kelly always blows my mind with this one. She’ll wake up totally chipper after a long night with very little sleep, and I ask how she does it. She says she just sets an intention the night before to wake up feeling good, and it always works.
3. Try this mantra: “In this moment, I am in acceptance of all my life – its challenges and its joys. I am blessed.”
Think you’ll be happier “if only” you could have that one thing? Tommy Rosen suggests using this mantra to escape the pattern of thinking you’ll be happier in the future by deciding to be happy right now.
4. Think about what you have instead of what you don’t.
You can bring more abundance into your life by focusing on things you already have. Instead of thinking “I don’t have enough time,” think “I have an exciting life.” Or instead of “I don’t have enough money” try “I have the rent paid and food in the fridge.” I used to wake up feeling dread because of all the things I wanted but didn’t have, but now I wake up thinking “I have…” and fill in the blank over and over. This morning I found a dirty spoon in the sink and instead of thinking “I don’t have a clean kitchen,” I thought, “I have a spoon!” which made me feel ridiculously giddy!
5. Count through the pain.
I post about this tip all the time, but here is someone else’s experience with counting:
I was thinking about this sort of ‘everyday meditation’ recently during a really long tattoo session. It was on a very sensitive area and by hour 5 the pain was crazy, but it was also combined with the boredom of lying on a bench motionless for that long. But, it was the absolute perfect environment to meditate.. Nothing else distracting me except the pain, and then I had the choice to feel the full extent of the pain, or, do consciousness experiments to see the best way to ‘let go of my body’. To be honest I’ve tried counting before with moderate interest, but this time it was PERFECT. I counted for hours, following the stream. It became almost like a lucid dream, that half-awake half-asleep stage where you just surrender. The pain subsided dramatically. ~ Ariane
6. Say I love you.
I often talk about saying I love you in my daily meditations, and here is JeredtheShy’s experience with the practice:
So I’ve been using these lessons. I’m on the job saying ridiculous things to myself. “I love you, these dishes. I love you, obnoxious coworker.” And so on. It WORKS. I spent a couple weeks saying “I love you” to basically everything that sucked, and my life was better. But then, after doing it under duress, I did that to things I actually LIKED. Oh, baby, turbo happy times. ~ JeredtheShy
7. Practice the feeling.
If you can feel as if you have what you want, it’s already yours. Think about what you want, then imagine yourself receiving it. Feel what it will actually feel like to receive it. Anytime you think of the desire again, just remember that feeling. That feeling is how you send a clear, strong signal attracting what you want.
8. Make your goal to enjoy being.
If you can learn to just enjoy the fact that you’re alive, nothing will ever phase you. Look around… we live in a miracle! No matter what happens, you’re still breathing. And that’s the only thing you need to enjoy life.
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Welcome to Tuesday Tips, a weekly collection of ways to practice positive thinking. This week the tips challenge you to advance your life design practice to new levels. Learn how to channel with automatic writing, why positive thought is better than no thought at all, and how to send a clear strong signal that will reflect back to you the experiences you desire.
1. Get your PayPal account sitting right!
Expecting a huge increase in your PayPal sales? Sometimes your account can get frozen when you make more money than usual. Read this post for suggestions on how to deal with your increase in abundance and keep your assets liquid!
2. Try automatic writing.
Jon Ray posted a fantastic article on his experiment with automatic writing. Ask yourself a question, then close your eyes and type whatever comes to mind. Eirini Haritou wrote about it too: “The answers you’re looking for are inside of you!”
3. Decide what you want, then look for it.
My oracle wife gives the best advice. It really can’t get any simpler.
What do you do when you feel relief? You laugh! What do you do when you come across a brilliant idea that you know will change the world? YOU LAUGH LIKE A MANIAC. I suspect there is a direct correlation between solutions and laughter, so just aim to laugh a lot and the solutions will pour right on in.
5. Step forward into growth.
Abraham Maslow says that in every moment you have the choice to step forward into growth, or back into safety. You get to make this choice thousands of times a day. By the end of your day, have you made more steps into growth, or stepped back more into safety? Make the choice to step forward into growth, no matter how scary it seems. Use your fear for fuel—it’s pointing you in the right direction!
6. Chill out by picturing yourself at age 110.
You are one hundred and ten years old. A time machine has just been invented, and you are selected as one of the first people to use it. The inventor, a scientist from NASA, tells you that you will be transported back to the day when, as it happens, you first read Happier. You, with the wisdom of having lived and experienced life, have fifteen minutes to spend with your younger and less experienced self. What do you say when you meet? What advice do you give yourself? ~ Tal Ben-Shahar from Happier
7. Literally take things off your hands.
Kelly had a splinter. I wanted to help her with it. She told me not to worry about it, but I kept pushing. My friend Janie told me to let it go and “take it off my hands”. She had me hold my hands up, placed hers against mine, then pulled hers away, saying “There, now it’s off your hands!” The physical visualization helped me truly let go!
