Sometimes there is huge change in your life. Like, you lose your best friend and your workout routine. Because your fitness instructor is your best friend. Sometimes life is like, “Oh we needed to move that to make room for something new.” And you’re like, “Fuck this is so shitty.” This is the Tuesday Tips for when that happens.
Kelly reminded me to focus on the version I want. Instead of focusing on what I’ve lost, I should focus on what I’ve gained. This week I’ve gained an insatiable desire to make art. I am incredibly time affluent so finding ways to “pass the time” is a pretty fascinating subject. When life isn’t about racing to make dollars, there’s a lot more flexibility in how you spend your days.
If you had a million dollars, what would you do differently today? I already work for myself, making my meditations (because they help me feel better) and working on JessicaMullen.com. It’s been my passion since before I thought about it as a money-maker. It’s my idea platform. I know I have good ideas. I may not shove them in your face but I will make them as available and searchable as possible.
I’ve been living my life like a millionaire. I see my friends. I cook. I cuddle with my partner (something there was notably less time for when “working”). I play with my cats! I know their patterns again. I feel like we’re pals again.
I make art. After all the drugs, sex, booze, socializing, working out, eating, sleeping, watching TV pleasure acts pass, I make art. I wake up in the morning feeling like if I don’t create, I will certainly have nothing left to live for.
But it’s a clean “nothing left to live for”. It tells me that I have art to make! I have the flow to listen to! I have messages coming through my fingers that I don’t even have to think about! They just come! They are banging the door before I get out of bed, begging me to let them out.
I am at peace. That $5000 check paid all our bills for this month, and will pay next month’s rent. We’ll have to make money next month if nothing comes up.
But last month it worked out fine. I panicked, wrote my Coming Out Story, and then god provided. The money showed up. Life took care of me, paid my rent, and in a few cases, paid more than my minimum balance.
When I didn’t know what to do, life stepped in and helped. It felt scary living in that “trust the flow” place, where it’s trust the flow or nothing, but the adrenaline rush was worth it. I’m here for the ride!
Here are some tips about enjoying the ride. Thanks for living the magick life with me my friends.
1. Hang out with your friends.
They’ll lift you back up and help you take things less seriously. There are people who would love to stick around in your life. They’re riding the ride with you.
2. Accept the gifts in front of you.
You probably have a lot of people offering you nice things like alcohol, drugs, rock shows and girls while you wait in line. Just take them and say thank you instead of judging yourself for not being the upright citizen you were for about 2 seconds while trying to impress some girl.
3. Forget all your mantras.
Make art instead. Go mad and turn every moment of your life into a performance piece. Thinking is not a good idea right now.
4. Feel the flow.
When you’re in the low point, realize that it feels just as good as the peak. It’s just as funny. Just make a joke about it. It’s funny. Be a character in a movie and feel excited there’s a next scene. That moment right before the rollercoaster drops is probably the most excruciatingly awesome.
5. Keep up that meditation practice!
Aside from making art, it’s the only thing that will help you. Do chakra visualizations or say “ram” over and over. Follow your breath or count to 900. Whatever technique sounds fun today, go with it. Stick to your practice and you’ll keep your cool.
6. Tell your best friend you love her.
Are you living the magick life?
Can you hear the flow too? Are you part of the paradigm shit we’re creating together? Do you know you already know everything there is to know?
Well then let’s hang out in the School of Life Design and talk about how awesome this trip is! Aliens unite! What’s been going right in your life?
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1. Genuinely appreciate and compliment someone else
This morning, Allyssa Milán tweeted, “By the beard of Zeus, I am sooooo happy @evernote exists! I am flippin’ out.. #soawesome” I immediately replied, “your enthusiasm about life is my favorite.” She wrote back again, “I was recently told I’m a kid in a candy store when it comes to my perspective on life. I love that metaphor ”
I haven’t really been too enthusiastic about my own life lately, but when I see Allyssa’s tweets, I’m too overcome with love to be jealous. After our little interaction, I went about my day.
