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Welcome to Tuesday Tips, the weekly guide to putting positive thinking into practice. This week the tips are about having the confidence to live the life you desire, and the presence to see you already are. Many of this week’s ideas were inspired by Abraham-Hicks, who reminds us, “Nobody creates big things without big desire.”

1. Download Vine.
If you have an iPhone, this 6-second video sharing app will help you see your life as a movie and you as the star. Follow me @jessicamullen!

2. Talk yourself up!
The Blogcademy puts it best: “Talk yourself up, or nobody else will!” Be excited about who you are and what you do. Enthusiasm is contagious!

3. Help others shine.
Look for the best in others, and look for ways you can help them reach their potential. The more you look for their positive aspects, the more they will show.

4. Look for things to appreciate in the now.
You are your now. So when you look for things to appreciate, you’re actually appreciating yourself, increasing your own value.

5. Think and feel, then think and feel, then think and feel.
Abraham gives us simple instructions for living in the now: ask yourself, “How do you feel when you think that thought, right now?” If you feel good, keep going down that path. If the thought feels bad, drop it and never think of it again. Your emotions are your guidance system to life.

6. Don’t think you’re annoying and others won’t annoy you.
If you fear being annoying, you probably find a lot in your reality that annoys you. But when you feel your best, neither you nor your reality irritates. Don’t give a fuck whether anyone thinks you’re annoying, and you’ll probably stop caring if anyone else is either.

7. Write your blog like you’re talking to a friend.
Another gem from Gala Darling at the Blogcademy is “Good blogging should feel like someone writing you a letter.”

8. Boost your confidence with lifestreaming.
Every time you post anything about yourself online, you’re gifting the world with your presence. No matter what it is, it will help you see your life in a better light, because at least now there is art about your life online.

9. If you want enough money to do whatever you want, do whatever you want and the money will come.
A friendly reminder from Abraham: Money doesn’t create a happy life, a happy life creates money. When you let yourself do what you want, you release resistance and allow more abundance into your life.

10. Aim to feel like a sexy car!
After buying an Audi R8, Esther Hicks (who brings us Abraham) realized that like a car engine, “Your emotions should purr.” Like a well-oiled machine, you can tune your vibration (mood) to a satisfying thrum. You can feel when your machines need some TLC, so give yourself the same treatment. Don’t know how to get your emotions to purr? Just smile, take some deep breaths, and allow life to tell you what to do.

11. In pain? Think of it as change.
My badass fitness instructor Kristy always tells us during the most painful parts of the workout, “That feeling is change! Think of it like that and it’s bearable.” When you’re facing contrast and challenges, it hurts. When life feels hardest, know you’re going through change, and change is always good. Let go of whatever thoughts you’re thinking that hurt so much and you’ll see how much you’ve already transformed.

12. Practice the feeling!
What’s “the feeling”? It’s a sensation of knowing. It’s when your path lights up before you and wild horses couldn’t stop you from doing what you know is right. It’s when life is effortless and exciting, yet peaceful. Think of the things you’re best at. Relationships? Creativity? Music? Friendship? Health? You know how it’s easy to do the things you’re good at. Take time to focus on that feeling and it wil spill over into all the areas of life you want to be easy.

13. Trust the flow and don’t think about it.
Life will always bring you to the right place at the right time. Want to get there faster? Trust you’re on the way, and stop thinking about whether you’re there or not. You’re already on the way! It’s like planting a seed—you trust it will grow, you don’t dig it up.

14. Meditate.
Meditation is like mind hygiene. If I do it regularly, I don’t have things suddenly happen that knock me down and force me to be still. I like meditating because it reminds me I don’t actually need anything to be happy, I can just choose the feeling now.

15. Be still and know.
The more still you can be, the more you can see. Stillness is your connection to infinity.

16. Accept as if you had chosen it.

Accept—then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it. Make it your friend and ally, not your enemy. This will miraculously transform your whole life. ~ Eckart Tolle in The Power of Now

Whatever you’re attracting into your life is something you are in control of. Accept what comes, and know you have the power to change it, by embracing it and not resisting it. Everything in your life is trying to help you and show you the way.