8. Try this mantra again: “I DON’T CARE!”
Every time I experience extreme contrast, I reach a point where I have to stop caring or I’ll simply combust. Saying “I don’t care!” over and over to myself any time I feel a negative emotion helps me let go SO EASILY. It’s working even better than counting—meaning it helps me let go of negative thoughts quickly. Just say “I don’t care” and tune out that negativity like a song you don’t like.
9. Positive thought is better than no thought.
The following is a conversation between Abraham and a guest at a workshop in Washington, DC on 10/18/03 (found through TheAbeList). It answers so many questions for me.
Abraham: “No thought” is not better than pure positive thought.
Guest: I’ve never heard that before! WOW! Thank you… If I wanted to channel you, wouldn’t I need to be a place of no thought?
Abraham: You’d need to be in a place of receptivity, but appreciation is as receptive as it gets. Love is as receptive as it gets.
What you gotta realize is that at your highest, tapped in, tuned in state, there IS thought, but it’s really, really good feeling thought. So rather than trying to be thoughtless try to be good feeling in the thought, good feeling in the thought, good feeling in the thought, good feeling in the thought, good feeling in the thought! That’s what you are reaching for, not thoughtless.
Thoughtlessness releases resistance and the releasing of resistance gives you relief.
10. Want something? Appreciate it, but don’t care if you have it or not.
There is a sweet spot of appreciation without need, that allows what you want to flow to you. For example, I adore cars, and I love driving. I’ve spent all of my adult life appreciating the joys of automobile transportation. At the same time, I’ve always been intrigued by the idea of living a car-less lifestyle. Meaning, I would accept being car-less as a challenge and it wouldn’t bother me too much to be without. The net result? I always have a great car to drive, very few problems, and generally enjoy everything about owning and maintaining a vehicle. Now… if I can only apply this concept to all the other things I want!
11. Accept love from others.
Sometimes people get weirded out when others take interest in them. For example: when people try really hard to be your friend, or if someone gives you lots of attention online. However, if you want to be a leader, you have to be ok with other people being kind of obsessed with you. You have to be ok with people REALLY liking you. Sometimes that can feel uncomfortable, and you have to ask yourself why. Do you feel you don’t deserve such adoration? When people express their love for you, celebrate it! It means you’re projecting a vibration of love!
12. Listen to and trust your reality instead of fighting it.
Neale Donald Walsch reminds us, “Whatever it is that is now presenting itself as part of your creation, own it, claim it, bless it, be thankful for it.” Everything is trying to help you. If reality seems to be getting particularly hard, just trust that you’re in the right place at the right time. Now is the time to ask yourself: do you believe in what you know? You know life is good, and that everything always works out. Take the leap of faith and stop struggling. Life is taking care of you.
13. Keep shining!
You are perfect the way you are! You don’t have to change a thing! If you want to find out what superpowers you already have, create your catalog of meaning.
14. Send a clear, strong signal.
If you want life to reflect what you want, you have to be certain in the signal you’re sending. Kelly says the way to do this is by repeating “It’s working out. It’s working out,” over and over, or “Yes yes yes, thank you thank you thank you.” When you repeat these thoughts to yourself and begin to feel their power, your reality begins reflecting experiences that you want to say “Yes, more please!” and “Thank you!” to.
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Welcome to Tuesday Tips, the weekly guide to practicing positivity. This week the tips are all about having confidence in yourself. Clear your mind, put your body at ease, and dive into the flow with these morsels of magick. It’s your life, and you only live once! Stop caring about what they think and GO FOR IT! I know you can do it!
1. If you want it, go take it.
Stop pussyfooting around. Speak up and ask for what you want! It never hurts to ask.
2. Start before you’re ready.
Talk to anyone at the top of their game and you’ll hear something like this. ‘When I got started, I was a mess. I had no idea what I was doing, I just kept putting stuff out there. After a while, everything came together.’ ~ Marie Forleo in Brian Johnson’s newsletter
Last Monday, I was starting to question whether I was going to publish my new worksheet at all. Was it ready? Was it good enough? Then I read what Marie had to say and decided to go ahead and share before I “felt ready.” I’m so glad I did, because the worksheet was a big hit and sold dozens of copies!
3. Make friends with everyone you meet, and add them all on Facebook.
Facebook is one of the most powerful ways to spread your message. If you friend every person you meet every day, you’ll expand the reach of your work effortlessly. People you meet in real life may be more likely to take interest in your website than strangers online, so start connecting your digital and physical lives to create a reality more in line with who you really are.