I’ve been feeling a little aimless, to the point that I actually looked up jobs available at UT. I’m most qualified for graphic design and web development positions, which would very comfortably pay my rent. Then I snapped. The realization occurred to me suddenly, “I CAN NEVER MAKE ANOTHER WEBSITE FOR ANOTHER PERSON UNTIL I GIVE MY ALL TO MY OWN!”
Bam. Enthusiasm, acquired. Target, locked in. Focus, achieved. All from a tiny bit of appreciating someone else.
2. Repeat after me! “I feel good about myself!”
Yesterday I felt shitty. My foot’s been injured, I haven’t been working out, and I’ve been judging myself for my sleeping and eating habits. As Kelly and I meditated, I felt like a washed-up celebrity, thinking “I just want to feel good about myself again!”
We went for a walk, and I remembered that I don’t have to have specific ideas that make me feel good about myself. I can just try to “go general,” by practicing feeling the way I want to feel. When I feel the way I want to feel, the good ideas always come.
So I repeated in my head, over and over, “I feel good about myself!” By the time we arrived at our destination, I was feeling giddy and overall good. I kept the mantra up all last night and this morning, and now I’m attracting actual REASONS to feel good about myself!
How do you feel good about yourself?
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Welcome to Tuesday Tips, my weekly collection of good-feeling thoughts. I am back from vacation and ready to tear it up! For those of you counting, I made it a solid 14 days into my “rehab” before having a drink (or three) last night. Tragic, or magick? Either way, I can’t be bothered to care. Sobriety feels amazing, but arbitrary self-deprivation does not. I will let the flow tell me when to drink from now on.
Onward! Usually I collect my tips throughout the week, snagging a morsel here and there. It drives Kelly crazy when I get up right as we’re falling asleep and say, “I have to write something down!” The past two weeks I’ve made zero notes, instead opting to “channel” the tips below when inspiration struck.
I’ve found that if I trust myself, the words come naturally when I need them. So here’s to no more note-taking—three cheers to the flow!
1. Shut up and let the flow do the talking.
You don’t have to plan anything. You can channel all the answers in the moment that you need them. If you can stop worrying and thinking long enough to let the flow speak through you, you’ll find all the answers within. Try it with stream of consciousness writing, or record yourself speaking on video. These tips were channeled and I think they’re just swell.
2. Let go. Let go. Let go.
Whatever you’re resisting, go with it. If someone is bugging you to do something, say yes. Anything that keeps popping up that you keep resisting, you’re going to have to flow with it eventually. Be like water and go with the flow. It’s so much less stressful.
For example, we owe someone a chunk of change for various vacation-related expenses. Kelly keeps trying to get me to pay a larger amount than I want to, and I get so pissed when she tries to convince me. Finally I agreed, deciding that letting go feels better than fighting over money. I suppose this is me learning to be less greedy and selfish.
3. Quiet on the set.
According to the book Die to Live, the point of meditation is to eventually get to a stage (pun intended) where you feel like you’re watching yourself as you would watch an actress in a movie. You are separate from your ego and your daily routine, and instead you are the observer who sees and knows the big picture of the film. You aren’t afraid for the characters, only interested in how things will play out. And in this movie, there’s always a happy ending.
I feel the best when I’m being silly. Feeling silly is the best feeling. This Rumi quote inspires me to feel that way more and more:
Forget safety. Live where you fear to live. Be notorious! Destroy your reputation. You have tried prudent planning for long enough. From now on be mad!
5. Fuck it.
Have sex. Drink a drink. Don’t worry about one thing, because the universe is taking care of all your problems today. Wayne Dyer told me so:
This is God.
I will be handling
All of your
I will not need
Your help, so have
A miraculous day.
6. Watch my daily meditations.
Recording these makes me feel so much better that I had to make one on my off day too. Enjoy!
Breathe in and raise your vibration!
Breathe out and release your resistance.
Breathe in and raise your vibration!
Breathe out and release your resistance.