17. Remind yourself, “This is it! This is all there is.”
Right now is all there is. There is no heaven, or later, or there, or before. There is only now. When you can see that this right Now is all you have to work with, it’s a lot easier to get creative within your design constraints. How can you feel good, right now? Take a deep breath, say I love you to anything bothering you, and ask the flow for your next step.

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Welcome to Tuesday Tips, the weekly guide to practicing positivity. Sometimes all this positive “thinking” can get a little overwhelming, so this week I’m cutting the tips down to the bare minimum. What are the very basics of feeling good and creating consciously? If I had to bring four Tips to a deserted island with me, these are what I would pick.

1. Smile.
A smile is one a the few actions you can take that will instantly make you feel better. A smile is the easiest way to make a friend, or to smooth over a rough situation. A smile is the most appealing thing to see in another person. When you smile, the world smiles back at you.

2. Count.
Whenever I get stuck in an infinite loop of negative thoughts, all I have to do is start counting in my head. When you place your attention on the numbers, instead of your thoughts, you release resistance. Thoughts are the only thing that make us feel bad—when we take a break from thinking, we can return to our natural state of feeling good. You don’t even need to think to make decisions—your intuition will always let you know.

3. Say “I love you.”
EVERYTHING we want, we want because we want to feel loved! Money, fame, health, relationships—whatever we desire, it’s because we’re looking for love. Love is the feeling of being connected to others, to life, to everything. When we give the love we want to receive, it is reflected back to us. Begin with saying “I love you” to yourself, and then to the people, places and things in your life. It takes balls to open up and project love, but you have to be the one to do it first. If you’re looking in a mirror, the only way to change the reflection is to change yourself.

4. Breathe.
Focusing on your breath, like counting, is a fast way to take your attention away from negative thoughts and into the present moment. Deep breathing calms your heart, brings nutrients to your body, and brings peace to chaos. You can always find alignment through your breath. For more on aligning with breath, check out this Spirit Science video on the heart.

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Welcome to Tuesday Tips, the weekly guide to creating your reality. Isn’t it rad that it’s now common knowledge that thoughts create? The power is immense but it ain’t nothing we can’t handle. My friends, the time has come to jump off the cliff and grow wings on the way down. We’re here to have fun, and there isn’t anything that can stop me from fulfilling that purpose. This week I bring you the ideas that are helping me let go of fear, embrace change and allow well being into every corner of my life.

1. Do what terrifies you!
Last week, Kelly and I put in our two weeks notice at Under Consideration. We’ve had a wonderful experience, learned so much and become part of the UCllc family. But it’s time for us to pursue our own work full time. We were terrified to change, but already so many doors are opening for us. When you let go, you create space for bigger and better to come in.

My teachers taught me when you breathe into fear, it becomes adventure. Adventure appeals to your sense of wonder, your inner child, and most important, your creative self. It also reminds you that you make new things happen- the world doesn’t just happen to you. ~ Sonia Choquette

2. Notice synchronicities.
Sometimes your favorite song starts playing as you are creating the best work of your life. Or someone mentions a book you’ve been wanting to read but forgot the title of. Or you think about how much you like unicycles and then you see a unicycle parade. Whenever these little miracles happen, take note! They are an indication that you are on the right path, that you are present, and that you are in tune with the magick of the universe! The more you look for them, the more you’ll see.

3. Share more of yourself.
As a lifestreamer and blogger, I’m always pushing myself to open up more and care less about what other people think about me. Shauna from NubbyTwiglet.com has some great advice on how to do it.

4. Experiment with telepathy.
Write the text, but don’t send it. They’ll hear you.

5. Do what is natural to you.
The Self Help Hipster wrote this brilliant article (alternatively) titled “Fuck One Size Fits All.” It is the best argument for practicing life design that I’ve ever read! The reason it really hit home for me is because she mentioned someone who tried all sorts of diets that didn’t work for her. Then she created her own, and it did work. It kind of blew my mind to think about diet like that. I know what works for me, and I’ve been deluding myself for years thinking someone else would have the answer for me.

6. If you’re running late, don’t look at the clock!
My friend’s daughter Janie completely surprised me the other day in the car. We were on the way to an event, and were cutting it close on time. Janie said to her mom, “Mom don’t look at what time it is, because it will only add stress on top!” I’ve written about this idea before, and I try to practice it every day. The less you let time control your emotions, the more time you have.