4. Stressed about work? Know you can do it at any time, in your head.
What is your work? It’s your mood—how you feel. You can work on your mood anywhere. And when you get yourself in a good mood, all of your other so-called “work” will do itself. The easiest way to work on your mood? Stop thinking and count!
5. Make your decisions quickly and don’t turn back.
The universe favors the bold, the confident, and the decisive. Any path you choose is the right path, so just start moving! Waffling around being indecisive sends a muddied vibration. The universe won’t know what to bring you. Have confidence in any decision you make and the universe will back up your confidence with rewarding experiences.
6. Try this mantra: “I’m on a roll!”
I love hearing people say this! You know the feeling—can you fake it ’til you make it?
7. Try this mantra: “They’ll buy it!”
Have confidence in your ideas. When you have something you want to sell to someone (whether for money or just to get them to agree with you), tell yourself “they’ll buy it!” And when you do convince them, say “they bought it!”
8. Fill out a Universal Order Form.
My friend asked for “smooth sailing” and choose the order number 26. Not only did she receive her smooth sailing, but now every time we see the number 26 we think “smooth sailing,” perpetuating the good feeling.
9. Before you go to bed, practice the feeling of waking up feeling joyful and powerful.
Pre-pave the way you feel in the morning. If you can spend just a few moments picturing how good you’ll feel when you wake up, you’ll be more likely to go to sleep feeling good. The more you practice the feeling, the more your actions will reflect that good feeling. Your habits will improve effortlessly, and waking up will become much easier.
10. Try “feeling” this mantra: “I love everyone and everyone loves me.”
Courtesy of Julie M. Gastineau, using and believing in this mantra could create world peace.
11. All that counts is here and now.
I am surrounded with art and music that reminds me that RIGHT NOW IS ALL THERE IS! As you go about your day, come back to the present by saying to yourself, “This is it! This is all there is!” Think of the present as your canvas. What are you going to make of it? Let’s go!
Now get fired up with some Calvin Harris and go have the best day of your life.
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Welcome to Tuesday Tips, a weekly collection of ways to act, think, feel and be positive. This week, the tips are focused on doing less and allowing more. From health advice from a 9-year-old, to instructions on how to channel god into your creations, this batch of uplifting ideas will give you some powerful tools to shift your reality into the experience you desire.
1. There is nothing you can do.
If you want something, but taking action about it feels forced or not in the flow, just let it go! When the time is right, action will be pulled through you and wild horses won’t be able to stop you. If it doesn’t feel right, it isn’t! If you have to ask, it isn’t time. Like Lil Wayne says, “I’mma get it when it’s time to get it.”
2. Do something crazy!
You know it feels amazing to stop caring about what other people think and just be wild! Shake it up and let yourself act on one of your nutty impulses— it might feel scary, but it will bring you a brand new perspective and the respect of those less courageous around you!
3. Work together.
My 9-year-old friend Janie contributed this one. Teamwork always helps everything go faster and be more fun. If you have an opportunity to work around other people, take it! And take advantage of any opportunity to help others—you’ll feel good, learn new things and make friends.
4. Healthy habits make the days easier.
Janie gave me this one too! As she made herself a Boca burger and salad for dinner, she explained how choosing healthy habits makes going through your day smoother. Healthy habits = feeling good about yourself = fewer negative thoughts to release.
5. Keep your attention on yourself and you won’t crave it from others.
How do you give yourself attention? You make the choice in every moment to pay attention to how you feel and adjust accordingly. You can also just watch yourself, feel your body, or follow your breath.
6. Think of money as a girl.
You know when you’re trying too hard to date someone, and you try to think of ways to talk to the person? Yeah… that never works out. You have to be focused on doing you and your love interest will always come to you. Money is exactly the same. Don’t try to think of ways to make money, because that’s taking action when you’re not inspired. Just focus on doing you and the money will find you.
7. When you experience contrast, tell the universe, “Thanks for telling me I had something in my teeth.”
When something happens that you don’t like, it’s just the universe showing you yourself. Take it as a blessed indicator of your vibration, because now you know where you stand. You’re in control of what you project, so you’re in control of what reflects back to you.
8. Think of life design as a sport.
If you want to be good at something you have to practice. If you want to be a pro, you have to work your ass off. So how do you train to be a pro at life design? Ultimately, you aim to practice in every moment. Practice can include things like writing and meditation, but it all comes down to paying attention to how you feel in every moment and adjusting your thoughts accordingly.