Trust the flow. Trust that you’re in the right place at the right time. Trust that the words will come to you. Trust that the actions will come to you. Trust that when you need it, it will be there.
Breathe in and let it flow!
Breathe out and smile.
It’s all right in front of you. You can see it in the moment. Whatever you need right now, it’s right there in front of you. It’s right in front of you. It’s already in your mind. You know at every moment what you need, what to do, what to think.
Breathe in and trust.
Breathe out and relax.
Empty your mind and you’ll find the answers there.
Breathe in and let it come to you!
Breathe out and trust that god will solve your problems today.
You don’t have to lift a finger. All you have to do is enjoy this day. That’s the only thing on your to do list. If you take the time to enjoy your day, you’ll be inspired to the actions you need to take. It’s all coming. Quiet your mind, and you’ll hear the answers.
Breathe in and smile!
Breathe out and have confidence that the strength that you want is already there.
Trust. Let it come to you. The answers are already there.
Breathe in and let the flow through you.
Breathe out and center yourself.
You’re already there. You’re already there. You’re already there.
Breathe in and trust this is the right place at the right time.
Breathe out and congratulate yourself. You’ve come so far!
Everything you want, you already have. You can let go of it all now. You can let go. You can trust the flow.
Breathe in and celebrate!
Breathe out and feel relief. It doesn’t matter! You can stop caring now!
Just be here and enjoy the trip. It’s all here for you. It’s all coming to you. It’s all coming through you.
Breathe in and be at peace.
Breathe out and know it’s all working out for you.
Whatever you need will be there when you need it. Whatever you want, you already have. God’s taking care of everything today. Just sit back, relax and enjoy it!
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Welcome to Tuesday Tips, a weekly gathering of positive thoughts for your collection. This week I have some notable quotables helping me keep my head above water. I may have jumped in the deep end, but I’m getting a great swimming lesson!
1. “I dont do a post now unless I’m worried about what people will think about me.”
Advice from James Altucher to Kamal Ravikant in Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It. Lately every time I post another article before telling Kelly, she gasps. She’s all, “Omg, what did you do now?!” That’s how I know I’m getting better at writing.
2. “I know attention creates, so my #1 intention is to pay attention to what I want more of.” ~ Kelly Cree
Your most valuable resource isn’t money, it’s your attention. When you PAY attention, you’re giving value to. You’re literally investing in it, making it part of your portfolio. If you want stock in it, keep thinking about it. Otherwise think about something else. From now on, I will only give my attention to funny jokes, cute animals, pretty girls, and cold hard cash.
3. Instead of thinking, say a mantra to yourself over and over and over.
Using a mantra creates a channel in your mind for the rest of your thoughts to follow. Try one of these:
- It’s working!
- I live the magick life.
- I have plenty.
- I know I’m free.
- I love and accept myself exactly the way I am.
- I love my now exactly the way it is.
- I love myself.
4. “Even as the stone of the fruit must break, that its heart may stand in the sun, so must you know pain.” ~ Kahlil Gibran
Your incredible pain is creating incredible joy. It’s all part of the process. Now click the link to read the rest of that poem because it will make your day!
5. “Everything happens for me, not to me.” ~ Byron Katie
Enjoy the contrast—that’s how you get out of it. Only contrast helps you know what you want! It’s pulling your desires through you. Bless the contrast you experience, because it’s creating the solution you desire. Every single time I remember, “Oh yeah, I’m supposed to like the hard times,” I find a way to make peace and the situation resolves itself.
Here’s a great technique: “Try the following exercise first with your eyes open & then repeat it with your eyes closed. Take a deep breath, hold it and notice the sensations as your heart beats three times, relax & breath out — repeat 3X. Breathe in and out slowly to a count of 4, as you do so notice how your body feels — relaxed & warm.”
7. “There is only one question in Life that is truly important: How does what I am doing right now serve the agenda of my Soul?” ~ Neal Donald Walsch
The soul likes laughing and loving and playing, so let’s go!