7. Adopt a vacation mindset.
Alexandra Franzen knows what’s up! Go about your daily life feeling like you’re on vacation and you’ll never work another day in your life.

8. Allow yourself to change.
Sometimes I find myself totally dissatisfied with my life, wishing I could be this and do that and go there and see them. My first line of attack is to remember that all I have to do is make peace with what is. As soon as I’m happy where I am, the next opportunity opens right up. Of course I still want so many things, but I know that I don’t have to “try” to obtain them, I can only “allow” them. So the most stress-free way I have found to welcome change into my life is to say to myself, “I’m allowing myself to change.” I don’t have to take any action or make painful resolutions—I only have to open up to change. When I am consciously inviting change into my life, it’s a lot easier to handle—and appreciate.

9. Get more of what you want.
Catherine posted a great mantra: “I get anything I want, and good things that I never even expected before.”

10. Trust you’re in the right place at the right time.
Whenever you encounter a negative thought or experience, just say to yourself “Everything for a reason!” I know with every fiber of my being that everything happens the way it’s supposed to, and everything always works out. So in the moment, when I’m frustrated or disappointed or scared, I remind myself that everything happens for a reason and that reason will be revealed to me in time. What is happening to me right now is a gift from the universe, which is always trying to give me what I want in every moment. Saying “everything for a reason” helps diffuse negative emotions immediately because my mind gets it.

11. Lose weight with gratitude.
Jon Ray wrote a wonderful article about blessing food. Appreciate your food, and it will return the favor by appreciating your body. Whatever you believe is true, and if you can believe that your thoughts and intentions have power, then you can transform your relationship with food by communicating with it. This works with everything of course— when you are deliberate about your intentions and present during an experience, you will receive exactly what you want from it. I particularly love the mantra he mentioned in the post, that a doctor projected on mentally ill criminals: “I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.”

12. Be like water.
You know Bruce Lee said it, but have you ever tried it? When I can actually catch the feeling of “being like water,” I understand the concept of flow. If you’re water, you follow the path of least resistance. If you’re water, you go with the flow. If you’re water, you adapt to whatever situation contains you. Try it when driving. Picture yourself as water. Would water pass the car in front of you, or chill out behind it? Would water make sudden movements, or flow effortlessly from lane to lane? Being like water is the same as “letting go” and “letting it unfold” because water can’t really do anything, but flow. As you practice being like water, notice the amazing things life starts giving you—when you let that car pass you (because that’s what water would do), a perfect miracle will be on that open road right in front of you.

13. Be the star of the Now.
This is my favorite! Building on last week’s Tips (5 Ways to Star in Your Own Life), I’m enjoying thinking of myself as the star of my life in every moment. I think of myself being watched on a screen. My life is a movie, and I love watching it! Thinking of yourself as the star of “right now” allows you to shine in every moment, to take the upper hand every time, to smile, to act with kindness, and to appreciate how far you’ve come. Whenever I notice myself becoming clumsy because I’m rushing, I remind myself that no movie star would act like that. A star is in the moment, moving and thinking deliberately.

14. Remember who you are: god in human form.
My incredibly talented friend Caterina Suttin wrote the poem below. It reminds me of everything I know.

It’s all about the intricacies
What only a fraction sees
So many hidden layers
Intertwined with passionate prayers
Years of dedication
Hard earned inspiration
Never losing focus
You got it, you know this
Even when you falter
Take a moment, build an alter
Breath, relax, let go
Release a bruised ego
Then try again you must
Even when questioning, trust
Know everything is perfect
Don’t give up its worth it
In all your actions, meditate
With every thought you create
This existence
Cease resistance
Allow the flow to carry you
Evolving dreams coming true
Congratulations, look at what you’ve done
The celebrations have begun.

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Welcome to Tuesday Tips, a weekly guide to practicing positive thinking. My favorite idea this week is illustrated above: “Funny how it works out.” Step back and look at where you are right now—it makes perfect sense, doesn’t it? Now keep that distanced perspective and start watching your life like it’s your favorite tv show. You don’t have to think about the plot or write the next scene, just enjoy being the character you are.

The more you can watch your life, the less you’ll be affected by the emotional rollercoaster of life circumstances, and the more you’ll enjoy the ride. It’s time to start feeling like the star that you are, because this is your movie and you’re the only one who can play the main character. Ready to step into your role?