9. If you feel like you don’t give enough, make a list of all the things you do give.
Sometimes I feel like I’m not putting enough of myself online. I push myself to be more open, more prolific, and more creative. But when I voiced this concern to Kelly, she started listing all the things I do publish to the Internet—Tuesday Tips, daily meditations, podcasts, photos, gratitude posts, artwork, School of Life Design posts, etc. And I give it all to the public domain. The list made me feel way better! Notice the things you are doing right and you’ll effortlessly attract more.
10. Feel excited when you have contrast.
When you experience things you don’t want, you can instantly turn it around by telling yourself, “This is just an iteration. Now I know what I want, and I know what I want is always flowing into my experience.”
11. Channel your creations.
Do you ever have creative block? Yeah, me too. Until I realized I can just channel. Channeling is letting life live you, like letting god take over the controls. Try this exercise: decide what you want to create and go to the appropriate environment to do it. Sit down and say, “Dear Universe, I’m allowing your inspiration to flow through me. Please guide my hands in this work.” Begin doing whatever comes to mind. Don’t argue or fuss about what “comes to you,” just give it a shot. You’ll be doing your best work, and it will be effortless.
12. Stop chasing! Let it come to you!
Any time you chase something, whether it be money, a relationship, a job, or health, you are sending this signal to the universe: “I don’t have this!” And when you tell the universe you don’t have something, it has no choice but to bring you exactly that. To stop chasing something, just stop, like you would stop running. A more concrete approach is to picture the thing you want and say “I don’t care if I ever get that” and forget about it.
Share your creations in the School of Life Design group
Every week I post a link to the Tips in the SoLD Facebook group. Leave a comment with your favorite tip this week, and share some of your own! Come hang out with this growing group of positive thinkers and doers and I guarantee you’ll leave more inspired than when you came. Thanks for playing!
Recently I came across an article about creativity rituals. What do you do to start your mind down the creative path? Do you make tea, go for a walk, or play a round of Euchre? I set off to make a “creativity worksheet” to get my juices flowing, but the more I worked on it, the more I realized the challenge was not to find creativity, but to allow the universe to deliver.
A “creativity ritual” worksheet was misleading, because it implied you have to take action to get inspired. But asking to feel creative is exactly the same thing as asking the universe for a cup of coffee or a brand new house. It’s all the same—when you ask, the universe gives. Your only job is to receive.
It’s that receiving part of “Ask and it is given” that trips a lot of us up. How do you open up to allow yourself to receive gifts from the universe? How do you get yourself to believe that the universe will actually bring it? And if you can believe it, how do you even be present enough to know when you’re receiving it?
Introducing the Universal Order Form worksheet
Kelly and I took the “creativity ritual” worksheet and simplified it down into something much more effective: the Universal Order Form. It takes into account the fact that all wishes are granted and all desires are already created. Here’s how it works.
1. Write down what you would like to receive.
It can be anything. The universe has no problem creating you $1,000,000 or a new pair of pants. Of course, you have to believe you’ll actually receive it, so sometimes it helps to start with smaller things to build up your belief system.
2. Choose your order number.
Your number can also be anything, but I’d stick to one- and two-digit numbers at first. Once you choose your order number, start looking for your number in your daily life. Once you’ve seen your number (on a license plate, the clock, a math problem, anywhere!), you can rest assured knowing your order is on the way.
Why it works
This order number system is a way to trick your mind into practicing the feeling of belief that your wish is actually being granted. Say you ask for a milkshake, and you pick the number 33. An hour goes by and the next time you look at the clock, it says 4:33. A quiver of excitement goes up your spine, as you remember, “my order number is 33!” That feeling is the delicious sensation of trust in the universe, the knowing that what you want is coming and you don’t have to lift a finger.
When you feel that feeling, you are sending a vibrational signal to the universe that you are ready to receive. The instant you believe it’s coming, it’s already on the way. That milkshake won’t be far now! As long as you don’t contradict that feeling with doubt, or start feeling silly for believing, it’ll be yours in no time.
Use this worksheet as a game at first, to use with little desires you don’t care much about. Try it with songs you want to hear on the radio, places you want to eat for dinner, things you want to pick up at the grocery store. Or use it to ask for more general feelings—ask for a satisfying day, a friendly meal, or good service.
This tool is a very powerful device for practicing the feeling of trust. If you’re ready to start allowing more of what you want into your experience, and you want to do it in a way that’s fun and simple, you can pick up this sweet tool for only $5.
The Universal Order Form comes as an 8.5×11″ PDF download with six order forms per page. You get the link as soon as you pay through Paypal (make sure you click “return to Jessica Mullen Design” to complete the transaction). Print as many copies as you like and don’t forget to take orders for your friends too!
Remember to click “Return to Jessica Mullen Design” after your purchase to get the download link!