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Welcome to Tuesday Tips, the ultimate positive thinking resource. This week I’m keeping it simple. The synopsis? Say yes, take risks, you’re already awesome, the money’s on the way, stop thinking, give joy, say I love you, and meditate to find all the answers. Easy!
1. Say yes.
Saying yes has never not worked out in my favor.
2. Take risks.
“If you win, you will be happy; if you lose, you will learn to be wise.” ~ Ryan Plesko
3. Say you’re awesome and you’ll do something awesome.
My 9-year-old friend Janie was going around declaring “I’m awesome!” “Heck yeah you are!” I agreed with her. A few minutes later she organized an enormous DVD collection and cleared out a cubby for me to use as a desk when I’m at her house. It was truly awesome. Not only that, but a couple days earlier her mom had expressed her desire of having her DVD collection organized. Everyone got something they wanted, and Janie continues to be awesome.
4. Think of money as a girl.
If you’re good at relationships, you can apply what you know to money. Don’t chase it! Let it come to you!
5. Change your perspective on wealth.
“Wealth consists not in having great possessions, but in having few wants.” ~ Epictetus
6. If you can’t think something nice, don’t think anything at all.
Count in your head, meditate, or go to sleep.
7. Make your mission to GIVE joy.
Brian Johnson advises, “Imagine a life in which we seek to GIVE joy. A life in which we enter relationships to GIVE joy. A life in which we work to GIVE joy.”
8. Just say I love you.
Even if it’s just in your head. Say it to everything! It’ll kill you to do it to the stuff you don’t like, but if you can love what you don’t like, nothing can ever hurt you! And say I love you to all the unsung heroes in your reality: your dashboard widgets, your floorboards, your printer, your bed. The texture of your walls, the used napkin from lunch, your cat purring. All of it wants love, and you have an infinite supply.
9. Meditate, then ask your creative self for a solution.
Jon Ray reminded me of this one. David Lynch does this too. Quiet your mind and ask for the solution to come to you. As soon as you relax, it’ll be right in front of you.
What’s got you fired up?
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Welcome to Tuesday Tips, a weekly guide to living the magick life. Take a deep breath and let go of your worries, because every little thing is going to be all right. Trust that the universe is on your side and it is!
1. Notice miracles.
Jamie Windsong Kasper posts on Facebook, “My world is filled with miracles. I think all of our lives are it is just a matter of us taking notice. And miracles, they like to be appreciated like every being on the planet.” The whole idea of appreciating miracles as beings makes my heart swell!
2. Rewrite your about page.
I recommend doing this as often as you can. Laura Roeder suggested in her weekly newsletter The Dash, “Write a letter to your ideal customer. Tell them what you want them to know about you, and your business. Tell them how excited you are about helping them, and what inspired you to start the business.” Gala Darling also has some excellent ideas for keeping your brand fresh in Get It, Girl: 10 Ways To Make The Most Of Any Workshop Or Event!
3. The words “I am” matter A LOT!
Oprah gets it! Check out this video on her favorite philosophy, “You become what you believe.” Try it yourself—fill in the blank with whatever you want to be true: “I am __________.” Make that your mantra of the day and watch it materialize. In the video Oprah quotes Pastor Joel Osteen: “Whatever follows ‘I am’ is going to come looking for you.” DEEP. (And much thanks to Aislinn in the School of Life Design group for pointing out this gem!)
4. Laugh for no reason!
This feels incredible! You’ll also feel extremely silly at first, but IT WORKS! Try it, I promise you’ll love it.
5. Release your stress.
In The Power of Now, Eckart Tolle teaches us, “Stress is caused by being ‘here’ but wanting to be ‘there,’ or being in the present but wanting to be in the future.” Do whatever you can to be happy exactly where you are and you’ll feel less and less stressed. Try the mantra, “I’m so happy with what I have” or “It’s already the way I want it to be” or “I’m at peace with what is.”
6. Become what you want, right now.
Fill in the blank with whatever you want: I am ______________.
And then LAUGH!!!!