1. Act like a star.
Think about your character. Would she be running around like a chicken with her head cut off, or would she be dramatically, deliberately in the moment, sipping tea and scheming? Whoever you decide to be, go big! Take pictures. Make movies. Dress wildly. Laugh loudly. Create crazy art. Things will begin to seem less serious, and you’ll be a lot more open to adventure. Live the life you’d want to watch. I like feeling like I’m sitting on the edge of my seat, wondering “what’ll happen next?!” It also helps to play a badass soundtrack.

2. Stop thinking.
Eckhart Tolle says, “Be aware of your breathing. Notice how this takes attention away from your thinking and creates space. (Oneness With All Life)” If you spend all your time thinking about your life, you’re not doing much enjoying. Can you imagine if you lived your life entirely in the present? Sounds pretty wild to me. (Silent counting is an excellent way to stop thinking too.)

3. Get in a good mood and then take action.
If you’re wondering whether or not you should do something, take the time to feel good first before taking action. Then you will either be inspired to take the appropriate action, or you’ll forget about it all together. Tune your vibration to the frequency of the solution and it will come to you. Literal translation? Never answer a text or a phone call when you’re angry. Your movie may contain a little less drama, but the story of your life is deeper than the average soap opera, right?

4. Appreciate yourself.
Abraham teaches us that “Appreciation and self-love are the most important tools that you could ever nurture. Appreciation of others, and the appreciation of yourself is the closest vibrational match to your Source Energy of anything that we’ve ever witnessed anywhere in the Universe.” Everything you want, you want because you think it’ll make you feel loved in some way. Give yourself the love you want to receive right now and the loving experiences will manifest. Love yourself like your idol, and an idol to others you’ll become. Be your favorite person to be around. Maxwell Maltz says, “If you make friends with yourself you will never be alone.” If you feel good because you like yourself, you don’t have to rely on anything outside of you to lift your mood.

5. Remember you are a magickal, spiritual, powerful being!
There’s magick and witchcraft in movies, right? Remember that whatever you believe is true, so if you want to have magickal powers in your life, start using them! My favorite, and simplest, way to practice magick this week is to visualize myself “allowing well being.” If I have an injury, I imagine pure positive energy entering the crown of my head, flowing to the affected part of my body, while thinking “I’m allowing well being.” If I want more abundance, I picture pure positive energy flowing into my bank accounts, while thinking “I’m allowing well being in my finances.”

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Welcome to Tuesday Tips, the weekly guide to practicing positive thinking. In the words of Paris Hilton, “If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought.” This week I have seven questions that will help direct your focus towards what you want and what feels good.

1. Name one thing you’ve said yes to today.
The universe is always trying to give you what you want. Say yes to the opportunities that come your way.

2. Name one thing you would do if you didn’t care what other people thought.
Allow yourself to have what you want without guilt. You get to create what people think of you—if you don’t think about it, they’re not thinking about you.

3. What do you want?
It will come when you let it go. Can you stop thinking about it for 24 hours?

4. Name an art project that would make you feel better to create.
“The object of art is not to make salable pictures. It is to save yourself.” ~ Sherwood Anderson (via Maria Popova)

5. I’m ready to feel _________.
How do you want to feel? Are you ready to feel that way? You want what you want because of the way you think it will make you feel. You can feel that way without receiving the manifestation. Can you feel it now? It might feel silly at first, but the universe can only reflect you. You feel and then you see, not the other way around. You are the creator. Project the signal you want to receive. Easiest way to feel the feeling? Stop thinking.

6. Name one time you trusted your intuition and it led you in the right direction.
Trust yourself. Then let it go.

7. What would you like to let go?
Every time you think about it, just say to yourself, “let go.” Visualize the thought dropping like a ball from your mind.

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Inspired by Sara Whit­te­more’s list of ways to have fun in 2013, I’ve created a list of intentions to guide me through the year. The main theme is to let go and trust that everything’s working out. I like to think of it as instructions for the mental tightrope walk that is co-creating with god as a physical being.

