Summer is the perfect time to put philosophy into practice, especially if you're into the philosophy of doing as little as possible and not giving a fuck. Here are a few ways I'm keeping cool.
1. Keep your job.
The best way to hang onto something is by not being attached to it. Don't care if you keep your job and it will stay nicely attracted to you. Our friend was getting stressed out at work, so she hastily took two days off for an extra long weekend. When she got back, her supervisor offered her a promotion and a raise.
2. Practice taking no action.
Let life bring it to you! For example, say you want a new hat. Instead of going to the store and getting one, see if the universe will bring it to you. Then, if the hat comes and it's not exactly what you wanted, try it anyway. You will probably find the hat is better in ways you couldn't foresee.
3. Stay focused on what you want.
In every moment, you can choose to focus on what you want or what you don't want. If you are crossed with unpleasant circumstances, ask yourself what you would prefer instead. Weird example: I was hanging out with Kelly and some friends in our living room. I looked over and through the window I saw this guy looking in. I mean, he was on the phone and he's a neighbor, but I was creeped out. At the moment I was placing my attention on this dude, my friend says, "You just have to stay focused on what you want." I heard the message from the universe and switched my attention to the thought, "I don't give a fuck about what's going on out there. I'm engaged with and enjoying this conversation." As soon as I forgot about the dude, he left. I looked back towards the window and laughed at how silly life (and I) can be.
4. Refine your message.
I'm not sure how I ended up on Nicola Tweed's email list, but she sent out some great suggestions on focusing your website. Even if you don't have a website, these are great questions to ask about any communication project.
- What is the one thing you want people to know?
- What is the one thing you want people to feel?
- What is the one thing you want people to do?
5. Take heed from the The Tao Of Steve.
Kelly and I have been into Taoism lately, so this movie really resonated in a silly way. The main premise is that if you want to get laid, follow these rules:
- Eliminate desire.
- Be excellent in her/his presence.
- Retreat, because "We pursue that which retreats from us."
6. Be pure awareness.
I made this meditation video that ended up being about addictive thoughts and behaviors. "Becoming pure awareness" is a useful tool I've found for dealing with cravings. When you find yourself wanting something desperately, and in a bad mood because you can't have it, try zooming out and observing yourself. Say in your mind, "Breathe in and be pure awareness. Breathe out and be pure awareness." When you are aware of your thoughts, you are not your thoughts. You can disentangle from obsessive thinking. You can watch your life with amusement like a play. Life gets less scary and more interesting. Under all the layers of personality and preferences and memories, you are pure awareness. You are the universe looking at itself. You are everything, so you lack nothing. You are life itself.
What if we really could be happy with what we have? What if we didn't need to change our bodies, relationships, or bank accounts to feel good about our lives? What if we could just make peace with what is, and see that we already have everything we want? Here are a few ideas for entering that state of mind.
Hungover? Count to 1000. So angry you could hit someone? Count to 100. Want to have a good day? Count to 10,000. One of the reasons silent counting works so well is because it gives me some distance from worries, fears, and overthinking long enough to see I didn't need any of those thoughts in the first place.
2. Act like you're always in a music video.
I am perpetually collecting methods for being present, or "in the Now". Nothing makes me more aware and appreciative of my current reality than listening to some good jams and pretending I'm the star of the video!
3. Try this mantra: "All my wishes are coming true."
Any time either Kelly or I get something we wanted, we exclaim, "All my wishes are coming true!" Notice it, get more of it!
4. Try this mantra: "I've decided to feel good about that. It's working itself out."
Last Friday I got up late. Instead of beating myself up about it, I said to myself, "I've decided to feel good about getting up late. It's working itself out." Then Kelly and I had to rush to get ready for an 8 mile bike ride up north. Kelly asked me if I wanted to meditate before we left, and even though I felt rushed, I decided to sit. I said to myself, "I've decided to feel good about my timing. It's working itself out." By the time we finished meditating, our friend had texted asking if we wanted a ride. On a humid, 90 degree day?! Yes! All our wishes are coming true!
5. Feel your inner body.
Another technique for entering the present moment, "feeling your inner body" is a suggestion I snagged from Eckhart Tolle. The idea is that feeling your inner body helps you sense the infinite energy source from which you come, and it takes your attention away from overthinking.
As I ease through my third decade of being human, I come to realize again and again that the solution is always to meditate. There is no action I can take to make more money or lose weight. But I can sit down to meditate, remember my oneness with life, and know that everything is already perfect and in its place and I don't need to change a thing.