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Welcome to Tuesday Tips, the weekly guide to practicing positive thinking. As I continue upon my journey of life, I find myself going through the same process for every desire I birth. I want something so desperately, and keep it away from myself for what feels like eons. Then, as I find a new desire to focus upon and stop caring about the old one so much, the old desire manifests and I feel silly for ever doubting that it would one day be mine. The moral of the story: no matter what it is, trust it’s coming your way! Trust life. It made you, it sustains you, and it’s helping you thrive, right now.
1. Laugh with your friends.
Spending time with the people you love is one of the best ways to get in a good mood. When you leave their company, high on giggles, you’ll head back to your work with unprecedented fervor. What would have taken you all day now takes you 30 minutes, because you’re in such a good mood that you zip from solution to solution.
2. If you’re an entrepreneur, read this.
I met Laura Roeder when we both lived in Chicago. She has always been an inspiration to me, because she’s so smart about business and knew from early on that trading her time for money just wasn’t going to cut it. This interview with Laura on Entrepreneur On Fire really sheds a lot of light on her business model, and gave me so much inspiration! If you’re interested in a subscription-based business model or in selling information products, this interview is a great read.
3. Try this mantra: “I’m the creator. It’s already the way I want it to be.”
If you can get yourself to believe this, you’ll basically have the key to it all.
During this one track 6 (Going Wrong by Armin Van Buuren to be exact) in RPM (a cycle class), our instructor Kristy always says “When everything’s going wrong, that’s when you know it’s going right. Trust.” The universe is always on your side!
5. Positive thinkers teach you to not get upset about negative experiences, but don’t get too attached to the positive ones either.
Understand that a lot of your contrast (negative emotion) is guilt because you feel responsible for keeping things as good as they are. You get attached to how good they are and want to “keep thinking positively” about these subjects so you don’t lose them. But you have to trust that they will stay there if they’re meant to be. You can appreciate them as much as possible and that will actually do something GOOD for your reality, whereas worrying about losing the positive aspects of your life will literally wear them away.
6. “Magic isn’t conjured by the mind, it’s conjured by emotion.”
Who knew you could learn so much from TV? This was spoken in the show “Once Upon A Time” and it pretty much nails the process of “creating your own reality.” You can’t think your way into making things work out for you. You can only feel the way you want to feel now, and let life work out the details.
7. Practice the feeling of what it will feel like to have what you want.
When you have a point of contrast that you can’t seem to get over, try picturing what you’ll say when it finally is over. You’ll be sitting around with your partner or friend, and you’ll say, “Remember when I used to care about that one thing? How silly! Now I have that solution in spades!” Here’s another way to look at it:
Picture what you want in your mind and add emotion. Your brain tunes into the energy which resonates with the frequency of what you are picturing. That wave of energy instantly begins coming towards you. Let that picture dominate your thoughts and that wave of energy will eventually reach you. Your brain will then convert it into the sights and sounds of your reality. ~ Paradigm Shift
8. “Embrace what you have. It could all change in an instant.”
This one comes from TV too—Spartacus to be exact. When you find yourself trying to fight your way out of your current moment (to get to work, to get home, to meet someone, etc.), take a look around you at the abundance surrounding you right now, that you want so much to leave. Imagine it’s your last time with these people, in this place. Embrace where you are! It’s exactly what you wanted at some point before, and it’s all you need! You’ll always get where you’re going, but can you enjoy where you are?
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Welcome to Tuesday Tips, the juiciest collection of positive thoughts in the galaxy. This week the tips are focused on paying attention to the abundance you already have, and feeling the way you want to feel right now. To sum it all up: notice all the good stuff going on now, and feel as if you have all the good stuff you want. All you have is now, and right now is pretty effing good. Look around at all you have and celebrate! It’s all here for you!
1. Set intentions all day every day.
Kelly always blows my mind with this one. She’ll wake up totally chipper after a long night with very little sleep, and I ask how she does it. She says she just sets an intention the night before to wake up feeling good, and it always works.