1. I intend to do me.
“Doing you” is trusting the universe. It means you don’t care about what anyone else thinks, because that would be worrying about how something unfolds. If you trust the universe, you trust it will unfold perfectly. Think about what you want and then trust it’s coming without requiring any action or interference from you.

2. I intend to do the work.
My mood is my only work, meaning how I feel is my #1 priority. Doing the work means thinking (and taking breaks from thinking) deliberately. It means taking note of all the things that make life worth living. It means bookmarking all the times I feel good. It means focusing on what I want more of, because what I focus on expands.

3. I intend to pray.
Praying is thinking about what you want and then putting the fulfillment of that desire in the hands of a higher power. It’s the “formula” of the law of attraction: ask for something, believe it’s coming, receive.

4. I intend to ignore anyone’s advice/criticism/judgements unless they are genuinely happier than me.
I’m borrowing this one from Leonie Dawson. (Thanks Erin!)

5. I intend to not give a shit.
To “not give a shit” means to release emotional attachment to specific outcomes. I decide how I feel, so my external circumstances do not affect my mood. No matter what happens, I’ll feel good anyway.

6. I intend to love new things.
Change is the only constant, so why not embrace it?

7. I intend to express my unconditional love for others.
The other day I found myself wanting everyone I know to express their undying love for me. Pretty much everything we want, we want it because we think it will make us feel loved. So I am projecting the signal I want to receive – in expressing my love, it’s reflected back to me.

8. I intend to trust the process of life.
Trusting the process of life means saying yes to what is. I want to remember I am always in the right place at the right time, and that the universe is constantly trying to give me what I want in every moment. I want to be present enough to receive.

9. I intend to be my reason for feeling good.
If something outside of me makes me feel good (like a person, a drug, or an activity), then I am also giving that thing the power to make me feel bad. When I feel good just because I’m alive, I am whole. There is nothing lacking, no matter what my circumstances are.

10. I intend to breathe.
Slow, deep breaths are all I need to center myself and release fear. Breath is our permanent feeling-good talisman, because it’s always there. If you can feel good just because you’re breathing, you can feel good whenever you want.

11. I intend to be the now.
I’m always ok in the now. There is always more than enough in the now. We always have everything we need right now. My only power is in the now, and I cannot be in any time other than now. I am not only a part of the Now, I am all that is now. I am the now.

12. I intend to be an example.
Sometimes I forget that I have to “be it” to “see it.” I can’t sit around waiting for my reality to change to start feeling good. I have to decide to feel the way I want to feel, and then my reality will reflect that.

13. I intend to be the creator.
I am creating my reality, whether I want to be or not. I choose to create the version I want. I create the version I want by surrendering and letting go.

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Welcome to Tuesday Tips, a weekly collection of ways to practice positive thinking. As the holidays approach, life can get a little stressful, so this week I have six simple ways to chill out and enjoy this special time.

1. Do the work.
With all the chores, shopping, family visits and deadlines approaching this week, I’ve found myself getting stressed out about not doing enough, or not being productive enough, or not crossing enough things off my to-do list. But then I remembered that my mood is my work. If I take the time to get in a good mood and align my thoughts with love, I find that all the stressful aspects of life melt away and things get done without me trying. Put how you feel first, and everything else will fall into place. Some ways to do the work are: meditation, exercise, listing what you’re grateful for, making art, laughing with friends, sleeping, and smiling.

2. Try the Happiness Action Pack!
ActionForHappiness.org has a great PDF resource with exercises to boost your mood. They put “the science of well-being into practice.”

3. Pray.
I asked my friend Kristy for advice on how to keep my energy up at work. She said simply, “pray”. It works wonders! Throughout the day, I’ll think “I pray that I have a good day. I pray that I have a fun night. I pray that I’m kind. I pray that everything works out.” It’s a wonderful way to think about what I want, then let go of my desire and put my trust in a higher power.

4. Stop thinking about that thing you want.
It’s never going to happen when you’re thinking about it. It always comes when you’re feeling good and thinking about or doing something else. If you can’t stop thinking about it, count.

5. Try this mantra: “I don’t give a shit.”
This is the single most useful thought I’ve attracted this week. My friend Kelly was stressed about one of her finals. She studied hard but still felt unprepared. She ended up passing with a better grade than she expected, and when I asked her how she did it, she said, “The night before the exam, I just stopped giving a shit.” Not caring is the key to letting go! When you let go of thinking about what you don’t want, life can finally bring you what you do want, since you’re not blocking the flow with negative thoughts.