My current mantra/technique for not driving myself crazy is this: to each worry or concern that arises in my mind, I say, "I've decided to feel good about that. It's working itself out." Then once I've run out of worries to pivot from, I come back to the present. I say, "Breathe in and be here now. Breathe out and be here now." I do my best to be present, alert and connected to the Now, where everything is fun and there is nothing to worry about.
I skipped writing Tuesday Tips this week because it felt more like work than art. "Why bother?" I asked myself. "Writing things down just pulls me out of the Now anyway." I asked Kelly what I should do and she said, "There is a time for Tuesday Tips, and there is a time to take a break from Tuesday Tips. Don't do it if you don't want to. I know that soon you'll write them again and tell me how much they help you." I let it go and now here I am, bursting with ideas I have to write down so they can leave my mind for yours. Here are a few illustrations of the laws of the universe I've noticed in my reality the past week.
1. Do you.
I don't really know how one does oneself, but I know it involves standing up for oneself and sometimes saying no. Whenever I try to do things to make other people happy, I get the short end of the stick. Do the things that make you happy, and then it doesn't matter how anyone else feels.
2. Do what you want first.
My friend Jenny has excellent job advice. To the people who get a full time job and think to themselves, "I'll just work this job for a while, then do the things I want." You'll never do the things you want, ever. First, do the things you want, and bank on your job working around it. Then you're always doing what you want and don't feel imprisoned by work.
3. Prepave parties and other group events.
Picture everyone having a good time, feeling joyful, having fun! We're going to a BBQ today and I am imagining hula hooping, grilling, water balloons, and fire. People laughing and laughing. Some sort of game that is so fun to play. Beers and jokes. Feeling welcome. Feeling delighted! (Here's our prepaving worksheet if you want a more structured exercise).
4. Don't worry about it.
Kelly had a dream where she was really pissed off at someone. Her mom said to her, "Don't worry about it." Pretty much the best advice ever, so now whenever one of us brings up a concern, we say to each other, "Don't worry about it."
5. Count silently in your head. Aim for 10,000.
I go back and forth with silent counting. I understand that it's ideal to let thoughts pass by like clouds past a window, but sometimes I get so wrapped up in my thoughts I forget to watch them. Silent counting gives me some breathing room. I still have plenty of thoughts, but instead of going down the whole storyline of each thought, I let it go and go back to counting. Silent counting helps me see that the majority of my thoughts are not important or necessary to think about, and I feel so much less anxiety.
6. Try this mantra: "I don't give a fuck; I love myself."
Last week I had a crappy day. It helped me realize I was caring way too much about what other people think. If I love myself, then it doesn't matter what other people think. Thus, a new mantra was born. I don't care if someone loves me less because I didn't please them. I love me enough for the both of us ♪
7. Make peace with what is.
I went downtown to work out and Kelly stayed home. I figured once I got back, she was going to want to leave right away. I was stressed about having to go out (I know, poor me) and all I wanted to do was stay in and work. I decided to not resist the flow, and just stopped caring about having the time to work. In the big picture, it truly doesn't matter. When I got home, Kelly was all, "Let's get our work done!" I got what I wanted because I stopped caring if I got it.
8. Go more deeply into this moment.
Eckhart Tolle recommends doing this to become more present and less identified with your thoughts. Say to yourself, "Go more deeply into this moment." How? Where? The answers are there when you ask.
9. Be creative.
A couple weeks ago, they painted our entire apartment complex white. They painted white on the brick! They painted the big concrete walls! Distressing at first, but I decided to embrace the change. "Maybe they're priming the surfaces for murals." Then they painted a mural! A tiny example, but it encourages me to dream bigger (there's a worksheet for that!).
10. Relax. Enjoy this moment.
Right now is all there is. You are a perfect dance of awareness! This moment is its own reward.
In case you've been waiting in suspense, I failed my audition to be a kickboxing instructor. The specific feedback was, "technique was weak, no power, movement was not authentic to combat and timing was shaky." I've spent the last week feeling like a weak reject loser, but today I'm feeling better. All day every day I tell others, "Trust the process of life! When bad things happen, it's a solution!" Though I haven't really become a match to the solution yet, I'm trying to take my own advice. Everything happens for a reason, and life has bigger and better things in store for me. Here are some ideas that got me through the week.
1. Practice not doing.
I'm a striver. I set goals, I try, I make effort. I've found the harder I try, the more I push what I want away from me. This week, practice not trying. See if you can let what you want come to you. Take zero action, even when you think you should. Unless wild horses couldn't stop you, chill. See if it is any more satisfying than working your ass off for minimal results.