3. Try this mantra: “In this moment, I am in acceptance of all my life – its challenges and its joys. I am blessed.”
Think you’ll be happier “if only” you could have that one thing? Tommy Rosen suggests using this mantra to escape the pattern of thinking you’ll be happier in the future by deciding to be happy right now.
4. Think about what you have instead of what you don’t.
You can bring more abundance into your life by focusing on things you already have. Instead of thinking “I don’t have enough time,” think “I have an exciting life.” Or instead of “I don’t have enough money” try “I have the rent paid and food in the fridge.” I used to wake up feeling dread because of all the things I wanted but didn’t have, but now I wake up thinking “I have…” and fill in the blank over and over. This morning I found a dirty spoon in the sink and instead of thinking “I don’t have a clean kitchen,” I thought, “I have a spoon!” which made me feel ridiculously giddy!
5. Count through the pain.
I post about this tip all the time, but here is someone else’s experience with counting:
I was thinking about this sort of ‘everyday meditation’ recently during a really long tattoo session. It was on a very sensitive area and by hour 5 the pain was crazy, but it was also combined with the boredom of lying on a bench motionless for that long. But, it was the absolute perfect environment to meditate.. Nothing else distracting me except the pain, and then I had the choice to feel the full extent of the pain, or, do consciousness experiments to see the best way to ‘let go of my body’. To be honest I’ve tried counting before with moderate interest, but this time it was PERFECT. I counted for hours, following the stream. It became almost like a lucid dream, that half-awake half-asleep stage where you just surrender. The pain subsided dramatically. ~ Ariane
6. Say I love you.
I often talk about saying I love you in my daily meditations, and here is JeredtheShy’s experience with the practice:
So I’ve been using these lessons. I’m on the job saying ridiculous things to myself. “I love you, these dishes. I love you, obnoxious coworker.” And so on. It WORKS. I spent a couple weeks saying “I love you” to basically everything that sucked, and my life was better. But then, after doing it under duress, I did that to things I actually LIKED. Oh, baby, turbo happy times. ~ JeredtheShy
7. Practice the feeling.
If you can feel as if you have what you want, it’s already yours. Think about what you want, then imagine yourself receiving it. Feel what it will actually feel like to receive it. Anytime you think of the desire again, just remember that feeling. That feeling is how you send a clear, strong signal attracting what you want.
8. Make your goal to enjoy being.
If you can learn to just enjoy the fact that you’re alive, nothing will ever phase you. Look around… we live in a miracle! No matter what happens, you’re still breathing. And that’s the only thing you need to enjoy life.
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Welcome to Tuesday Tips, a weekly collection of thoughts that feel good to think. Today is the most special of Tuesday Tips, because it’s MY BIRTHDAY! I am using this edition to thank and honor myself for walking the walk, and to give myself the only gift I want: self-love!
1. “When you want to quit, that’s when it’s most meaningful.”
Kristy said this to our RPM class the other day. Dear Jessica, thank you for never giving up! Your dedication to doing the work you know you were born to do is inspiring. Even though you often want to throw in the towel and never think another positive thought ever again, you persevere. You always keep going.
2. Count to 10,000 a day.
Philip Rosedale, creator of Second Life, counts to 10,000 every day as part of his meditation practice. Dear Jessica, thank you for taking the time to learn new ways to release resistance and enjoy life. Your experience with silent counting has given you access to the deep ocean of peace within you, and helps you control your anger. Your reality thanks you!
Don’t wait until you’re in a contrasting moment to decide what you want. Before entering any new scene, take a moment to declare what you want to get out of the situation. You can’t get what you want if you don’t know what it is. Dear Jessica, thank you for taking time each day to set intentions and ponder what you want. Your deliberate creation makes for a more joyful life experience for you and everyone who comes in contact with you. Your desires are flowing to you more easily than ever.
4. Raise other people’s vibration.
Eirini has a mission: to make people feel good! Uplifting others always feels good, and in turn they will uplift you. Dear Jessica, thank you for doing everything you do to share your journey. Your openness and your positive thoughts do a world of wonder for all the lives you touch. Your School of Life Design group is a beautiful example of people uplifting each other.