6. Stop trying.
Surrender. Let go. Give up. If you’re stressed about gift-giving, decide to give up. Make peace with whatever would happen if you didn’t find the perfect gift. If you have too much work to do and don’t know how to get it all done, let go. Say “I don’t give a shit if it gets done” and try to truly feel like that. It’s the only way life can help you. You’ll never be able to take enough action to compare to the magick life is trying to bring you. Stop fighting the flow and let it come to you. You’ll be so relieved when you do!

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Welcome to Tuesday Tips, a list of positive thoughts that help make life a little easier. Step into the now and claim your power and energy. All the control is your hands, right now. This week, the tips are inspired by video games. When you stop trying and start playing, life has a funny way of working in your favor.

1. Look for Easter eggs.
Think of your life as a giant simulated video game. God is playing you. You’re playing a first person shooter. You get to feel like you’re really in the body. But it is just a game. Play life like you would a game. Look for ways to open things and get more coins. Look for gifts falling from the sky. Look for fun things to do in every square inch of the level.

2. Follow the path of least resistance.
Whatever you want, it will come to you when you’re not trying. If you have to try really hard, you’re going the wrong way. All you can do is be. Relax and go with the flow.

3. If you want to have fun, be fun.
You’re playing a game. Be playful! Don’t take it so seriously! Try this mantra: “I’ve decided to have a good time regardless of what anyone else is doing.”

4. Feel confident.
You’ll have a lot more fun if you believe in your ability to play well. Try these mantras:

• “I live the magick life.”
• “I’m the shit.”
• “I’m a winner.”
• “I know exactly what I’m doing.”
• “I’m in the right place at the right time.”

5. Focus on the parts of the game you like.
What you focus on expands. Deliberately grow the parts of reality you like the most. The easiest ways to do this are using thought direction prompts like “Wouldn’t it be nice if…” or “I love it when…” or “I’m so grateful for…”

6. Count.
Silent counting is the easiest way to stop thinking when your thoughts are overwhelming. Life is much more fun when you’re focused in the present, playing instead of pondering. The Now is a line between the past and the present. Thoughts are things that take up space, so there can’t be thoughts in the Now. Let your thoughts go and let joy in.

7. Get over your fear of death.
You wouldn’t be afraid to lose one of your lives in a video game. I promise you, this life is no more serious. The worst that can happen to you is that you die. The best that can happen is that you die! Fuck it. Live it up. No one gets out of here alive.

8. When things don’t go your way, feel excited about what the contrast is helping you ask for.
When you experience something you don’t want, all it means is that now you know what you do want. You can’t have one without the other. When you desire something, it’s created. That negative experience is actually helping you to create the positive experience you want to live. When you feel bad, feel good about it. It means the good is created and coming your way.

9. Decide how you want to feel.
This morning I woke up thinking, “I hate myself and I hate my life.” It was very easy to turn around by thinking about how I’d rather feel. “I love myself and I love my life.” A simple but deliberate shift in perspective is all you need. “I love it when I feel __________” is a useful prompt.

10. Trust the game.
When life feels scary or annoying or just plain shitty, have faith. You’re here for a reason. This isn’t serious. You are in control. You are god in human form! Stay identified with god who is playing the game, instead of the character being played. You are YOU playing Mario, not Mario being played! This is just for fun! Loosen up, relax, and look for evidence of god all around you. Life loves you. This game is a gift.

“But it’s so hard!” Then give up. Surrender. Stop trying. Stop thinking about it. Let life live you. Let god play you. Let go. “How do I let go?” Stop thinking and enter the Now. “How do I stop thinking?” Count.

11. Breathe
If counting isn’t your thing today, try focusing on your breath. It will help you detach from the ups and downs of the game and feel good right now. Breathe in and raise your vibration, breathe out and release your resistance. You don’t have to think or do anything. If you can cut down your focus to just your breath and perceiving the moment around you, you’ll be able to enjoy your trip. Right now is the time of your life. Right now is all there is. Right now is forever. Are you enjoying it or are you resisting it? It’s up to you. Try this mantra: “I’m so happy to be here.”

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