2. The things we love we have to learn to leave alone.
This idea comes from Change Your Thoughts - Change Your Life: Living the Wisdom of the Tao. This book is so good we had to check it out from the library twice. I can BARELY comprehend how to put this advice into practice, because it is so natural to want to take action involving the things you love. But think of a plant: there is no amount of coaxing or effort you can take to make it grow faster. Sure, you can provide the right conditions, but worrying about a natural process is a waste of time. Think of your life and the things you love as flowers. Just leave them alone to blossom in peace.
3. Let go of any ideas you have about controlling anything or anyone, including yourself.
This is another idea from Change Your Thoughts - Change Your Life: Living the Wisdom of the Tao. Give up trying to control myself?! What music to my ears! My whole life has been a losing battle with self control. Don't eat that! Don't text that person! Don't say that online! CONTROL YOURSELF, JESSICA! Fuck that. No one has any control. Let's embrace it.
4. Try this mantra: "I'm a winner!"
Once I identified that yes, I did actually feel like a loser, I knew I had to switch to the other side of the wave. Even though saying "I'm a winner" feels a little forced, as soon as I thought it, I was able to see evidence that I was successful. The day after I heard news of my epic audition fail, I won $300 in restaurant gift cards. See, I got first place in something!
5. Practice not caring.
Don't you hate it when you care about a specific outcome? You want someone to text you, or you want to get that job you interviewed for, or you want a project to go a certain way. The more attached to the outcome you are, the less likely you are to get it. Try releasing your attachment to the outcome. Attempt to truly not care if that person texts you--because you are your own reason for feeling good. The goal is to feel good regardless of your circumstances, so that no matter what happens, you still have your unshakeable sense of peace and well being.
6. Be conscious of every breath.
Keeping your attention on your breath in every moment keeps your attention on your connection to source. It keeps you from becoming over-identified with your thoughts and losing conscious awareness. When I had this realization as I was riding my bike to the gym, I got kind of pissed. It seems like SO MUCH WORK to be conscious all the time. But then I remembered it's like any good habit--once you get in the flow of it, it almost does itself. It's just starting that's hard. Whatever method you use to maintain presence (i.e., not lost in your thoughts), use it as often as you can--with the goal being always.
7. There's a time for everything, including what you're experiencing today.
One of the techniques Wayne Dyer suggests for freeing yourself from your demanding ego is to practice saying, "There's a time for this." When you hear bad news, think, "There's a time to hear bad news. There's also a time for good news." When you tell yourself there is a time for the bad, you open yourself up to the good. And when something good happens, and you say, "There is a time for this good thing to happen," it also helps you appreciate it more, because you bring awareness to the temporary nature of reality. That good thing will also go away. Celebrate that there is a time for anything at all, because that is the miracle of being human.
8. Be as still as possible.
One of my favorite ideas is, "Be still and know." When you are still, you can become aware of the present moment. Still your body, focus your eyes on a single point, quiet your mind. When you are still, you can know the meaning of life. You can know your source. You may not be able to comprehend it or talk about it, but you can know "it". Whenever life gets you down, be still. The same circumstances getting you down will reveal themselves to be your greatest solution.
Last week I auditioned to be a kickboxing instructor. Preparing for this event was beyond stressful. I have complete confidence in my mind and creativity, and have no problem performing at traditional job interviews. But at this audition, I was putting my physical body up for judgement. Was I slim enough? Did I kick my leg at the right angle? Should I be smiling, or snarling? Despite my worries, I ended up having a great time, and it was way easier than I thought it would be. While I haven't yet heard if I made it or not, I am so proud of myself for trying. Here are a few things that helped me believe in myself, relax and do my best.
1. Put on your sunglasses.
My friends and I were relaxing on a patch of grass on campus. A man came up to us and asked if he could freestyle for us. He requested a word from each of us (twilight, button, and exorcist), then started rapping with them. When his flow stuttered, he paused to put on his sunglasses. "When my eyes are closed, I can see a picture painted by your words. Then the words just flow." Sunglasses are my new favorite creative tool!
2. Try this mantra: "I live this moment fully as it is without needing it to be different."
I found this idea in How to Wake Up: A Buddhist-Inspired Guide to Navigating Joy and Sorrow. Last week, in the days leading up to my audition, an old knee injury started acting up. I spent a lot of time making peace with what was, and this mantra really helped me put things in perspective.