5. Don’t be bored!
There’s an awesome article on the Happiness Project about ways to combat boredom. My favorite one is to add “meditation” to every boring activity. The dish-washing meditation. The exercise meditation. The commute meditation. Dear Jessica, thank you for always making the best of mundane activities. You never get frustrated waiting in line. Your patience is as deep as the ocean.
6. Let go of your fear.
Ernest Holmes says, “Fear brings failure; faith brings success. It’s just that simple.” Since fear is just excitement with the brakes on, try using this mantra: “I’m so excited!” Dear Jessica, thank you for being brave and always facing your fears. You are a risk-taker to the core, and you always reap great rewards in exchange.
7. Try this mantra “I’m the shit!”
An alternative version I heard from my friend Baby Badger is “I accept myself unconditionally right now.” Dear Jessica, every day your confidence grows more and more. Your efforts to be your reason for feeling good are paying off. You are the best version of yourself you can be. You are perfect in every way, and you’re doing everything right. Plus, you’re a badass life designer on the leading edge of thought. You ARE the shit.
8. Use Twitter to let go.
I love this tweet from KristyDiann: “Time to let it go to the #universe. #release #breathe #thiswillpass” Dear Jessica, you are becoming a pro at letting go. You’re attracting solutions from others and getting better and better at the game. Your creative methods make learning to live in the flow exciting.
9. Breathe for affluence.
Satya Colombo’s method for increasing affluence in his life is a simple breathing exercise. How much more time would you devote to your breath if you knew it would create wealth and health? Dear Jessica, over the past year you have become aware of your breath and have noticed significant benefits from deep breathing. Keep up the good work! Breath is the simplest tool you have to work with, and it will always help you. The more you breathe, the more you see affluence in every area of your life.
10. Try this mantra: “I’m here.”
You already know being present is pretty much the key to everything. When you’re present, there is no pain. When you’re present, you get to experience the miracle of life without judging it. Saying “I’m here” to yourself can snap you back into the moment, where all of your power lies. Dear Jessica, every day you become more and more powerful because you are in the Now more and more. All of your efforts, techniques and trials add up to increasing awareness with each passing minute. You are all that you can be, right now. You are perfect as you are, right now. You are in the right place at the right time. You’re here. And we’re all so happy you are!
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Welcome to Tuesday Tips, a weekly collection of ways to practice positive thinking. This week the tips challenge you to advance your life design practice to new levels. Learn how to channel with automatic writing, why positive thought is better than no thought at all, and how to send a clear strong signal that will reflect back to you the experiences you desire.
1. Get your PayPal account sitting right!
Expecting a huge increase in your PayPal sales? Sometimes your account can get frozen when you make more money than usual. Read this post for suggestions on how to deal with your increase in abundance and keep your assets liquid!
2. Try automatic writing.
Jon Ray posted a fantastic article on his experiment with automatic writing. Ask yourself a question, then close your eyes and type whatever comes to mind. Eirini Haritou wrote about it too: “The answers you’re looking for are inside of you!”
3. Decide what you want, then look for it.
My oracle wife gives the best advice. It really can’t get any simpler.
What do you do when you feel relief? You laugh! What do you do when you come across a brilliant idea that you know will change the world? YOU LAUGH LIKE A MANIAC. I suspect there is a direct correlation between solutions and laughter, so just aim to laugh a lot and the solutions will pour right on in.
5. Step forward into growth.
Abraham Maslow says that in every moment you have the choice to step forward into growth, or back into safety. You get to make this choice thousands of times a day. By the end of your day, have you made more steps into growth, or stepped back more into safety? Make the choice to step forward into growth, no matter how scary it seems. Use your fear for fuel—it’s pointing you in the right direction!