3. Have a knee injury? Check your ego.
According to Louise Hay, knee injuries are related to pride and ego. I had been stressed about how people were going to perceive me at my audition, and knew the injury was directly related to my thoughts about myself. Louise suggests the mantra, "I am flexible and flowing," which helped me release attachment to a specific outcome. Low and behold, the instant my audition was over, my knee felt 100% better.
4. Try this mantra: "I love miracles!"
This past weekend was my friend Emily's birthday, and I really wanted to spend some time with her. But our schedules just weren't going to allow it. I had friends in town, and she was busy with her own celebrations. I let my desire go and trusted I would get to see her eventually. Sunday afternoon, as Kelly and I walked our bikes down Barton Springs Road, we saw Emily and two other friends walking towards us. I SCREAMED with delight. The universe brought us together with zero effort on our part. It was a miracle! Wanting to plant a seed from the experience to grow more like it, I thought, "I love miracles!" The more I placed my focus on the thought, the more miracles I started seeing everywhere.
5. Just have fun!
The day before my audition, I got a Facebook message from one of my instructors at the gym. She wished me luck, and reminded me, "Just have fun!" I remembered that fun was the whole reason I wanted to try out in the first place. Remembering to be light and playful helped me enjoy the experience no matter what the outcome.
6. Try this mantra: "I've decided to feel good about that. It'll work itself out."
So my knee was hurting, I was nervous about transportation to the audition, and my anxiety levels were through the roof. Just in the nick of time, I got a pingback from Jesslyn Littlepage, reminding me of this mantra. Every time I thought of my audition, I said to myself, "I've decided to feel good about my audition. It'll work itself out." Kelly told me to make it into a game. "The less you think about it, the better," she said. And what do you know, it worked itself out.
Neale Donald Walsch suggests, "Choose a State of Being (Happy, Compassionate, Wise, Caring, Creative, Considerate, Forgiving, etc) in advance of each approaching moment." When you set intentions before entering a segment of your life, you're on the lookout for evidence that your intentions are manifesting. What you focus on, expands.
This weekend I'm auditioning to teach Body Combat, a martial-arts-inspired group exercise class. If I pass the audition, I go onto a weekend training. Then I submit a video of myself teaching, and if I pass THAT, then I can start team teaching and subbing classes and eventually the goal is to have my own regular class at the gym. This audition is all I can think about, so that's what the tips are inspired by this week.
1. Even if you might fail, TRY IT!
Kelly and I were greeted by the gym maintenance man as we pulled up on our bikes last Friday. He asked if we were going to class, and said he thought we were instructors. "Not yet!" I said. With enthusiasm he said, "If you don't try, you'll always wonder what would have happened." When I told my first-ever group fitness instructor about my plans to audition, she said, "This will be the best decision of your life!" I mean, right?!
2. Do things for fun.
When I started taking Body Combat at the YMCA, I would just laugh and smile through the whole thing. I could not BELIEVE I was shuffling around a mirrored room punching the air. I felt silly and self conscious, but euphoric and eager to learn. The class is just my jam! It's often the most fun thing I do all week. The people, the energy, the music, the routines--I am hopelessly hooked! Every time I start to stress about my audition, I just remind myself I'm doing it for fun. I'm doing it because I have this unstoppable love for kickboxing set to pop music that brings tears to my eyes. Kelly and I always say to each other, "Les Mills saved my life again." (Les Mills is the company that produces Body Combat.) The group fitness classes we take are what we credit with keeping us healthy, diurnal, and off of drugs.
3. Tell people your dreams. They believe in you and want to help you!
My fitness instructors at the gym are my heroes. These people have wonderful attitudes, inspiring confidence and endless charisma. They are the people helping me become the best version of myself I can be, physically, mentally and spiritually. Magen, Boni and Dee Dee, THANK YOU for your encouragement and support!
4. Believe in yourself.
I could focus on all the things I'm afraid of, or I can emphasize how EXCITED I am, and all the great changes that are happening in my life. I'm getting stronger. I can do legit pushups and Kelly complimented my side kicks. I've been taking Body Combat for about three years, and it's influenced my life in so many ways. I used to not be able to hang our bicycles up, but it was only because I didn't think I could. One day I said to myself, "If I'm going to become a fitness instructor, I have to be able to hang my own bike from a hook on the ceiling." Then one day I tried it, and I could. And now it's easy. I can do it!
5. Don't be attached to a specific outcome.
If I don't pass this audition, I'll just have to ask how I can improve and try again another time. I have to be ok with failing. I have to be ok with people judging me if I fail. I have to trust the flow of life. I have to remember that everything happens in perfect time. "When it is all finished, you will discover it was never random."