6. Chill out by picturing yourself at age 110.
You are one hundred and ten years old. A time machine has just been invented, and you are selected as one of the first people to use it. The inventor, a scientist from NASA, tells you that you will be transported back to the day when, as it happens, you first read Happier. You, with the wisdom of having lived and experienced life, have fifteen minutes to spend with your younger and less experienced self. What do you say when you meet? What advice do you give yourself? ~ Tal Ben-Shahar from Happier
7. Literally take things off your hands.
Kelly had a splinter. I wanted to help her with it. She told me not to worry about it, but I kept pushing. My friend Janie told me to let it go and “take it off my hands”. She had me hold my hands up, placed hers against mine, then pulled hers away, saying “There, now it’s off your hands!” The physical visualization helped me truly let go!
8. Try this mantra again: “I DON’T CARE!”
Every time I experience extreme contrast, I reach a point where I have to stop caring or I’ll simply combust. Saying “I don’t care!” over and over to myself any time I feel a negative emotion helps me let go SO EASILY. It’s working even better than counting—meaning it helps me let go of negative thoughts quickly. Just say “I don’t care” and tune out that negativity like a song you don’t like.
9. Positive thought is better than no thought.
The following is a conversation between Abraham and a guest at a workshop in Washington, DC on 10/18/03 (found through TheAbeList). It answers so many questions for me.
Abraham: “No thought” is not better than pure positive thought.
Guest: I’ve never heard that before! WOW! Thank you… If I wanted to channel you, wouldn’t I need to be a place of no thought?
Abraham: You’d need to be in a place of receptivity, but appreciation is as receptive as it gets. Love is as receptive as it gets.
What you gotta realize is that at your highest, tapped in, tuned in state, there IS thought, but it’s really, really good feeling thought. So rather than trying to be thoughtless try to be good feeling in the thought, good feeling in the thought, good feeling in the thought, good feeling in the thought, good feeling in the thought! That’s what you are reaching for, not thoughtless.
Thoughtlessness releases resistance and the releasing of resistance gives you relief.
10. Want something? Appreciate it, but don’t care if you have it or not.
There is a sweet spot of appreciation without need, that allows what you want to flow to you. For example, I adore cars, and I love driving. I’ve spent all of my adult life appreciating the joys of automobile transportation. At the same time, I’ve always been intrigued by the idea of living a car-less lifestyle. Meaning, I would accept being car-less as a challenge and it wouldn’t bother me too much to be without. The net result? I always have a great car to drive, very few problems, and generally enjoy everything about owning and maintaining a vehicle. Now… if I can only apply this concept to all the other things I want!
11. Accept love from others.
Sometimes people get weirded out when others take interest in them. For example: when people try really hard to be your friend, or if someone gives you lots of attention online. However, if you want to be a leader, you have to be ok with other people being kind of obsessed with you. You have to be ok with people REALLY liking you. Sometimes that can feel uncomfortable, and you have to ask yourself why. Do you feel you don’t deserve such adoration? When people express their love for you, celebrate it! It means you’re projecting a vibration of love!
12. Listen to and trust your reality instead of fighting it.
Neale Donald Walsch reminds us, “Whatever it is that is now presenting itself as part of your creation, own it, claim it, bless it, be thankful for it.” Everything is trying to help you. If reality seems to be getting particularly hard, just trust that you’re in the right place at the right time. Now is the time to ask yourself: do you believe in what you know? You know life is good, and that everything always works out. Take the leap of faith and stop struggling. Life is taking care of you.
13. Keep shining!
You are perfect the way you are! You don’t have to change a thing! If you want to find out what superpowers you already have, create your catalog of meaning.
14. Send a clear, strong signal.
If you want life to reflect what you want, you have to be certain in the signal you’re sending. Kelly says the way to do this is by repeating “It’s working out. It’s working out,” over and over, or “Yes yes yes, thank you thank you thank you.” When you repeat these thoughts to yourself and begin to feel their power, your reality begins reflecting experiences that you want to say “Yes, more please!” and “Thank you!” to.
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Every week, I post a link to the Tips in the School of Life Design Facebook group. Leave a comment on this thread with your favorite tips and share what’s been keeping your vibration high this week.