6. Be brave.
I am scared to post this! I am so scared to fail! But I have to remember fear is just excitement with the brakes on. While I am pursuing this unexpected passion of mine, I want to share as much of the experience as I can. Blogging is a fine line of divulging personal experiences and sharing life lessons, but nothing helps me make sense of life better. I want to remember my grad school passion of BE TRANSPARENT! WHO NEEDS PRIVACY?! LIFESTREAM EVERYTHING!
Wish me luck! Thanks for the encouragement and support!
I get addicted to the peaks in life. I want EVERY MOMENT to be some sort of exotic, thrilling, heart-pounding excitement. I hate the boring parts. The sadness. The daily irritations. But that's half of life! There will always be contrast. Even during major manifestations, there are plenty of "This is nice but I wish it was _______" moments. So instead of resisting the punches, I want to learn how to like them. Just like lucid dreaming and passive income streams satisfy the doer in me by allowing me to be "productive" even in my sleep, learning to embrace contrast gives my spirit the "learn to be happy for 50% more of your life!" guarantee.
1. Start a blog.
A friend on Facebook tagged me in a post where she listed all the blogs she follows. She mentioned me, "because I started blogging because of her." What an amazing compliment! If anyone else reading wants to give me a compliment, the best way to show your love is by starting your own site! I haven't talked up the School of Life Design lessons in a while, but they still remain true and exciting every time I re-read them. Here is the first lesson, and here is the second, about designing the digital you. One of the best parts of lifestreaming (putting yourself online in any way) is that it helps you see the silver lining of all your experiences. Even when bad things happen, sharing them both "makes light" of them and "brings them to light," helping you laugh and understand more about life.
2. Embrace contrast.
If you think you're having a bad time, sit with it. Observe it. Get curious about it instead of resisting it. When you resist it, you just keep creating more of it. What you focus on, expands. This radical self love blog has a great explanation of what happens when you embrace the lows in life:
When we get real and get honest with ourselves we begin to notice a really magical transformation occur. In the face of accepting whatever experience we are having we set ourselves free from the shackles of fear. As we do this our energy relaxes, we become lighter, and our vibration begins to increase.
3. See the flies in your life as flower petals.
A new friend sent me this short animated film that really shifted my perspective when I needed it. If you need a quick fix for embracing the contrast in your life, watch this.
4. Observe your feelings instead of trying to avoid them.
I try to remind myself of the Buddhist way of "facing, & then separating ourselves from our painful thoughts/beliefs, until they have no control over us," but haven't been very good at it since the first time I attempted it. The first time I tried, I used the mantra, "I'm observing." It helped me become more aware of what I was thinking, but it didn't help me feel any better. Recently I tried the mantra/awareness activator, "I noticed you're feeling _____. That's ok." It has helped me sit with feelings of irritation, boredom, and lethargy much longer than usual. Once I allow myself to feel the emotion, it usually passes right away.
5. Be your own painkiller.
I'm always trying to avoid pain and discomfort. I attempt to cover up my anxiety and unease with alcohol, food, Facebook, etc. A couple days ago I remembered something Eckhart Tolle wrote: "There is no pain in the Now." Using that as my mantra, I can be more present and less frantic about trying to find something to cover up my feelings.
6. Be god instead of play god.
One of the main things people want in life is control. You want to control your weight, your growth, your career, your health, your relationships. What if we could get what we want by letting go of our need to control all those things? What if we let what we want come to us, instead of trying to control the chaos of life? Claudia Altucher's solution is simple: "The question is not so much 'How do I surrender?' But rather: 'Where Am I Playing God? And can I release the need to control?'"
Art by Bridgette Wolleat
You are more amazing than you know. You are god in human form! You have the power to do or be or have ANYTHING. Sometimes our thoughts get in the way of these truths. This week, practice believing in your divinity, and let the miracles unfold.
1. Look great in photos!
As lifestreamers, we want to look great on camera. Check out these posing tips from petapixel.com. My favorite: "Create separation between your limbs from your body," which avoids that smushed-arm-fat look.
2. Say your mantras with enthusiasm!
Sing your truths, because they're true! The more joy you can muster up while repeating your mental programs, the more effective they will be.
3. Believe in yourself!
Kelly mentioned to me that the more she believes in herself, the more fun she has and the more she wants to be out in the world doing things. I adopted the mantra, "I believe in myself," and felt my life instantly transform! I now see how so many of my self-destructive behaviors (e.g., overeating, drinking to excess) come from not believing in myself. Countering the thought of, "I might as well eat this ice cream, because I don't believe I can reach my goals anyway," with "I believe in myself!" gives me a burst of energy and self-control I didn't even know I had!
4. Let yourself feel safe.
This Problogger article on Top Tips to Let Go of Fear suggests that "feeling safe" is the key to success. When you send a signal of fear, others can sense it. Who wants to buy something from someone who is afraid they can't sell it?
5. Be happy to pay.
When you're happy to pay for things, people will be happy to pay you.
6. Be present by keeping your attention off of words.
David Cain at Raptitude has been experimenting with being present by putting words aside and observing everything else. When you're out in the world and hear yourself thinking, say to yourself, "No words," and keep your attention on the current moment. Without the constant chatter in your head, life turns into a playground and gets a lot more interesting.
Welcome to Tuesday Tips, the weekly digest of life design tricks and techniques. All of my suggestions come down to practicing the same idea: don't worry, be happy! As Alan Watts says, "Basically, there is simply nothing to worry about, because you yourself are the eternal energy of the universe."
1. Make art just to make art.
What if you could make any art you wanted, but couldn't share it online? Is it still worth making if you can't get likes and favs on it? Try creating something for the pure pleasure of it. Imagine the act of you making art as a one person show with a one person audience--you.
2. Make your art better.
When I was a kid, I would frequently win the coloring contests at my local grocery store. My secret was simple: just use something a little more creative than crayons. Cotton balls for clouds and bunny tails always seemed to do the trick. When making your own art, ask yourself, "How could I win the coloring contest?" Inspiration will come.
3. Try this mantra: "I love myself, right now."
I made a nice meditation about this one. If you can repeat it over and over eventually you’ll train your mind into manifesting circumstances in which you actually do love yourself right now. It’s really neat!
4. Remember your power. Every thought is a prayer!
If you haven't checked out E-Squared: Nine Do-It-Yourself Energy Experiments That Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality yet, please do! It explains so many concepts of conscious creation with humor and ease. Here's a little testament to the power of your mind: "The only reason Jesus could walk on water was because 100 percent of his thoughts (prayers) believed he could. He had overcome the world's thought system that says Only an idiot would be stupid enough to step out of the boat. There was not one doubt--not a single thought (prayer) in his consciousness that didn't fully believe it."
5. Read David Cain's blog, Raptitude.
I was going to pile a bunch more tips in this edition based on David's articles, but you should really just go read them yourself. First: Why most problems never have to be solved. To summarize: write down each problem as it occurs to you on a post-it. Then go through your post-its at the end of the week and prove to yourself how many things do work themselves out. Then read The First World’s biggest addiction. David explains how every time we reach for coffee or alcohol or food or our phones, "we are training ourselves to be needy and dependent on circumstances." Finally, check out 15 unexpected side-benefits to living in the present moment to convince your mind to try it out, right now.
6. Examine your anxiety.
I came across this tumblr post about the long term effects of anxiety: shortness of breath, rashes, headaches, and fatigue to name a few. I've had all of those symptoms and it suddenly occurred to me that my inexplicable asthma and allergies are likely just caused by anxiety. Again and again I remind myself to relax and stop worrying. Now that I have made the connection between my thoughts and physical symptoms, I can be more conscious of my triggers, and more devoted to chilling the eff out.
7. Find your muse: channel desire into creativity.
You know when you want someone so bad it drives you crazy and you can't think of anything else? You can tap into that energy and use it to drive your creative work. From Think and Grow Rich:
The energy must be transmuted from desire for physical contact, into some other form of desire and action, before it will lift one to the status of a genius...The salesman who knows how to take his mind off the subject of sex, and direct it in sales effort with as much enthusiasm and determination as he would apply to its original purpose, has acquired the art of sex transmutation.
8. If you flow, you're a flower.
I found this gem by Forest Sage in the Universal Geometry Spirit Science video. "If you labor, you are a 'laborer'. If you work on a farm, you are a 'farmer'. And if you flow, you are a 'Flower'." Finally, an answer to, "What do you do?"
9. Be a joy for yourself to watch.
This reality you're seeing is for your eyes only. You are the performer, and you are the audience. Don't let what other people think influence what you do. Just do what delights you, right now. Sing while you do the chores. Type with a flourish. Sit up straight and smile for your camera. The only purpose this moment has is for you to enjoy it. And when you take pleasure in being yourself, others will too.